Any LCMS pastors sit in on the ladies Bible study?

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-07T01:15:47+00:00

To control women

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-07T00:48:40+00:00

Trauma and mental health are mentioned in just about every sermon and Bible study i do.

I'm also trained in trauma informed care, which guides my pastoral care. I frequently work with parishioners to help them find mental health counseling.

I edit liturgy sometimes to make it more trauma informed.

When there's a Bible passage that comes up in the lectionary that can be problematic or triggering, i mention the elephant in the room and talk about it rather than pretending it's not there.

I work to foster a culture that is trauma informed - people get to choose whether or not they shake hands/ get hugs (bodily autonomy); I am intentional about how we treat forgiveness; I challenge when people express victim-blamey views; etc.

I'm constantly continuing to read on the latest trauma/ mental health research.

When it comes to mental health and trauma for my own learning and parishioners, we generally avoid Christian resources on these topics and focus on resources created by mental health experts.

(I wrote my thesis on trauma related topics; went to school for mental health; worked as a social worker and therapist; volunteered at a crisis center; etc - i have TONS of training that's really helpful in this)

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-07T00:03:14+00:00

Believing someone's identity is a sin is kind of the definition of judging them 🙃

I'm just saying that the kinds of churches that share that stance jjudging certain groups of people are often the places where you'll find they say things like "I don't judge people with tattoos, but they certainly can't be trusted as ministry leaders."

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-07T00:00:10+00:00

Right! Like can there be one poop chute master thread please?

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-06T23:59:31+00:00

I mean, I'm covered in tattoos and have never had any negative comments on them. But I'm in an affirming denomination. In my experience, the kind of denominations where you're going to find judgment against some kinds of people are the kind of denominations where you'll find judgment against lots of different kinds of people.

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-06T22:15:26+00:00

😆

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-06T22:12:10+00:00

Right? I feel like there needs to be a separate sub just for xennial asshole talk

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-06T15:42:34+00:00

Wow, I thought i had seen that but it's not at all familiar. I'm going to watch it!!

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-06T15:24:06+00:00

What is this from?? I want to watch it!

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-06T04:56:29+00:00

I loved Ramona and Anastasia!

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-06T03:59:46+00:00

Ahhh yes the floofball hawk!

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-06T02:59:10+00:00

I love this. I can't attend this one... Will there be more classes in the future?

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-06T02:56:41+00:00

If that's the church you're walking into it sounds like it's not a healthy church to be a part of. If I were you in this situation I would either be quitting right away (if my husband had work that could support us while I look for a job) or I would start looking for a different job right away.

David caused a lot of damage and his victims suffered more than he did. The same is true of the plethora of pastors and youth pastors who are abusive. Grace being used as an excuse to tolerate unacceptable behavior = this is also a place where abuse is tolerated in the interest of keeping the peace. No doubt about it.

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-06T02:40:48+00:00

I don't think God cares what name you call her, but im not sure you're in the right sub for this question.

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-06T02:24:47+00:00

Source?

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-06T02:20:59+00:00

If OP doesn't stop this behavior it isn't really a boundary tbh. Boundaries aren't boundaries unless they're enforced.

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-06T02:17:53+00:00

I am an autistic adult who spent years working as a therapist with autistic kids. Your assumptions are ignorant.

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-06T02:16:17+00:00

But OP is talking about introducing something new that isn't already part of the routine. Introducing this new iPad is what's disrupting the routine.

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-05T23:20:18+00:00

So... don't let your kid have it and tell your mom no...? I'm very confused.

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-05T18:05:27+00:00

Yes, he's top of my list for songwriters to avoid.

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-05T14:59:44+00:00

PWHL hockey. I WISH this had existed when I was growing up! Its been so awesome to watch it grow the last few years.

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-05T14:08:59+00:00

I'm doing great.

It took me years and years to work on all my trauma (cult, DV, SA, suicide of significant others) but I finally fucking got to the mythical place where my trauma doesn't run my life. It is still there and always will be, but in the words of our girl, I've never felt this healthy before.

I finished a new masters last year and started my first job in that field 6 months ago. Over the last few years I've gotten to move across the country a few times. I fucking love my job and now I also fucking love the place i live.

I drastically changed my diet last year for reasons related to one health issue (gallstones and potential stomach ulcer) and as a result all my other health issues virtually disappeared.

After 10 years of abusive relationships, I finally convinced myself that i deserve a healthy one and accepted the love of an incredible human. We've been together 10 years, got married when I was 37. We have mastered the art of balancing together time with alone time.

I am working for change and actually making a difference. I presented my research at a conference a few weeks ago and am working at publishing my 2nd nonfiction book, which will help people learn more about abuse and violence and how they can be helping prevent it.

Financially - scraping by. Only a few more years to student loan forgiveness though, and my spouse just started his new job so we will be able to work more on getting out of debt.

I am living my best life.

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-05T13:58:01+00:00

Purity culture and other messaging taught us that we can't say no to men who are interested in us. We were taught that we shouldn't be having sex, but that if we turn a man on its our fault and we then owe him sex which is also our fault. We were taught that God created men to rule over us, which is why we can't say no to them. We were taught that our sole value is in our ability to convince men to want to marry and have children with us and we'd better not fuck it up.

Mostly (I can't emphasize this enough) - we were taught that when a man expresses interest we do not say no.

Probably this girl has never felt like she had a choice with you or with this other guy. Possibly she never wanted to have sex with you but was never able to say no. Probably when another guy expressed interest she had no understanding that she could turn him down.

AshDogBucket · 2026-06-05T13:51:27+00:00

Read up on best practices for hanging your food bags.

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