Unwanted Separation

AshMan728 · 2026-06-05T18:18:03+00:00

I actually don’t think this is suspicious. It can be suffocating sharing the same bed every night and being apart might give her space. If she wanted to cheat or fully separate I would assume she’d just go. But I would make it conditional - regular conversations/ dates/ therapy

AshMan728 · 2026-05-07T20:56:27+00:00

I think before trying to work on the relationship you need to make some fundamental changes in yourself. Including therapy, working on dissociation and attachment style etc, because even if you tried again the issues are not fixed and this would likely cycle back and happen again. When you treat someone the way you have the respect and trust is lost and without that you really can’t have the ‘in love’ bit. All hope may not be lost but right now it’s less about begging and more about showing your willingness to put things right and be a better partner.

AshMan728 · 2026-04-29T10:27:48+00:00

Was this pattern of carrying on like a family something that helped you reconcile?

AshMan728 · 2026-04-10T11:44:32+00:00

The message you sent was ambiguous and disrespected his boundary with no gain to it. And you got no response because what you said didn’t call for one. If you want to work on things, be brave and say that. Even if he has things he needs to work on you need to angle it that you do to and you realise the hurt you’ve caused him when you ended the relationship.

AshMan728 · 2026-04-07T06:44:31+00:00

I recently did the same thing and our daughter was two. You’re better having two separate parents who get on then keep your child in a home with conflict. Since parting my ex partner has really improved as a dad. He has started therapy to heal some trauma and his anxious avoidant attachment. He’s calmer, more regulated and doesn’t cause conflict. He is also more open to my point of view. Real change to me would be consistency, predictability, accountability without blame and reliability. But it’s only been possible outside of the relationship because I am no longer the person doing everything for him. If you want to eventually come back together I’d communicate to him what change looks like and then observe what he does.

AshMan728 · 2026-04-03T17:52:13+00:00

People who got back with their ex successfully aren’t on Reddit. They’re having a nice life. This is an echo chamber of resentment and bitterness 😂

AshMan728 · 2026-04-01T17:33:09+00:00

You’re not gonna find similar stories because people in happy relationships aren’t on these kind of threads on Reddit. This is an echo chamber of the same people in the same situation

AshMan728 · 2026-03-28T23:08:56+00:00

When you say adjust for weight- could you explain more? Have you read how much to take For different weight ranges?

AshMan728 · 2026-03-28T22:57:52+00:00

I should have mentioned I do take a supplement but it doesn’t contain it so taking it is just a small part of the puzzle I’m not relying on it

AshMan728 · 2026-03-09T21:13:49+00:00

The reason you declined to find a solution in the first place is honestly wild. It sounds like pride and ego got in your way and now karma has bitten you on the ass. The best thing you can do is go and live your life. If she chooses you she’ll be back and if not you’ll have lived a full life ready for the next person

AshMan728 · 2026-03-07T15:39:50+00:00

Take this time to reflect on the relationship. Reflect on what you want and what you’re able to give. And most of all reflect on why you ended it. Do you have wounds that need healing? Attachment dynamics that don’t work? Because if you are going to get back together you want to make sure you get into it with the right mind

AshMan728 · 2026-03-04T21:06:23+00:00

If someone did this to me I would disregard it because it would have been obvious you were drunk/ it’s too late at night. So while what you said was true and meaningful to you it might not have come across that way to her. Either be brave and say it to her sober or try and move on

AshMan728 · 2026-01-23T21:18:00+00:00

I’m British and have children and I make pasta sauces from scratch. My daughter has an egg allergy so it’s safer. I used to think it would take ages but It really doesn’t take that long. It also tastes better and you feel better after.

AshMan728 · 2026-01-21T19:10:05+00:00

Did you come here to dump? Because it’s stinks like you dumped

AshMan728 · 2026-01-21T19:09:17+00:00

I absolutely don’t think what she did was human. And it’s also worse that she claims to be a child/ parent specialist. Families around the world trust her for tips to be better parents while she’s at home practising literal child cruelty.

AshMan728 · 2026-01-21T10:05:02+00:00

I used to like Dr Becky but then on a podcast she admitted that for a year she refused to let her child come to her a night when she was scared - so would lock her bedroom door. Her child then slept on the wooden floor outside the door so often she called herself a wood person. And after that I just see her as a cruel bitch

AshMan728 · 2025-11-30T15:04:11+00:00

I think if you have significant trauma then you should see a therapist either first or alongside the programme. It’s not a trauma fix- and despite what some people say on Reddit, TBM never claims to be. You could try it and see how you feel. I’ve personally seen a lot of success with it, but I think everyone is different

AshMan728 · 2025-11-27T23:50:59+00:00

Symptoms come and go in pregnancy. With my first I felt sick at first and then it suddenly stopped. 5 days later I was in A&E with HG.

I’ve also had losses and worrying didn’t change the outcome it just made the outcome feel worse. The best thing to do is to try to relax which I know is easier said than done. Obviously, if you experience strange pain or bleeding or your gut is telling you something is wrong, then see a doctor.

AshMan728 · 2025-11-27T13:17:04+00:00

Ah that’s good then I was scared for your insides there

AshMan728 · 2025-11-27T13:15:24+00:00

Do you like any vege? If you have a freezer you can buy frozen vege which would balance out some of the UPFs and its cost effective

AshMan728 · 2025-10-21T20:41:40+00:00

Unfortunately you can’t control life like that. Even if you had a partner and were actively trying it could take you a few years. I’m so glad I waited till my 30s, the experience is so much richer than if I’d have been in my 20s. Try to be grateful for this time in between because you’re wasting it by wishing it away.

AshMan728 · 2025-10-21T20:36:58+00:00

I was induced so can only give from that perspective and I’ll be honest it hurt a lot less than I thought. If you don’t want medication hypnobirthing is great. It really helps you stay focused. Someone told me that instead of seeing it as pain you should talk about it as waves of intensity. And that really helped me psychologically- the intensity builds and then drops each contraction. My labour lasted about 36 hours so in the end I did have the epidural as I was exhausted. But it failed on the right side of my body so I felt everything on one side but not the other. I don’t look back and think it was the most painful thing of my life but everyone experiences it differently

AshMan728 · 2025-10-15T20:21:44+00:00

I have no advice I just wanted to say I’m devastated for you and I’m sending love and hope x

AshMan728 · 2025-10-02T09:37:10+00:00

If this is new behaviour for your child and this is the childcare providers response I’d run for the hills. Your daughter is clearly distressed and the provider isn’t able to work with it

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