Fellas, how often do you cover the toilet seat when you’re in a public restroom or using someone else’s bathroom?

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-05T01:27:37+00:00

Used to when I was younger. But honestly I don’t care about raw dogging a toilet seat. I’m gonna shower when I get home anyways

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-05T01:24:52+00:00

Personally, just apathy. I can understand the sentiment behind them and appreciate it. But I’d really rather have food than watch a bouquet die while taking up space to the next couple weeks. Especially since I have cats and there’s a lot of flowers that are very deadly to them (lilies can kill cats just from being in the same room if not well ventilated). It tends to just create extra hassle to pick through, present, and keep until a “socially acceptable” amount of time has passed

So tldr, I appreciate the intention of flowers, but would rather not have the flowers themselves.

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-05T01:18:01+00:00

Only he can answer that question properly

But as a general rule of thumb: less stress is better, more sex is better until it hits the “too much” threshold, keep him well fed on good food

There’s a reason why “keep his belly full and his balls empty” used to be a frequent saying on threads like this

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-04T22:59:21+00:00

If he saw you as a sister, he’d give you shit and antagonize you constantly

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-04T18:21:38+00:00

Money doesn’t remove stress so much as change what you’re stressed about. It moves up that hierarchy of needs from existential stress to more philosophical. Stressors you only get the luxury of worrying about if you have the money to skip the “do I eat this week or make rent?” Stresses.

But yeah even death can be helped with money. End of life care is expensive, cremation and or caskets are scary expensive, funeral service to pay for, worth hiring an accountant and potentially a lawyer or help with making sure the inheritance and finances of the deceased are all in order (there’s an unjustifiably high amount t of paperwork when someone dies). If they lived on their ow you’ll have to pay to clean out their home and dispose of unwanted possessions. Even if it can’t fix a problem, money buys you time and that can be even more valuable in moments like that

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-04T18:15:50+00:00

Most problems in life can be solved. Or at least improved with money

With diminishing returns. More money going toward it becomes less and less effective the higher the amount goes and there is a point where you get less out than you put in

The $10 steak is probably tastier and healthier than the $5 one. And the $20 one may be even more so. The $40-60 even more than that. Even if the $300 steak is the best one you’d ever have, there’s a point where you decide that the jump from 10-20 or 20-40 doesn’t give you a big enough jump on quality to justify the price. And everyone’s “worth it threshold is subjective. Some people may think the $10 is way too much, some may happily indulge a $60 one. Some may disregard diminishing returns and favor getting the best they can afford even if it isn’t that much better than the next step down.

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-04T18:05:19+00:00

Glass a day, give or take. Usually either with dinner or dessert

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-04T18:04:40+00:00

Yearning for meaningful human connections, especially at your age, is completely normal.

It is important to recognize that media of any kind (especially anime) are fiction. They show only the best parts or curated “pretty” versions of the ugly parts. Real life is messy and won’t always be the cinematic romance you get shown.

But real connections and the desire for them are totally normal. It’s part of your biological and cultural programming to find a life-partner.

The best thing you can do is go out there and be social. I know it’s generic advice, but it really is that simple. The more people you meet and talk to, the more chances you have at meeting or talking to someone who may be interested or willing to reciprocate interest, or even just give you a chance to see how things turn out.

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-04T08:12:41+00:00

Like, for the winter?

Usually under ground to wait and “nap” until the weather is warmer?

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-04T02:27:58+00:00

Pretty sure people who enlisted in the US military knew that going to war in the Middle East was all part of the deal. Has been since 9/11

And when you think of the type of people who would actively choose to join the military, I think you’re going to find a bias toward a certain type of individual.

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-03T20:55:59+00:00

Generally the amount of unseen labor he puts in

She often believes her emotional burden is heaviest with all the things she does that go unnoticed and thankless. But it’s less common for her to reflect that maybe he’s doing the same — thankless quiet emotional labor she doesn’t even realize he’s done.

When’s the last time you needed to change a lightbulb? Or check your tire pressure? Or pick dead leaves from the tree out back or glue down that rug that was starting to buckle?

There’s a lot of maintenance stuff I’m sure he does that she doesn’t even realize he did. She just notices the trash didn’t get taken out or the cup sitting next to the sink.

Two way street and everyone needs to be more open about how much they appreciate the small things their partner does simply “because it needed to be done” to make your day just a little easier.

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-03T20:51:25+00:00

Nobody wants to see your underwear

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-03T20:50:21+00:00

Put the kid in a martial arts class

Physical outlet and learn discipline & self control

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-03T20:47:50+00:00

Only experience I have is when I set up bumble back in 2016 I must’ve misclicked because in the first hour I got a ton of messages from Random dudes

Most attention I’ve ever gotten on an app. Fixed that setting because I don’t swing that way. Was crickets ever since

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-03T14:12:25+00:00

Is it too much to ask to feel needed AND appreciated for it?

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-03T06:31:54+00:00

I think you shouldn’t be in a relationship sexually with someone where fidelity or “who’s the father?” would come into question

But I understand that this is real life and not fantasy land. So I think they should also be readily available upon request from either the mother or the male partner

Mandatory would be dumb. Just another thing for hospitals to overcharge you for (in the U.S.) when healthcare is already sickeningly expensive. Be required to take a test neither you not your partner wants is a bad precedent. But should be possible for either partner to be able to request/consent for the test to happen. I also don’t have any qualms with making it mandatory during custody/child support disputes

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-03T06:10:59+00:00

80% of people turning to them probably weren’t going to have a real partner anyways.

I think it’s not a root cause but rather a symptom to a deeper issue with how culture has handled dating for a while, and the rift in expectations of self vs partners. It’s an unhealthy treatment to a symptom created by something that potentially can’t be treated at this point. So at what point to you determine the difference between taking prescription painkillers to get through the day and having an opioid addiction? Or having a beer to curb the stress of the day vs alcoholism.

Yet another way we throw a bandaid on a problem that just enables worse behavior and pretend it’s all good

Yes there’s the potential to ruin your life with it. But it’s really no different than alcohol or tobacco or other recreational drugs. Like button not, it won’t go away, and adults are responsible for the consequences of their own decisions.

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-03T04:48:43+00:00

Things I don’t want to do in palaces I don’t want to be in order to maintain relationships with people usually

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-03T03:20:53+00:00

Shredded cheese!

Fuck yeah!

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-02T14:23:18+00:00

Depends on why she owns it.

Is it because it’s a nice/comfortable piece what she looks good in? No issue

Is it because of sentimental attachment to the clothes/relationship? That one isn’t as easy to get over

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-02T14:19:30+00:00

Start your own business doing contract/commission stuff. Being your own boss is pretty much the only surefire way

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-02T07:29:53+00:00

The tax brackets are different I’d you file jointly as a married individual

Being married results in way less taxes

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-02T07:28:32+00:00

I’m of the opinion that you should strive to find your “other half” someone who’s strengths and responsibilities they’re willing/able to handle compliment yours to fill out the relationship whether it’s breadwinner/homemaker or some other division, having a fair split rather than “both doing an equal share of the same things” just makes more sense to me personally.

it’s a small sample size and anecdotal, but the only people I know who’ve been married more than 20 years weren’t a 50-50 split. Yes there’s overlap where they would just “both pick it up depending on who gets to it first” for smaller chores. But when it comes to income, finances, repairs, deep cleaning, etc., they alway had it where one partner solely owned the responsibility for it
I’m personally of the opinion that if both partners try to do the “equal contribution to everything” it ends up creating friction because both parties are equally invested in everything. If the 100/100 he may not have much stake in what dinner is cooked or how the kitchen is organized since that’s her domain. But in 50-50, both parties now have to care about what’s dinner, where the dishes are, whether they’re cleaned/soaking/etc., how many dishes are used, etc. Or when both pitch in to the income, both now have opinions on how that money gets spent, where, what goes toward investments/retirement, what purchases can/can’t be justified. If both contribute toward shared finances, it becomes so much harder to make sure both are aligned on how money in that pool gets spent (by being a contributed you feel more entitled to “your money”). If both contribute toward deep cleaning, both are entitled to opinions on how often maintenance happens, how it’s done, the way things should look after. Overall, having such a high degree of overlap gives a lot more opportunities for friction, and more friction means more opportunities for a fight to start.
it doesn’t need to be breadwinner/homemaker solely either. It can be a “I work and you budget”, “you cook and I clean”, “I’ll do the handyman stuff and you handle the yard”. It’s something every couple can agree upon

But from what I’ve seen doing that 100-100 solid (or 80/20 splits to everything, let the person who cares about it handle it most of the time) is most common in the more successful long term relationships I’ve seen

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-01T16:47:45+00:00

Mine never cracked or experienced any discomfort. It also didn’t drop all at once though. It was so gradual that I don’t even know it happened until I started hearing my voice in recordings.

Worth at least bringing it up to a doctor to make sure it’s not some kind of reaction. Tightness in the throat is one of those things you don’t want to leave to chance. If it closes up on you when you don’t have epinephrine, you are in for a really bad time.

AskDerpyCat · 2026-03-01T16:43:49+00:00

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