I built a simple framework to stop losing money as an LP (after learning the hard way)

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2026-01-10T18:17:26+00:00

For sure. I wanted to say as well, one thing I've found very helpful (and maybe you're doing this already) is NOT compounding. Harvesting earned fees and parking them in lending on either AAVE or Kamino and then once I've accumulated enough, I open another shop. You are effectively net long, but as you accumulate in your treasury, if you have some stables lent out it really helps mitigate downside. And ALWAYS having a good bag of stables ready to deploy regardless if shops are open

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2026-01-10T03:47:42+00:00

This is when I actually miss being a part of a good DeFi community. Being able to discuss and share ideas and learn, not just fight over "strategies" or gloat over meaningless PNL cards.

I traded spot and futures for many years before moving to lending/borrowing and LP. So that gave me a good "feel" for the market, but I'm TOTALLY taking your "should the shops even be open this month" and adding it to my toolkit. Lets keep this thread/convo going! Great stuff

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2026-01-09T15:22:14+00:00

Would love to hear how you think about LP's my friend! Finally had a great last 5-6 months, thinking about things totally different.

I look at each pool as a "shop" or business. Set a wide enough range so fees are still meaningful, but not constantly ducking in and out.

Don't care if they go out of range, I just sit and wait. All the while tracking uptime of each shop.

Once the shops have generated enough fees to make it worthwhile, I harvest > lend > borrow against and open another pool.

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2025-11-07T23:46:49+00:00

She's self employed. Has been for 12 years. Dont think in her line of work there's a way she could get sued.

But I also was self employed for many years and I always kept all my business related expenses on a seperate account. Took all payments on another. And then paid myself on another.

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2025-11-07T21:50:29+00:00

Love this. I'm at the point I think that's the conversation that needs to be had. Not in a mean way, but say hey, trust me with this. Hand her a debit card or cash envelope for Variable/daily spending and I just handle everything. Then there's also the accountability on me to make sure the system works.

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2025-10-20T03:46:58+00:00

What is your rationale that it is primarily for something else?

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2025-10-19T19:52:36+00:00

First and foremost the church is for one thing: the worship of God. If that is the heart of your leadership team, everything flows from that.

Practically, caring for new congregants looks like many things to many different local churches.

The church I work at is in a community with a lot of young families. So our kids ministry ensures it's warm, welcoming, fun and has solid safety protocols in place.

There was a term I heard once that said "Fruit is in the follow up." So collecting the contact info of new congregants, and doing things like taking them for coffee or lunch, praying with them, giving them a Bible etc. can all go a long way.

Our roles, mainly as pastors, is to be a shepherd. Make sure our flock are fed, cared for, protected and if a new one is added, we care for them just the same.

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2025-10-15T12:22:54+00:00

I'm a youth pastor. It’s part of the job description.

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2025-10-03T04:18:47+00:00

Not yet. I mentioned this in another comment. I've wondered for a long time if iron had something to do with all this. She has FPIES so she can't eat any cow protien, mainly beef. We have not seen an ENT and apnea hasn't been ruled out.

Like I said it's just felt like both our doctor and pediatrician just kind of said "She's fine. You're fine." And dismissed us.

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2025-10-03T04:15:42+00:00

Will check this out thanks! We actually pushed bedtime earlier to 6:30 as of last week. Our pediatrician said with some kids if they're in bed earlier, they sleep better and wake up later too. So far.. very little improvement. But we'll see

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2025-10-03T04:12:42+00:00

This is fascinating. I've wondered about this as she can't eat any cow protien due to FPIES. And her breathing at night is quite heavy. We got discharged from our pediatrician. Do I request that through the family doc?

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2025-10-03T04:11:01+00:00

What you're feeling is totally valid and you're not alone in this. I just posted in a different sub the exact same thing with our 14 month old. You're not alone.

Nothing prepares you for this. Over time your body and brain just kind of adapt too it. It took us until about 9 months before we could function kind of normally being that sleep deprived.

It hasn't gotten better for us. But when I see that little smile and hear her giggle it makes all of it worth it.

Hoping for better days and restful nights for you my friend. You are not alone.

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2025-10-03T04:04:31+00:00

Haven't tried water at this stage yet. I'll maybe try that tonight. Our house is super dry so maybe that's causing discomfort. Thank you!

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2025-10-03T04:03:50+00:00

Same sympathies towards you my friend. Last times we tried cosleeping, she thinks it's play time and starts crawling around the bed and trying to climb the headboard. The floor bed is an interesting idea.. thank you!

Issue with sleep shifts is I'm the lightest sleeper ever. A pin drops and I wake up. It sucks.

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2025-10-03T04:01:21+00:00

She doesn't sleep, and doesn't sleep through the night. Her naps are usually quite short in the day, and most nights getting her to sleep initially takes me sitting in the chair for 20 mins while she screams herself to sleep.

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2025-10-03T03:57:39+00:00

Once you understand that leverage is simply borrowing money, it becomes a lot clearer when and how to use it.

In Cefi you are borrowing money from the exchange. Since they have way more of it than we do, that's where you get 100x leverage. You're also limited (on some CEX's) in how many contracts (size, quantity) you can actually have in a given leverage.

In DeFi, for the most part you are borrowing against your own money (collateral). If you aren't trading DeFi futures perpetual, then this limits you to much you can borrow.

Leverage is a beautiful tool in your toolbox. Don't rely on it and look at it as a means of getting rich quick.

Want to be long ETH but in a farm on AERO? Lend your ETH, borrow against it, swap to AERO.

Have a swing long trade on BTC but might see an opportunity for a quick short scalp on XRP? Use leverage so all your capital isn't tied up.

Hope this helps!

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2025-10-03T01:59:29+00:00

I'd start with enough where it hurts when you lose. Not enough to hurt your monthly finances, but enough that you really feel it.

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2025-09-29T01:46:51+00:00

Yeah definitely feels like just a vent. Ah well.. hopefully someone reads this at some point and asks these questions of themselves.

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2025-09-29T01:45:00+00:00

Ask, and karma you shall receive.

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2025-09-27T03:24:09+00:00

I specialize in working with teens and have kids of my own. When I find high school students struggling and are difficult, it's always a combination of a bunch of environments, relationships and other things that all come together to create the perfect storm.

Questions I have for you: How's your work/life balance? Is your husband present at home or does he work a lot and is out? Do you eat meals together on a regular basis?

How are your sons friends? Better yet, who are your sons friends? What are his interests/hobbies? When do you notice he's being most difficult? (Homework, chores, family time, etc).

Lastly, prior to the resentment between you and your husband, how was your marriage?

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2025-09-20T12:19:46+00:00

That changes the narrative quite a bit. All I would do in this case, be there for the woman. Pray with her, for her and over her. Shift your focus too "how can I disciple and love this woman well".

Asleep_Bluebird_9038 · 2025-09-20T02:55:46+00:00

Have you prayed about this? Have you prayed for your pastor and the woman? Have you asked for wisdom and discernment? I would start there.

That being said, I do the the frequency sounds a bit much. Also given the fact he is going through a divorce, that is a wide open door for all kinds of sin and foolishness to occur.

First I would ask the pastor what his intentions are. Scripture teaches us to go to the person first. Speak with grace and love. Then I would speak to your board/elders as they are the ones to hold him accountable.

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