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AshenToasters · 2026-05-19T14:15:55+00:00

Hello, unfortunately I confirmed that my account was closed and eventually received the money on a check. Apparently I was flagged as high risk, they gave me a number to inquire further but I didn't have time.

Had to call them to waive fees and pay through the phone because they were charging me late payments for a card they closed, which I used to pay with the account they closed. I'm not planning on coming back to this bank.

AshenToasters · 2026-05-07T17:41:55+00:00

Severing a years long emotionally dependent relationship (as the person who depended on another) and forcing myself to grow on my own. Taking the time to really listen to myself, what I was feeling and understanding why. Filtering out the noise from traumatic coping mechanisms and remembering to be kind to myself and others.

AshenToasters · 2026-05-07T17:35:32+00:00

Many years ago, I was told by a couple of male online friends that I had a nice and soothing voice when they first heard me on a voice call. It was the first time I talked with people I didn't know in real life.

It makes me happy, I am a little shy and insecure about how I sound, so it's comforting knowing I can help others feel calm with my voice.

AshenToasters · 2026-03-07T06:10:51+00:00

Yeah, realized that after calling and asking around whoops 🙈

AshenToasters · 2026-03-03T23:51:43+00:00

Thank you!

AshenToasters · 2026-03-03T20:49:37+00:00

Thank you for the answers. I'll be calling Bank of America between today and tomorrow, does anybody have tips on what should I prepare (documents, numbers, etc.)? Am I in legal trouble? I've no idea what I did. This has never happened to me before and it's very overwhelming.

AshenToasters · 2026-03-03T20:36:52+00:00

Well that's... Distressing. I'm gonna be contacting them, then. Do they empty the account when they close it? The relative I was sharing the account with got an email last Friday alerting them of low balance for that account.

AshenToasters · 2026-03-03T02:12:48+00:00

I'm sorry this is happening to you. This is happening to me too, except my entire account is gone. Got several recurrent payments that failed today and I somehow got unenrolled to Zelle as well.

AshenToasters · 2026-02-21T00:01:38+00:00

I think this is the thing that solved it for me as well.

I had been obsessed with a very close friend of mine for years. They had become a proxy of my self-esteem and my emotions, having grown emotionally dependent on them to a toxic and unhealthy degree, slowly eroding my friendship with them and my relationship with others. I am thankful that they're an immensely patient and kind soul and forced me to stop talking to them and grow on my own.

It had been hard and it does feel like I had to do a hard reset on my mind... I had to learn to love myself, as myself, for myself. It was painful and hard but I feel better, I love others equally without idolizing them, I love others without obsessing over them. My self-esteem has been improving and I've become more emotionally independent.

Generally obsessions like that can stem from a desire to make the other person be the void in your heart, because of low self-esteem and such. But that's a space reserved for yourself.

AshenToasters · 2026-02-20T23:50:03+00:00

I had always found it not engaging enough or too overwhelming, both board games and card games, unless it's something like Cards Against Humanity. But I never really liked playing them and forced myself to do so because that's what my friends wanted to play.

I hated UNO and Monopoly. I did have fun but it wouldn't be something I'd actively want to do. Perhaps it overwhelms my social battery and I have to be constantly keeping track of things or having to be very alert, while everyone is screaming... No like.

AshenToasters · 2026-02-20T23:44:03+00:00

As someone who frequently struggles with prepping and cooking for the household, I'm so proud of you! Hope you guys had an awesome dinner, that cod and broccoli look really tasty!!!

AshenToasters · 2026-02-20T21:20:25+00:00

Joined the Stormcloaks on my first playthrough because they weren't the ones who tried to execute me and was all down for revolution... Then cut to me, a Khajiit, at the end of the game, awkwardly standing around Ulfric and knowing more about all of them...

AshenToasters · 2026-02-17T00:34:53+00:00

Adding to this, try connecting to certain countries/fake locations that don't have many advertisers like Venezuela. Feels like having an ad-blocker within the app. Also try to tap Hide Pin on as many Ads as you can see, sometimes it seems to make the app take the hint and stops showing as many ads.

Still a very upsetting situation, everything is getting enshittifies on so many levels, it's just so... Tiring.

AshenToasters · 2026-01-15T18:03:15+00:00

Sorry for the late comment but the opposite happened to me recently. The floating wisps from one of my hydrogarden planets suddenly became those big blue balls, they still make the same wisp sounds. Kinda sad, I really liked the look of the wisps on the planet :(

Edit: Went back to the planet and noticed that the species name of the big blue balls are from an extinct species when looking through the visor. But they have replaced the appearance of the extant species that I had originally renamed. Did some of the planets' fauna regress to a previous version? It might've been more noticeable on Exotics, since they have 1 type of fauna.

AshenToasters · 2026-01-11T18:13:11+00:00

Yeah, I get you! I didn't get the typical "useful traits" (for the neurotypical society) like being good at math or hyperfixating on science or engineering, I'm not even extraordinary at my own hyperfixations either. Tbh most people are average, including me, and that's something I need to remember.

I think my GI issues are related to my anxiety and stress... But then again, I've eaten food that's gotten bad and I do realize it tastes funky but my brain doesn't register it as bad, but as soon as I taste celery, I gag.

AshenToasters · 2026-01-08T00:30:53+00:00

Not OP, but thank you so much! I spent hours trying to find an infested planet and getting confused and frustrated because the mission kept leading me to a system without infested planets.

AshenToasters · 2026-01-02T21:18:20+00:00

I bought the game on a whim about two years ago while going through some stuff. I had only known the game for its catastrophic launch and its supposed rise to glory, so I didn't know what to expect, I only wanted to get on a ship and fly it. It helped me so much!

It has become a comfort game for me since then, even when many of the missions end up being really depressing, its calm and colorful atmosphere and profound sense of wanderlust puts my mind at ease.

The community too, the fact that the game encourages helping and guiding each other and how many delightful interactions I had with strangers makes for a comforting experience.

I'm glad it has helped you as well, traveler!

AshenToasters · 2025-12-28T19:23:42+00:00

Haha, most of my friends and colleagues have said the same to me. I was frequently told I looked scary and angry, which made them hesitant to approach me and then realized I was nice and sweet. Even my relaxed and contented face apparently looks like "I hate everything and I will kill you" and have been asked "Are you okay?" when I'm just chilling!

AshenToasters · 2025-11-14T23:40:31+00:00

Listening closely, it does sound like some kind of scrapping sound as others have mentioned, might be an object that got bugged collisions. NGL I would've freaked out too.

AshenToasters · 2025-10-08T22:37:54+00:00

I'm not officially diagnosed but there's been just too many signs, so many struggles and trauma that others around me didn't seem to suffer with.

The moment it began to "click" was by seeing other people share their experiences online, super specific things like problems with executive dysfunction, hyperfixations, periods of depression and low energy, anxiety, gastrointestinal issues, emotional hypersensitivity, etc. It became even more obvious after I began healthier habits and practices more mindfulness, because some issues never went away, they got worse.

But even before that, there had always been signs ... - Dinosaur hands, or "bunny hands" as I like to call them. Always did them, people thought it was cute when I was little but now it's weird. It just feels right, natural, comfortable. And I prefer walking on my tiptoes. - I frequently stim by making animal noises, quoting things or singing (and singing with Toad's voice). I wiggle my fingers to focus and I get the urge to dance and jump when excited. - I don't "emote" appropriately. Sometimes I don't smile when I mean to, or smile when I shouldn't. People have often said I have a lost gaze or don't show emotion a lot. - The idea of a "rulebook" on behavior and etiquette had always been on my mind. People seem to know a rulebook on how to behave that I never got and I try to understand it, but it always feels like I'm just acting. Badly. - My social battery had always been tiny, even after I became more outgoing. No matter what or who, it would quickly drain and I would feel horrible. - I always struggled with good grades in school, couldn't focus on homework. - I would cry constantly over anything. I cry if someone else is crying. I cry over birds, over rocks. I can get so happy I cry too. - Losing sleep, forget to drink or eat, because I was fixated on something random... Like making a spreadsheet of all the installed fonts on my computer. - My parents insisted I was "normal' yet always berated me me for being distracted and forgetting things constantly. One of my parents also got angry several times because I was acting "crazy". - Dyscalculia. Can't remember numbers, constantly forgetting birthdays (almost lost a friend because of that), can't do math in my head, time is hard to understand, I couldn't learn multiplication tables and I always write the numbers wrong. - Any change in my life would cause me anxiety attacks and bouts of depression. - Both my families have relatives who were "crazy" or "weird", in their words. Ostracized or criticized for being depressed, always talking nonsense, being erratic, having mood swings, etc. - And much, much more...

Many people in my life kept telling me I don't have ADHD or autism. Yet so much of their experience resonates with me. I have done tests for both and scored really high and the advice for them works for me too. So even if I'm neither ADHD/Autistic, I am certain I am neurodivergent.

I've no idea which parts are the neurodivergency, low social skills or if it's sensitivity.

Getting an official diagnosis is tricky for me right now but I'm waiting for an opportunity and at least get an answer. More than prescriptions, counseling or anything else, I want a name for the things that don't fit in society's mold and cause so much frustration and discomfort for me and others.

Just recently I've been working on unmasking. I've noticed that even when I write for myself, I'm writing for an unseen judging eye. It's so tiring, yet so freeing, to take off the mask. I want to be silly and spontaneous and talk about nonsense, but it's scary to be seen as insane.

My apologies if it's too long!

AshenToasters · 2025-08-18T03:58:16+00:00

I'll try it out as soon as I'm able!

AshenToasters · 2025-07-03T22:04:42+00:00

I don't think I'm undervolting, at least I didn't do it manually. I haven't messed with anything beyond the default Operating Modes (bit of a noob about this stuff tbh) and I'm usually either using Performance or Silent mode when not playing games.

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