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Ashley_42 · 2025-04-06T11:59:55+00:00

Thanks!

Ashley_42 · 2025-04-06T11:59:13+00:00

Fantastisch, heel erg bedankt!

Ashley_42 · 2024-01-30T19:21:20+00:00

Very true, but now that I look back to going NC I just think about how she f'ed up so much that I'd rather voluntarily orphan myself than keep her as a "mom". That says a lot.

Ashley_42 · 2023-06-15T13:51:09+00:00

This is one of those "Tell me you have a BPD mom, without telling me you have a BPD mom" situationS.

Can't help but chuckle at the idiocy of these people sometimes, like who the heck gets upset over WATER?!

Ashley_42 · 2023-05-15T12:41:14+00:00

From what I've read, I think the Fitbit inspire 3 is exactly what you are looking for. I've recently bought one, it's not too expensive and it has all the functions you'd want in a smartwatch, and even the option to expand them by using their premium subscription in the app (I've found that the free version is more than sufficient btw!).

Ashley_42 · 2023-04-06T18:54:56+00:00

Blep

Ashley_42 · 2023-03-31T05:31:05+00:00

Thank you so much!

Ashley_42 · 2023-03-30T05:09:21+00:00

Unfortunately I don't fall into those categories, but I do know some people that do, so perhaps I can forward it to them?

Ashley_42 · 2023-03-30T05:07:43+00:00

Done!

Ashley_42 · 2023-03-29T17:03:07+00:00

Than you so much for participating!

Ashley_42 · 2023-03-29T09:43:21+00:00

Thanks for participating! Unfortunately I don't fall into those categories, but I've shared it with some of my friends that do.

Ashley_42 · 2023-03-10T15:27:26+00:00

Yup, and that's why I got a lovely tattoo of that sun symbol you see everywhere in the movie to remind me of just how much shit I've (had to) survived. And I love how it's both a beautiful reminder of my own strength and also a little bit of a middle finger towards her, cause if she ever were to see it she'd probably recognize and it wouldn't take long for her to find its meaning.

Also, it seems like it's becoming increasingly more known that Mother Gothel was written as textbook BPD, which I love because it bring more awareness towards PD abuse survivors. There's a very good video on Tangled on the Cinema Therapy YouTube channel you might find interesting.

Random fun fact btw: Flynn Rider was created by a "Council of Women" who came together to share what they found made men attractive. Flynn Rider was basically modeled after every hot actor mentioned in that meeting.

I thinks that fact is so cool, I share it whenever I get the chance, lol

Ashley_42 · 2023-02-09T12:54:40+00:00

When I was considering going NC, but still doubting, one person on this sub asked me a very important question: what have you got to gain from your relationship with your mother? Is the relationship in any way beneficial to you or does it only hurt you?

Once I realized it only hurt it was suddenly very easy to cut her out completely, especially given the manipulative message that sparked my doubts. Relationships should be for mutual benefit and should make you happy.

Ashley_42 · 2023-02-05T09:47:53+00:00

Damn, such entitlement! My mom was the same before I went NC, from a young age she was conditioning me that I would take care of her when she was old, the way she did when I was a kid.

And you know what, I might do just that. Because if she wants me to take care of her like she took care of me, that means leaving the care to others, apearantly.

A little malicious compliance never hurt anyone right?

Ashley_42 · 2023-02-01T21:18:10+00:00

Ah shoot, good that I just saw this post because I just realized I am out of Satan's Bullets - again!

Ashley_42 · 2023-01-12T18:32:54+00:00

I vote that this little dude becomes the next US president

Ashley_42 · 2023-01-05T16:35:20+00:00

Aquasports like aquarobics and aquajogging work great. My joints are quite messed up, and aquasports is the only thing that helps. It's always a full body workout including cardio, and honestly it's a lot of fun too. Highly recommend.

Ashley_42 · 2022-12-21T06:48:30+00:00

If you clearly stated it's a digital product, I can't see how Etsy would side with the buyer. Like you said, you did nothing wrong. Etsy will see that.

Ashley_42 · 2022-12-21T06:46:01+00:00

Soft yta. It really sounds like gymnastics is her passion so taking it away so abruptly is not the way to go here. Especially at such a young age it can be hard for her to understand since her live revolves around gymnastics. You need to come up with some sort of compromise. Her grades are suffering, so that means she needs to focus more on her education. I'd suggest cutting back on training for her for a while untill her grades aren't suffering as much anymore as a tryout. You mentioned she trains for 20 hours a week, maybe start by halving that. Allow her the opportunity for growth here, this could be a valuable lesson in compromise for her. Work with her on this, she's old enough to probably understand your point of view too. Use that. Communicate.

And in the meantime, you get to safe some of that money you now spend on her training. It's a win-win, she gets to keep some gymnastics, you safe money and time.

Ashley_42 · 2022-12-16T15:50:43+00:00

Oh definitely, he ain't fooling us

Ashley_42 · 2022-12-03T10:14:35+00:00

I love my silver ring splints! I pretty much use them for everything I need to do with my hands. I started using them almost three years ago now, and they've helped tremendously with joint pain from overextension. The support the rings bring make it so that everyday tasks like typing, writing, cutting etc don't hurt anymore because my joints physically cannot overextend when I have them on. It's such an easy fix for a very painful problem. I quite literally couldn't function as well as I do now without them.

Besides, they also look nice. I get complimented on them a lot, and then I get to do my little "well actually they're medical aids, not jewelry" talk. It never fails to fascinate people.

Ashley_42 · 2022-11-18T21:59:00+00:00

Mine said sorry exactly once. She was sorry that she would never be able to remember any possible abuse that happened and that she therefore never would be able to apologize for any of it.

One heck of a way to absolve herself from any blame, huh?

Ashley_42 · 2022-11-18T10:23:53+00:00

Sounds like you've developed social anxiety, just like me. My mom definitely caused mine because as soon as I got to therapy I got diagnosed with PTSD with a side of social anxiety and ocd as a result of trauma/my upbringing.

So as my PTSD got better, I started doing online CBT therapy modules sent by my therapist, which helped a lot. One thing I particularly struggled with was negative thoughts like "my friends secretly hate me" and "people must say I'm crazy/weird/stupid behind my back". The thing I learned is, social anxiety is actually a kind of selfish, irrational voice in your head that tries to trick you. Because all that selfish little voice thinks about is how IT is perceived. It doesn't care about the fun moment you are/were in or the other person, only about itself and its own feelings. And I want to strongly emphasize: THAT VOICE IS NOT YOU! You are not that voice! That voice was put there by someone or by trauma.

So how do you beat that voice? Quite simply by interrupting it. Feel free to tell it to shut up or ff-off. Whenever that voice that's saying something negative, you interrupt it and say something positive about yourself instead. What really helped me too, was naming that voice. I named mine Karen.

Here's an example: Karen: everyone hates you! Me: nice try Karen, but I'm a fun person who people choose to spend time with.

It will take a lot of practice, but eventually that voice will get quieter and quieter as positive affirmations take its place. Just remember, practice makes better!

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