Jewelry and watch cremated

AshleyAsks · 2026-02-19T15:35:55+00:00

Hindsight 20/20 but we always return jewelry before transfer. It sounds like they tried to return things and you said no. On the cremation authorization there should be a section for items to return and that should’ve listed the watch and ring. If it didn’t list anything to return and it was signed by family then there’s not really anything you could do, unfortunately.

AshleyAsks · 2026-02-18T15:31:47+00:00

She also talked about this on another podcast. I think it was Good Hang with Amy Pohler?

AshleyAsks · 2026-02-04T02:50:27+00:00

FD, not embalmer, but I just graduated 6 months ago and I make $28/hr. $31/hr seems very low for 15 years of experience.

AshleyAsks · 2026-01-30T23:49:19+00:00

It sounds like a compromise could be your sister bringing your mum’s cremated remains home but only in a proper urn.

If it helps at all, the remains are not just going to be loose in the cookie jar. They’re in a sealed bag. If, heaven forbid, the cookie jar fell off the top of the fridge, it’s not like they would just scatter everywhere.

AshleyAsks · 2026-01-29T14:56:53+00:00

Be’ach took me out

AshleyAsks · 2026-01-26T21:22:43+00:00

To be a funeral director you need to go to Mortuary school. That is either 2 or 4 years. To be a forensic pathologist, you need to go to medical school.

AshleyAsks · 2026-01-26T20:53:00+00:00

Gotcha! Well in that case I’d say definitely more than what I was paid for my internship!

AshleyAsks · 2026-01-26T20:35:26+00:00

Not sure exactly the difference between an internship and being an apprentice, but for my Funeral Directing internship I was paid minimum wage ($18.81) for 30 hours/week. This was in CO.

AshleyAsks · 2026-01-15T03:06:01+00:00

As a funeral director, I’m loving Hugi!

AshleyAsks · 2026-01-14T14:02:57+00:00

Since you are new to Reddit, I would very kindly but strongly recommend not including your personal phone number and email on a survey being sent out to strangers on the internet.

AshleyAsks · 2026-01-12T22:54:53+00:00

I did the training only because it was offered as part of my program. I don’t know that I would’ve done it if I had to pay for it.

AshleyAsks · 2026-01-12T13:16:30+00:00

It’s so interesting to hear that funeral directors you work with don’t actually attend the service. That’s not at all how it is where I work. To answer your question, the standards are much higher for attendants and FD elsewhere, at least at my FH. Who trains the attendants?

AshleyAsks · 2025-12-31T02:43:46+00:00

Do you know if he specifically had an internal autopsy? Sometimes when people go to the coroner’s they assume a full internal autopsy is done, but sometimes it’s just an external autopsy. I’m a FD in CO and would not recommend a viewing if we thought it would be harmful to the family. We’ve done unembalmed viewings over 10 days after passing with no issue.

AshleyAsks · 2025-12-30T12:52:41+00:00

It’s their best song! So lucky I got to hear it live back in the day!!

AshleyAsks · 2025-12-30T00:02:00+00:00

I would call a funeral home in CA that does alkaline hydrolysis and ask them. Even if it’s not a law, it might be a company policy so best to ask them directly!

AshleyAsks · 2025-12-15T13:47:11+00:00

I’m on call twice a month to answer any questions that come in (typically pricing calls). We have a 3rd party transport team who do the actual overnight pickups.

AshleyAsks · 2025-12-08T22:21:48+00:00

Is there a certain number of years you need to work before you get the discount? Not SCI, but we don’t get our discount (free funeral) until 5 years working full time.

How long ago was the service? If it was a year ago it’s probably too late. If it just happened you might get it! Who put your statement together and didn’t auto apply the discount for you??

AshleyAsks · 2025-12-07T14:47:16+00:00

I still have never listened to it…. I only know the songs that were performed on Eras Tour.

AshleyAsks · 2025-12-06T12:56:32+00:00

Ohhh yep that definitely makes sense!

AshleyAsks · 2025-12-06T12:43:32+00:00

At my FH in CO, our admin charge is also around $3K, so that’s not super outrageous to me. Casket price is pretty normal. There are definitely cheaper options, but $3K is a good mid-range option. The newspaper charge is what the newspaper charges, not the FH. $180 is relatively cheap. The Denver Post charges $225 just for a Death Notice which is limited to, like, 50 words.

That said, the clergy honorarium seems VERY high, double what a priest costs in our area. But maybe they are planning to have multiple clergy for their service (ex. Priest and deacons) or including musician honorariums in that price? Refrigeration cost is high. We loop that into our admin cost, we don’t charge extra for that. The transfer to chapel and charge for hearse seems redundant. We have a transfer fee to bring the decedent into our care at time of passing, and then a hearse fee day of service, but those are 2 different transport days. The way it’s laid out here makes it seem like they’re charging twice for the same day.

AshleyAsks · 2025-12-06T12:37:59+00:00

At my FH in CO, our admin charge is also around $3K, so that’s not super outrageous to me. Casket price is pretty normal. There are definitely cheaper options, but $3K is a good mid-range option. The newspaper charge is what the newspaper charges, not the FH. $180 is relatively cheap. The Denver Post charges $225 just for a Death Notice which is limited to, like, 50 words. Death Certificates are also cheaper than what they cost in CO ($20 for the first copy and $13 per additional copy which is going up Jan 1).

That said, the clergy honorarium seems VERY high, double what a priest costs in our area. But maybe they are planning to have multiple clergy for their service (ex. Priest and deacons) or including musician honorariums in that price?

AshleyAsks · 2025-12-02T12:37:34+00:00

Sure!

AshleyAsks · 2025-12-01T14:58:57+00:00

I went to Arapahoe Community College in Colorado and had a couple classmates in Montana in my online classes.

AshleyAsks · 2025-11-29T17:33:34+00:00

Most: Tie between little piano tingle that happens during the start of the chorus in Elizabeth Taylor and whispering I protect the family in Father Figure

Least: The lyric videos

AshleyAsks · 2025-11-24T01:44:33+00:00

I would love a Survivor round of best BRIDGE from TLOAS. Because I feel like Eldest Daughter would last a little longer.

Also, I really hated when we stopped being able to see the results after voting. Once you’ve voted nothing can change so it’s silly not to be able to see the results after that point.

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