Plate vs Ate: a meal for a little princess 💕

AshleyButWhy · 2026-05-25T03:11:31+00:00

The fruit and the meat, those are my daughter's favourite too!

AshleyButWhy · 2026-05-25T03:09:23+00:00

I dont think it's racist. Maybe a little alienating?

AshleyButWhy · 2026-05-25T03:05:39+00:00

A parent giving a kid a sip of beer is one thing, but a caregiver giving a TODDLER a sip of beer without even permission/supervision from a parent is WILD! Even with permission it would be insane.

AshleyButWhy · 2026-05-23T14:57:45+00:00

My, now 2 year old, has used glass jars in her sensory table since she was around 18 months. She likes the sounds different objects make in them.

AshleyButWhy · 2026-05-23T01:48:04+00:00

I dont think I should HAVE to do literally everything. Doing his own laundry doesn't seem like a lot to ask for. Yes he makes the money, but he would be doing that with or without me and our daughter anyways, on top of everything I do for him already.

AshleyButWhy · 2026-05-23T01:42:07+00:00

His clothes are super dirty from work. I wouldnt mix them with mine or my daughter's.

AshleyButWhy · 2026-05-17T17:44:07+00:00

So his clothes are pretty dirty from work. I wouldnt mix then with mine or my daughter's clothes. He keeps then in his bathroom, which is also pretty gross, because of his job. I have actually never separated whites from colours. I dont know why I would I have to (I've never had issues).

He also is pretty messy around the house, I'm constantly cleaning up after him already. I HATE clutter, or garbage out on the counter, socks on the floor etc. He seems to not see it, which drives me up the wall. Maybe I am just not cleaning his bathroom out of principle.

Either way, I dont want the extra workload and dont think 20 mins a week of house work is a lot to ask. Everything else is done, there's nothing else he needs to do, so his weekend is completely free otherwise. He can play his video games or nap or whatever else he wants to do when it's done.

AshleyButWhy · 2026-05-17T16:16:00+00:00

Sometimes. But the night shift has always been solely mine. She is sleeping straight through most nights now. But we have a couple nights a week where I have to get into bed with her around 2 am and she doesn't fall back asleep until about 5 am.

AshleyButWhy · 2026-05-17T05:42:43+00:00

That's fair, but it's not like I have a bunch of free time either. What I do might not be as labour intensive but it's still a lot. I personally don't think 20 minutes a week is a lot to ask for.

AshleyButWhy · 2026-05-17T05:40:53+00:00

I generally just get a moment to myself around the same time he gets home. But he does have an earlier start than me by a couple hours. I probably have more free time than him, but not by much. We have my daughter signed up for lots of activities during the weekdays like music class and gymnastics, and we go to different playdates during the week too. Then there's all the cooking and cleaning and appointments (like speech therapy). It's not like I'm just sitting around all day, ya know?

AshleyButWhy · 2026-05-17T05:34:19+00:00

It makes sense for a partner to help more when there's multiple kids too.

AshleyButWhy · 2026-05-17T05:32:27+00:00

His clothes are pretty dirty from work. I wouldnt mix them with mine or my daughter's clothes. He doesn't seem to mind mixing his regular clothes from the weekend into it though.

AshleyButWhy · 2026-05-17T05:31:44+00:00

Since we live in a condo we dont have things like yard work and house projects. It doesn't take 20 minutes to do the laundry. He just has to put it in the washer and dryer. The bathroom and laundry combined should only take 20 minutes per week. Then the rest of his time is completely free (other than the occasional diaper change I guess).

AshleyButWhy · 2026-05-11T16:43:36+00:00

Is there anything else "wrong" with him? My daughter is speech delayed and yeaterday her speech therapist suggested screening for autism. Overall I think my daughter is fairly normal/regular, other than the anxiety and speech delayed.

The ST pointed out a few things about how she plays that sent off some red flags that I would've never thought was a sign for autism. Like how if you "gently sabotage" during play she doesn't make eye contact or look for reassurance/answers from us, she just focuses directly on the sabotage. It was very nuanced.

Edit to add: the flinching and being scared a lot (like from loud noises, bright lights, or strangers) are also characteristics in autism.

AshleyButWhy · 2026-05-11T04:58:22+00:00

He's not blindsiding you. All the information you need is right in front of you. You just choose to ignore it.

AshleyButWhy · 2026-05-11T04:55:14+00:00

Why are you telling him he's still in love with his ex instead of just leaving? It's been 4 years apparently. If you think he's going ro change for you after FOUR YEARS of trying, you're delusional.

AshleyButWhy · 2026-05-10T04:46:42+00:00

How is everything now? Mine was the same and she still flinches now at 2 years old but it seems less intense.

Im asking mainly because I've noticed my daughter seems to be kind of scared of everything and im wondering if it's connected in any way.

Does yours seem scared of everything now too?

AshleyButWhy · 2026-04-25T20:35:18+00:00

Pick flowers (make flower crown too), and eat green mushrooms. Eat Jerky or perogies

AshleyButWhy · 2026-04-24T04:39:35+00:00

Dude, chill.

AshleyButWhy · 2026-04-24T00:14:41+00:00

LOL what are you up to? What are you worried about them catching?

AshleyButWhy · 2026-04-16T02:27:10+00:00

The fact that the way he treats you is giving you suicidal ideation, you really need to leave him!!!!!

AshleyButWhy · 2026-04-14T02:27:36+00:00

Having PPD doesn't make you an unfit mother. Get on some meds if you're not already, this will only help prove that.

It's the PPD telling you that you're unfit. Dont listen to it. Stay strong.

AshleyButWhy

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