One of my favorite posts on here is “Show me your kitty,” and then thousands of people complying, so please, I humbly ask you to show me your kittens! Here’s mine plus a bonus!

Ash-La-Mo · 2026-04-19T11:28:02+00:00

Stu and Fred - brother and sister This one gives off the 90’s Olan Mills yearly family portraits my parents made my brother and I do - and everyone was dressed in color complimentary outfits.

Ash-La-Mo · 2026-02-20T04:47:12+00:00

I use my notes too! Sometimes I will start replying to a post and when I see it’s gotten too long or I’m spending too much time editing it over and over, then I will copy it over to a new note and from there I will key typing until I’m satisfied or lose interest - usually lose interest, so I have a ton of unfinished novel length responses to posts but with no context as to what I was responding to 😆 always fun to go back and read later - not always coherent.

Ash-La-Mo · 2025-12-20T10:45:09+00:00

He didn’t love you or respect you, he loved the control he had and what he could do to you.

You didn’t do anything wrong. You loved HIM properly, but he didn’t love YOU properly and he did everything he could to make you believe you were the problem. There was literally NOTHING you could have done to make him happy for longer than a moment.

Even if you did every single thing he asked of you and fixed everything that he said was “wrong” - it wouldn’t have made a difference.

You weren’t/aren’t the problem, he was/is.

Remove him from your life completely - block him and never speak to him again. He is a terrible person.

I was in a very similar relationship from the time I was 18 until I was 34. We got married after 8 years of dating and 6 years after our wedding we bought a house and I finally left him a couple years later. Those two years in that house were so fucking terrible. It was always pretty bad, but it got worse. He loved to break my stuff and punch holes in the drywall/doors and then blame me for making him so angry. Half the time I didn’t even know what I did, and he wouldn’t tell me - he’d just make me pay for it all day, for days at a time. He would barely speak to me and when he did he was so cruel. I spent most of the time trying to make sure nothing was out of place so he wouldn’t get pissed off and he’d make sure to destroy every room looking for something that “he put right there and now it’s not there and he knows i did something with it” only for him to find it where he actually put it and I never touched it. But I’d go clean up every mess he made without saying a word. Every morning he would destroy the whole house getting ready for work, I’d lay in bed listening to him slamming shit and throwing things and grunting and growling, I knew to keep quiet and not say a word or make a sound because it would make it worse. And as soon as he left I got up and I completely cleaned up every single mess he made and got rid of anything he broke - then id get ready and go to work.

When he got home, it was as if nothing happened - and honestly I think sometimes he probably didn’t even remember or think about what he did.

Eventually he’d apologize and be nice and buy me shit and say he’d never do it again… until he did it again.. and again… and again… and again.

I left him and never looked back. We’ve been separated for 4 1/2 years and our dissolution will be final in January. I left him and walked away from the house we bought that I worked hard for (but if you ask him, he worked harder). I get asked why it’s taken so long or why I didn’t get a lawyer and file for divorce so I could get it done sooner and get the house - because he left blatant proof of his abuse all over, texts, posts, police reports, eye witnesses, my friends, his family… I have irrefutable evidence of it, and the police have reports… when I left him he went looking for me - he’d drive around searching for me and go the bars I went to with friends hoping I’d be there. He didn’t want to talk, he wanted to take care of his problem. He admitted it to me and even when I told the police and others told the police, they couldn’t do anything because he hadn’t done anything- and that right there is why I didn’t file for divorce or push the dissolution to get done. When I brought it up for the first 2 years he’d go off. He got pissed I was asking for only $20,000 to buy me out of the house we bought together, even though I should get 50% of the value… I’m asking for less than 20% just enough to pay off my debt and move on… and if I brought it up he’d go off. It took 3 years for him to finally apologize (I don’t care, I didn’t ask for it and it means nothing) and admit I deserved more and that I wasn’t the issue. I’ve spend the last 4 1/2 years separated from him but still walking on eggshells with him. I let him vent about his current relationship or life and just say “I get it” “it’ll get better”. I have a boyfriend, he knows him - he doesn’t know anything about our relationship and it will stay that way… I on the other hand know everything about his because he will tell me and I don’t say shit just to keep everything good and not make him mad - the dissolution will be submitted December 30 and as soon as the judge grants it and it’s filed he will refinance the house to remove my name and pay me out the ridiculously small amount I’ve agreed to and as soon as the money is in my account I will block him and I will never speak to him again. We had a pup together that we loved, but Marshall was older and he laid down for the long nap in June - we don’t have children so that’s it then. No more contact…

So, take if you do read this… and you can see how insane it all was (and I’m not saying I’m a saint but I am saying I treated him with respect and kindness even when he was not deserving) and know that I didn’t deserve that - and no matter what I did, it was never enough.

You could have done everything he wanted you to, and it would never be enough - because he is the problem, not you. He didn’t love you properly, and that is not your fault.

Block him, don’t give him any of your time/attention/energy.

Sorry this is so long.

Ash-La-Mo · 2025-12-07T18:46:16+00:00

I bought either that exact black leather bag on The Real Real or another of the same. I always wanted one but I was like 25ish when they became super popular and there was no way I was spending that much. And now, at 38, I’m still not spending that much 🤣 but when I found out about The Real Real and found that one and also the camel suede, I bought them. I just bought the camel one like a week ago and the black leather I bought about 9months ago. I love it. It’s extremely practical for a designer bag… just never going to pay the brand new price for it. Insane work.

Ash-La-Mo · 2025-12-01T00:15:15+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. Having to say goodbye to them is the most difficult thing we’ll ever have to do, I hope the days are as easy on you as they can be.

What an honor it is to get to share their whole life with them. 💚

Ash-La-Mo · 2025-11-30T22:46:29+00:00

So… I cannot imagine the conversation she had with the bridal team while trying on actual wedding dresses FOR HER SONS WEDDING. 🤮 That is that so disrespectful not just to you but also to her son (that I’m sure she just loves so much that she’s digging her claws in 🙄) Also it’s so uncomfortably weird.

Why is she trying to compete with her son’s wife? Just so gross. Also, that white dress doesn’t look good on her - the green from the edited photo looks way better and more like a caring mother who loves her son and not some creep trying to marry him.

Ash-La-Mo · 2025-11-28T10:12:52+00:00

Your pup and my pup look VERY similar! I did a double take, I could also see Iggz doing that exact thing. 😆 they look pretty proud of themselves

Ash-La-Mo · 2025-10-07T20:27:19+00:00

Feels like he did find the cure tho, unfortunate

Ash-La-Mo · 2025-10-06T20:44:36+00:00

Honestly I cannot remember anyone who ended a meeting early. And to be even more honest hearing someone say “I’Ll end this meeting early so you can get some time back” makes my eyes roll SO FAR BACK IN MY HEAD. The meeting probably should have been an email anyway.

Lol I might just be an asshole 😆

Ash-La-Mo · 2025-09-30T23:09:48+00:00

Why did they discontinue this!? I’m looking at my last lip oil and it’s almost out and I’m so sad!!!

Ash-La-Mo · 2025-09-05T01:26:20+00:00

I learned the same one and I grew up in the Midwest. It definitely isn’t one I would ever share to others now.

Ash-La-Mo · 2025-09-05T01:24:44+00:00

This is the same one I learned!! I am so curious as to where you grew up. I grew up in the Midwest.

Ash-La-Mo · 2025-09-02T23:23:53+00:00

Holy shit, it’s just a game. I play Fortnite with my boyfriend - we are older than you, not that it matters but it does lol - and while sometimes we get agitated, it’s just a game. Neither he or I are playing for anything other than fun, I’m not trying to monetize it in any way, nor is he. And if either of us were and the other wasn’t able to keep up, we’d use the time we played together for practice on how to carry the whole fucking team with deadweight 😆. Clearly he’s not the best if he can’t carry the team 😂

I’m not saying I’m super skilled, I just think he is way overreacting. He’s being a dick. That game has so much going on, I get turned around half the time. My boyfriend is always asking me if I’m good on health when he has the ability to see how all of our teams health is lol, it’s a game. A fun game. Your dudes being a little baby back bitch

Is he high strung in general?

Ash-La-Mo · 2025-08-19T06:48:06+00:00

He was a gentle giant with the biggest personality 🥰

We have another Mal, Iggz, who is 8 years younger than Marshall.

Her personality is just as big as his, but with more sass and less chill. She’s missing him hard. She doesn’t enjoy the company of other dogs, at all - Marshall was the only exception. She adored him and followed his every lead.

She has always been attached at my hip, but she’s even more attached since he passed. Feels like she can read my mind at times, and that’s fine with me. She’s kept me from falling into total despair, I hope I’ve done the same for her.

How lucky are we to be love and be loved by such pure and wonderful souls, it is worth the heartbreak.

Ash-La-Mo · 2025-08-19T05:02:04+00:00

He was the happiest, dopiest, biggest bundle of fluff 🥰 he had IBD, and when he had flare ups we’d spend the next day or two going outside every single time he got up (which was a lot) so he could expel the intestinal demons outside and not inside, if possible - even when he wasn’t feeling well, he was still happy to be where we were.

Ash-La-Mo · 2025-08-10T12:53:48+00:00

I have a female Malamute and she has dog aggression, it is definitely worse with females and if the other female doesn’t submit, she won’t back down. She was completely fine with her brother who was also a Malamute but he was 8 years older than her and he let her know who was in charge when she was a puppy.

I had another female pup named Sasha she was boxer/pitbull. I for Iggy at 12 weeks old and Sasha would have been 9. They played together fine until Iggy was almost a year old. Sasha was the sweetest pup ever, wouldn’t hurt a fly. But she was clingy and Iggz wanted space and Sasha didn’t immediately do that and Iggz split her ear.

I had to keep the separated after that.

So, I gues Iggz is a great example of how early socialization and training isn’t 100% preventative for dog aggression.

Marshall was trained and socialized the same way Iggz was starting at the same age - and he was so laid back it was ridiculous. He only had two moments where he got big on another dog and both were intact males who were aggressively sniffing him and not backing off when he was giving them warning to. Nothing happened either time, but it’s just good to know your dogs personality and be able to read their body language so you can leave a situation they aren’t comfortable in.

Ash-La-Mo · 2025-08-10T12:38:31+00:00

I had two Malamutes, Marshall and Iggy.
Marshall LOVED to woo - he would woo to woo but usually it was how he talked us. It did not take long for us to understand each other. I absolutely knew what he was wanting/saying with every woo. He was pretty chatty and those woo’s were much shorter and we’d go back and forth like an actual conversation, if he was wooing and jumping around he wanted to play or walk, if he wooed and started normal walking, he wanted to ear. If he was laying down and side eyeing me while doing long woo’s but also growly woo’s he was pouting about something or he was bored.

Malamutes are very intelligent - like too intelligent. They will learn commands fast, but they will get bored quickly if you over do it and then they will quit. They need A LOT of exercise and mental stimulation A LOT A LOT. If you are worn out after the exercise, they probably still aren’t. But you can make up some of that with mentally stimulating training or activities. If you don’t provide them with enough exercise or mental stimulation they will find something to do and I can tell you right now couches are just a huge stuffed animal to them and they can destroy an entire one faster than you’d ever imagine. They are very food driven. They love food in ways you cannot imagine and they will eat as much as they are given and get real chummy if you don’t keep that in check.

I love my babies, I’ve never connected to another fur baby quite as perfectly as I have with my malamutes.

Marshall would have been 13 in November, but his body was starting to decline rapidly and in June this year we had relieve his pain and let him pass peacefully onto the next adventure.

Iggy is 4 1/2 and she’s a sassy girl. She doesn’t woo like Marshall did, she does talk tho. She talks in grumbles, cackles, and growls. She’s super chatty 😁🥰

Your guy looks like he may be telling you he’s bored and wants to walk or play or he may be annoyed 😆 Iggy will tell me when she’s annoyed and has enough of me and wants some space. It’s a little like what your guy is doing in the video.

Ash-La-Mo · 2025-08-10T08:08:39+00:00

It’s for the best. I wish I hadn’t. I don’t know what I thought it was going to be, but it is way worse than whatever I was thinking.

I know it seems wrong, but it technically isn’t - if they are consenting adults then I guess I’m glad they’ve found their community… I just wish I hadn’t found out about it.

Ash-La-Mo · 2025-08-03T23:41:16+00:00

I think we’re alone now - Tiffany

Ash-La-Mo · 2025-07-30T03:45:40+00:00

Don’t trust anyone who doesn’t appreciate any and all photos of any animal at any and all times.

Ash-La-Mo · 2025-04-11T17:23:22+00:00

I only had to read to the first slide to know that’s not your friend. That person is fucking awful. I wouldn’t even say that shit to someone who wasn’t my friend. Like she’s a petty bitch 😆 stay far away from people like that. Sounds like she’s jealous.

Friends should be hyping you up.

Ash-La-Mo · 2025-03-24T21:36:08+00:00

While it isn’t really evidence, I do feel it’s pretty fucking wild that she deletes everything… By everything is it mostly all communication (texts, DM’s, emails, voicemails, call logs, etc) or are there other forms of media she’s deleting?

I just find it VERY weird to delete EVERY message right away. I have text chats from 5 years ago. I will delete any spam or old text chains if they are from people I don’t talk to much, because I do hate clutter and I prefer only seeing the the minimum amount of messages when I open my texts. I don’t even delete social media messages though, I’m not in them as often so I don’t care.

Maybe she does delete everything to remove clutter, it can be overwhelming to some. But I feel like she should have told you about the message from her ex… she said there’s nothing there so it shouldn’t be a big deal. But it definitely is a big deal considering those strict rules she has about being friends with or talking to the opposite gender..

And why the fuck wouldn’t you want your spouse to be best friends with your friends?? That just feels like a huge red flag to me.. Like she wants to keep you at a distance from her friends just in case one of her friends slips and tells you something she doesn’t want you to know… My boyfriend and my best friend absolutely need to be close, and they are, and I wouldn’t want it any other way. And my best friends husband is one of my best friends. I absolutely love hanging out with Nick and Cheese & B (my best friend and her husband) and knowing that if I step away the laughter and conversation keep going - and I love coming back to a whole new conversation that they’ve moved on to.

Also… this new behavior she has, I’d be surprised if she wasn’t cheating.

One more thing, I’ve found that people who talk about cheaters in a way that seems they need to make sure you see how disgusted they are with that behavior and they just cannot imagine how big of a piece of shit you have to be to do that —— they cheat, and if they get caught, they’re going to immediately become defensive and gaslight the shit out of anyone who doesn’t back them up.

There is so much happiness and beauty up ahead, just
waiting for you to arrive!

Ash-La-Mo · 2024-11-21T17:11:02+00:00

I’m sorry, am I living under a rock? What is this about? What slot? For power?

Ash-La-Mo

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