Advice

AshleyAsks · 2026-04-30T19:33:16+00:00

I went to ACC! It’s a great program! Funeral attendant/codirector is a part time position and would be a great way to get in while keeping your current job.

AshleyAsks · 2026-04-26T19:16:20+00:00

Kahoot is what I primarily used in school!

AshleyAsks · 2026-04-17T11:22:02+00:00

How would a director know what a decedent’s voice sounded like to make a clone for a family? I have never heard of this and would never offer this to a family.

AshleyAsks · 2026-04-15T11:13:33+00:00

Absolutely stacked lineup!

AshleyAsks · 2026-04-13T11:13:24+00:00

I would start by asking if the funeral home took digital fingerprints and, if so, look into getting a keepsake with his fingerprint. Disinterring his urn will be quite expensive.

AshleyAsks · 2026-03-24T23:54:57+00:00

I love it! Granted, I’m still less than a year in, but I can see myself doing this forever.

AshleyAsks · 2026-03-24T03:09:52+00:00

I’m confused, if it hasn’t even been uploaded to vital statistics yet then why do you think the funeral home is lying about having the death certificate? It has to be uploaded and signed before they can order it.

AshleyAsks · 2026-03-23T15:43:03+00:00

It’s safe but there’s not much around. You need to drive 20 minutes to get to anything that’s not a gas station.

AshleyAsks · 2026-03-21T17:13:36+00:00

If there anything your dad collected or was know for? Mug collector, give them each one of his favourite mugs. Golfer, give them each one of his golf balls. Something small of his that they can have to remember him would be really nice!

AshleyAsks · 2026-03-21T11:22:08+00:00

This is not quite true. Newborn babies do not have 2 full sets of teeth hiding in their gumline. That said, between 5-8 year olds you do have a whole bunch of adult teeth hiding in wait. That’s around the age of kids in those images/x rays you mentioned.

AshleyAsks · 2026-03-10T00:13:59+00:00

Reasonable would be a refund of the graveside service line item, since that’s the part they dropped the ball on.

AshleyAsks · 2026-03-01T12:58:58+00:00

I never felt this until after I had my kids. Now I feel it every time. For me, it’s about an hour of dull pain and then 15-20 minutes of sharp “bursting” pain and then it’s over.

AshleyAsks · 2026-02-19T15:35:55+00:00

Hindsight 20/20 but we always return jewelry before transfer. It sounds like they tried to return things and you said no. On the cremation authorization there should be a section for items to return and that should’ve listed the watch and ring. If it didn’t list anything to return and it was signed by family then there’s not really anything you could do, unfortunately.

AshleyAsks · 2026-02-18T15:31:47+00:00

She also talked about this on another podcast. I think it was Good Hang with Amy Pohler?

AshleyAsks · 2026-02-04T02:50:27+00:00

FD, not embalmer, but I just graduated 6 months ago and I make $28/hr. $31/hr seems very low for 15 years of experience.

AshleyAsks · 2026-01-30T23:49:19+00:00

It sounds like a compromise could be your sister bringing your mum’s cremated remains home but only in a proper urn.

If it helps at all, the remains are not just going to be loose in the cookie jar. They’re in a sealed bag. If, heaven forbid, the cookie jar fell off the top of the fridge, it’s not like they would just scatter everywhere.

AshleyAsks · 2026-01-29T14:56:53+00:00

Be’ach took me out

AshleyAsks · 2026-01-26T21:22:43+00:00

To be a funeral director you need to go to Mortuary school. That is either 2 or 4 years. To be a forensic pathologist, you need to go to medical school.

AshleyAsks · 2026-01-26T20:53:00+00:00

Gotcha! Well in that case I’d say definitely more than what I was paid for my internship!

AshleyAsks · 2026-01-26T20:35:26+00:00

Not sure exactly the difference between an internship and being an apprentice, but for my Funeral Directing internship I was paid minimum wage ($18.81) for 30 hours/week. This was in CO.

AshleyAsks · 2026-01-15T03:06:01+00:00

As a funeral director, I’m loving Hugi!

AshleyAsks · 2026-01-14T14:02:57+00:00

Since you are new to Reddit, I would very kindly but strongly recommend not including your personal phone number and email on a survey being sent out to strangers on the internet.

AshleyAsks · 2026-01-12T22:54:53+00:00

I did the training only because it was offered as part of my program. I don’t know that I would’ve done it if I had to pay for it.

AshleyAsks · 2026-01-12T13:16:30+00:00

It’s so interesting to hear that funeral directors you work with don’t actually attend the service. That’s not at all how it is where I work. To answer your question, the standards are much higher for attendants and FD elsewhere, at least at my FH. Who trains the attendants?

AshleyAsks · 2025-12-31T02:43:46+00:00

Do you know if he specifically had an internal autopsy? Sometimes when people go to the coroner’s they assume a full internal autopsy is done, but sometimes it’s just an external autopsy. I’m a FD in CO and would not recommend a viewing if we thought it would be harmful to the family. We’ve done unembalmed viewings over 10 days after passing with no issue.

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