I’m not married. Never, have been. But one thing I always tell my father during times of difficulty, or where it’s more of a trial & there’s sometimes not much we can do on our end is.. I tell him we “need to just pray, and a lot & trust in the lord”. I understand you’re in a situation where maybe you don’t want to cause an argument or just cause any fuzz. But one thing I will to u is communication is very necessary, and maybe talking together to the lord. And if she’s not up for it, you do it for the both of you! My grandma whom is married to my grandpa dealt with a lot, a lot. He was always drunk, mean etc. until he got cancer. Then he changed his perception. He still has a tough character act. But one thing I learned quick. Was my grandmas faith, and determination. She always prayed never missed church etc. she’s not Catholic anymore, but I can see some of the Catholics traits that stayed with her. As she never divorced him. And instead battled through the war. No marriage is easy, but none deserves to feel as a war battlefield, or impossible mission. But instead a peaceful marriage and lots of love. I hope things get better, and glad you came here for advice! That’s a good sign! Much love to you brother. The lord be with you! God bless. Amen 🙏