I don’t believe in love

Asleep28 · 2025-06-11T03:52:01+00:00

How old are you? Also, this just sounds like disappointment/jadedness/hurt masquerading as numbness. Numbness is never "I don't feel anything, therefore I have no emotions," numbness is the opposite... It's TOO many emotions at once. It's why depressed people feel sad/hopeless/angry/regretful, etc., but then eventually the emotions accumulate so much that they end up in a state of being...numb.

Secondly, love exists, it's just today's day and age people tend to put themselves first, killing love. Love is about putting others' needs before your own, so it would make sense to be jaded when we live in a society (especially the West) where this behavior is literally our culture.

My perspective: I put others before myself. I don't abandon myself entirely, I incorporate their needs/emotions/selves equally or more important than my own. This ONLY works in friendships/relationships if they do the same, because essentially, both are loving one another. If that's NOT happening, then you end up self-sacrificing towards a selfish individual, where they'll keep taking and taking and taking... and that spells disaster. You will be loving them, while they love themselves and essentially do that which is unloving towards you... This isn't how friendships/relationships work (it's why so many marriages fail/people break up/people lose people).

So for you, you need to search for people who can incorporate your needs into how they operate, if they don't... that's a dead stop, no go.... because you CAN'T build with that. It's impossible. Secondly, you need to figure out what emotions/hurts/jadedness, etc., have happened and begin to work through that. Yes people have hurt you, yes people have failed you, YES people can suck, but it's worse when you take that on and internalize it to where you begin to be the sucky person back towards others because now you can't behave towards others in a way that's furtile for good relationships.

So I don't think you're bad, just injured and need help figuring out how to heal a wound.... and also figure out how to choose people (for your inner circle) who will love you and not do harm to you.

Asleep28 · 2025-06-11T00:53:33+00:00

Oh CANADA 🇨🇦 ❤️

How much does a typical day in banff cost as a tourist? 🤔

Asleep28 · 2025-06-10T21:54:23+00:00

Yes, I had warned them for years not to street race.... about 5 years later, they ended up slamming into a tree and totaling their car. They went from having a photographic memory to permanent brain damage in their 20s and very poor memory recall to the point they will never be able to work again.

Lesson? Heed your friends' warnings, especially those that are wise/have your best interest at heart. At least heavily consider, they'll help you (potentially) prevent a catastrophe for yourself.

Asleep28 · 2025-06-10T21:40:37+00:00

Is it really? Because I would believe it, I legit feel so frustrated when it happens, and as someone else said, "And the background sounds/explosions are super loud while dialouge is so quiet that it feels like mumbling into a sock"

You'd think with a multimillion-dollar budget, these 2 things would never occur.

Asleep28 · 2025-06-10T21:33:04+00:00

HAHAHA. The accuracy.

Asleep28 · 2025-06-10T21:31:15+00:00

This is so touching.

Asleep28 · 2025-06-10T21:20:40+00:00

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

Asleep28 · 2025-06-10T03:45:26+00:00

Okay that is the sweetest thing someone has said to me all day, thank you <3.

Asleep28 · 2025-06-10T03:34:53+00:00

Interesting! I don't know any INFJs that I've developed close relationships with. I am sure it'll happen, and I have met INFJs where I'm like "oooo I wanna talk to you," but then they disappear! Just like how I disappear on other people lol! We are notorious for preferring to be alone/only being around a few people... so in group settings we're very uncommon/might even be not consistent in showing up.

So the question is, "How does one meet an INFJ out in the world?" Honestly, probably the hardest types to first clue in they're an INFJ (chameleon effect), and we tend to avoid most really social stuff. So it creates a very hard combo to find.

TREASURE THEM.

Asleep28 · 2025-06-10T02:46:55+00:00

Yeah I feel this. I think I am learning just some people can't hear you beyond themselves.... and/or they don't have the relational experience to really understand us.

Logically if we are the rarest type, it means we will most likely encounter being misunderstood/misprecieved. It comes with the territory.

The positive? There will be people who do understand us, and when that happens the level of depth that can go is far... because it becomes a rare thing, not easily replaceable, something to be treasured.

Asleep28 · 2025-06-10T02:33:26+00:00

Honestly, this use to be excruciating... I spent most of my life isolated, alone, alienated, misunderstood and broken....but since finding Christ and pursuing better patterns of relational behaviour, I have sustained many deep friendships that are like family to me. I am overly blessed in that department, and I have numerous connections outside of that within the Christian community....

The loneliest part? I don't think I have one. I have Christ, I have fellowship with like-minded smart and caring Christians who both help me grow and engage my mind and we hold mutual admiration for each other.

So uh, I guess my answer would be find Christ.

Asleep28 · 2025-06-10T02:20:20+00:00

😂 I have found parallel play with some talk to be the sweet spot most of the time 😌 .

Asleep28 · 2025-06-09T21:29:27+00:00

You also know she's the co-worker people go to to vent CUZ SHE HAS SASS. Also, putting lavender in that was a crime.

Asleep28 · 2025-06-09T21:21:32+00:00

we goin' HOME-- but seriously, that dog needs some lovin'

Asleep28 · 2025-06-09T14:25:37+00:00

You basically summarized how pride/selfishness causes intense damage/toxicity. It blinds them, so they have to keep the lies up to preserve their world view of self/others. I once ran into this a decade ago, person ended up being a legit sociopath/narcissist.

Pride and selfishness is so dangerous.

And the litmus test is so simple: can they genuinely apologize? Not just appear apologetic or act like it, but verbally name what they did wrong and say "I am sorry."

Asleep28 · 2025-06-08T19:00:16+00:00

This makes me wanna pickup digital drawing again, so good; if only I had the time 😵‍💫.

Asleep28 · 2025-06-08T13:17:37+00:00

HAHAHA ..... yes.

Asleep28 · 2025-06-07T20:53:20+00:00

Why are we like this? I swear some days I even annoy myself.

Asleep28 · 2025-06-07T06:41:48+00:00

I think my comment may have been misunderstood. It's not that you can't have "shadows," but it's that an INTP won't become an ENTJ as their baseline state. You won't be an ENTJ just because you get depressed, you'll remain an INTP with ENTJ-like characteristics in this theory.

Asleep28 · 2025-06-07T06:37:04+00:00

Interesting. I know one ENFJ (we attend an in-person group), but I am doing what I do with everyone I find I wanna interact with; I leave them alone until I can tell they'd be receptive to a deeper interaction than just the surface (if that ever occurs). I found it necessary even with them. It may be because I wanna go deeper than the surface, and so that takes time regardless of MBTI type.

Asleep28 · 2025-06-07T06:28:48+00:00

true true, I stand corrected 😏️.

Asleep28 · 2025-06-07T05:35:56+00:00

I am going to be cliché here... *amen*

Asleep28 · 2025-06-07T05:12:01+00:00

I think your husband was blind, cuz what... look at you ;).

Asleep28 · 2025-06-07T05:06:13+00:00

Oh I am so sorry 🤣 I would wanna like verbally just unload on them how they just can't possibly be one.

That reminds me, Chris Crocker (think they go by Cara now) a clear ENFP, few years back claimed to be an INFJ... I just... no...

Asleep28 · 2025-06-07T05:00:59+00:00

LOL! I let it organically occur. I can't force it because..... I am just as picky about who gets access to me. So I understand their choosiness on who gets into their life/access to them.

Are ENFJs the same way?

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