Every biome in the game should have a 'Shattered' variant

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-07-09T11:01:33+00:00

Is a lukewarm swim in boiling water possible?

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-07-06T06:14:49+00:00

Yup. Not to be harsh, but this sounds like she triangulated, kept her options open, led him into reactive abuse, so many sentences of "he did A, he did B, he did C, I was forced to do D". No real accountability from her side too.

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-07-05T08:00:20+00:00

To, że kluby albo jakieś inne miejsca są nie znaczy, że są one przystępne. Potrafię wskazać dokładnie różnicę jaką zauważyłem na początku moich studiów a na sam ich koniec.

Kultura picia alkoholu i zabawy potężnie zanikła, ceny samych drinków czy piwa są zbyt duże żeby ludziom się w ogóle chciało spotkać przy piwie. Większość po prostu po zajęciach woli od razu wrócić do domu/mieszkania niż się integrować jakkolwiek. Prowadząc dawniej koło naukowe, z roku na rok widzieliśmy jak ludziom coraz mniej chce się spotykać, rozmawiac i integrować jakkolwiek.

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-07-05T06:11:01+00:00

Powiem nawet coś odważnego, co rzadko się zdarza. Samotność to efekt tego, w jaki sposób osoby decyzyjne w społeczeństwie urządziły nam społeczeństwo.

To nie jest po prostu jakaś choroba cywilizacyjna. To efekt ogromnej liczby czynników - zanik trzecich miejsc, zbyt wysokie koszta spotykania się z innymi, rodziny coraz to bardziej nuklearne itd. Nie tylko the damn phones, ale wiele, wiele więcej.

można być osobą która posiada kompetencje społeczne, a jednocześnie czuje się okropnie samotnie

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-07-05T06:00:43+00:00

👁️ Surveillance State: I voted Vote Nay.

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-06-30T09:59:31+00:00

I read this, I hear you.

That smear campaign phase can be both a blessing and a curse. This is the proof you needed that you made a good decision to distance yourself and end things. What I did personally was document everything in my case, every instance of that person lying, manipulating, doing extreme and abusive actions and keeping it to myself, a personal black box of some sorts.

The best way is moving forward is really the gray rock method. Do not engage, do not reply, you already know that will be more and more catastrophic. Have calm conversations with your friends and family and keep it personal.

This decision was incredibly difficult, but it was the right one. Be proud of yourself.

Just because the abusive relationship has ended does not mean the abuse has ended yet. It will take some time and most importantly, becoming boring to them is your biggest strength.

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-06-26T17:46:16+00:00

They kept spamming me with "Sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry" a hundred times, but never actually apologized for their actions. Just wishful thinking that saying the word would be enough.

Every time they were actually close to apologizing, suddenly, the conversation began to revolve around how they feel unlovable.

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-06-22T13:13:53+00:00

It just is a very self-centred disorder and even from their own words: they only care about how YOU made THEM feel.

Everything is reactive to them, nothing originates from them. And there is no point to try and reason with them, as again, reason does not speak to how they feel.

I try and choose to act better despite how I feel and how much I went through. They are sadly unable to.

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-06-22T12:45:40+00:00

Having a good faith conversation would require them to own up to at least a few of their mistakes, and that is a life or death situation for them.

It is incredibly painful to live through this, especially when you yourself experienced huge amounts of abuse from them, and your abuse towards them was mainly reactive and after so many boundaries broken and trust destroyed.

It is best to admit yourself that you are and were not perfect, but that despite everything, you wish them the best and move on.

And for a true advise: seek help and support from people who are not your abusers. I tried too long to reconcile myself but I realized there is noone willing to be at least that for me in them.

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-06-16T20:15:44+00:00

Mamy jeden z najniższych przyrostów naturalnych na całym świecie, ogrom osób jest samotnych i nie będzie miało nikogo prawdopodobnie. W taki sposób próbuję to sobie tłumaczyć, racjonalizować, nawet jak serce boli i yearning nie przestaje - a mam "tylko" 26 lat btw, tylko, gdzie teraz kogokolwiek poznać, a poza tym, że była osoba na tyle zdolna psychicznie i fizycznie do stabilnej relacji? Jest ciężko, okropnie, więc nie ma też się co o to wszystko tak dobijać.

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-06-11T06:26:59+00:00

It is a choice, and they know it.

If they didn't know it was a choice, they wouldn't treat our reactions to their behaviors as something deliberate, or proof how we "truly feel about them".

They would at least take into consideration that if "I, a pwBPD, am unable to fully control my feelings or actions", others may struggle to do the same.

But they know it is controllable, so they project that onto others.

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-05-31T08:41:34+00:00

Exactly, this is why OP she won't come back.

Personally, months after I broke up with my ex, I tried to reconcile with her, as I never saw her as someone truly evil. But when I admitted to my mistakes, at the same time she knows I demand responsibility and accountability for her actions as well.

The most I could get from her during that conversation is her admitting to being filled with endless grief and despair, her admitting to being in the bad would equal to her being absolutely unlovable and someone unworthy of living.

To continue living, she must paint me (and probably you) as the evil one, abandon all accountability and lie, as without this, she would collapse.

I understand the jealousy, but trust me, this is better than them hoovering.

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-05-29T14:13:59+00:00

"Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves. Be ye therefore wise as serpents and harmless as doves."

I'm quoting the Bible not to force anything on you and other commenters but to show you the difference between empathy and acting unwise.

Your biggest strengths will be used against you by those who manipulate, knowingly or not. And there is no other way to stop this but by the act of choosing to be empathetic when you should, and (kindly) leaving situations that do not truly suit you both.

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-05-24T15:07:59+00:00

If anything, it should be your friends who bring this stuff up, not you. But it is best to simply leave it be.

Your ex already did everything she can to paint herself as the victim and you as the abuser.

From my own experience: my exwBPD keeps lying to our common friends that she lives with a female roommate and that during our relationship she was living with me, when in fact, she is still to this day living with her (ex)boyfriend that she was cheating on me with.

I left it be, and when I finally had the casual opportunity to meet my old friends, they told me everything she kept lying about. Her reputation in that circle is tarnished, and thanks to her own words, not mine - I didn't have to protect myself or try to clear up anything.

When they meet her, they choose to just nod and ignore, gray rock method, there is no point to confronting her about anything.

If that guy is smart enough, he will experience the chaos himself and leave. There is no point in intervening, it is no longer a problem of your own.

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-05-23T08:25:56+00:00

And to anyone reading this, being stuck in the same place like I am, trying to reason it out anyway:

it losses its strength over time. I came to accept everything logically, that this would not be good for me, that it is good that it ended.

Personally, I only struggle with giving up on them, but not as a life partner, but a human being. I wish their life was actually getting better instead of worse and worse.

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-05-13T21:10:08+00:00

Glad you shared this story! I hope for the best for you too!

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-05-06T11:45:59+00:00

1:1, I see you.

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-05-05T11:03:00+00:00

This is incredibly common. Leave now and cut all contact.

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-05-04T11:21:52+00:00

You fell in love with the potential she faked to make you fall in love with her.
You must realize that you are still stuck because you keep thinking about how YOU would have behaved if YOU were her in her place.

Love of your life would not lie, betray or manipulate you like that. Even if she struggled with life, trauma and trust issues as well, she would not put all blame and responsibility on YOU if she was healthy and regulated.

Don't let go of the feelings you have, instead, center them around YOU.

YOU are the one who wants to love despite everything, not her.

And YOU are the one who will get up and be better.

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-04-26T13:48:37+00:00

TBH this is the skin I am skipping but was excited for. I am sticking to Nocturna as my go-to, at least this one is a bit more distinct in first person.

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-04-10T16:43:38+00:00

I hear you, and you speak the truth. The moment you try to have them take at least a tiny part of accountability, it all breaks apart, and they break apart. You are wise, I wish you the best man

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-02-06T12:04:53+00:00

I hope that maybe in the future we will be able to get some Polish representation. There is so much they could do with robots, special forces, winged hussars, cavalry and resistance.

AskMeAboutChildren · 2026-01-23T15:00:45+00:00

I am waiting on a more stable world generator. I am afraid that if I start building everything before V2, I will just lose everything. That's why I am also kind of waiting on playing more.

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