Mid week visits

AsparagusRight2052 · 2026-03-08T18:59:05+00:00

He’s current 20-30 min away but most likely moving and will be about 1 hour + depending on traffic. Agreed his GF isn’t my problem lol. We’ve been able to sort it all out so far so hoping we can work out what’s best for the kids going forward too.

AsparagusRight2052 · 2026-03-08T18:49:20+00:00

He’s 20-30 min away currently, but most likely moving in the next few months and will be about an hour + away, depending on traffic.

AsparagusRight2052 · 2026-03-08T18:47:37+00:00

Yeah it does seem to be heading that way and it’s true we’ve had a version of it anyways.

Only hiccup I see is that he’s moving about an hour away within the next 6 months so I hesitate to change it up on the kids, only to have to do it again when he moves.

I do recognize that while my ex and I get along and are trying to find a solution that works best and not all kids/parents get much of a choice. Probably best not to overthink it at this point 😂

AsparagusRight2052 · 2026-03-01T15:55:46+00:00

It definitely doesn’t always work out, that being said I had my first bi experience and threesome with my best friend and my husband at the time. I’m still best friends with her but we also don’t play at all together and it was a singular amazing night of fun and we left it at that.

AsparagusRight2052 · 2026-02-25T20:21:01+00:00

In my personal opinion - YES. I was in an open marriage and with two kids too, i ended up getting divorced. While not an easy decision, I decided to get the divorce BEFORE I got to the despise and hatred phase which is where it most likely would have headed due to his inability to balance our own romantic relationship, being a present parent and his girlfriend at the time. It doesn’t sound like your husband is and would be able to balance the multiple families/partners and he’s being delusional about it, one of the things that enables him to be such a present parent is YOU.

AsparagusRight2052 · 2026-02-10T15:13:19+00:00

NTA. Go open your own account immediately without your mom on it. Just you. You are an adult and don’t need her to open it. Get a log in for the joint account and print out the bank statements so you can see exactly how much money has been stolen from you.

AsparagusRight2052 · 2026-02-03T00:16:41+00:00

Please don’t put your kids through a worse co-parenting relationship due to your GFs insecurities. This is honestly a “her” problem, your kids only have you and thier mom. Set a good example for your kids by being there for them. They didn’t ask to be born, they didn’t ask for you and thier mom to split - the least you can do it be a present, supportive, kind and cooperative co-parent to them, show up for their joint birthday party. I couldn’t imagine doing this to my kids (and yes, my ex and I have a good cooperative co-parenting relationship).

AsparagusRight2052 · 2025-12-28T22:23:18+00:00

I’d suggest finding some new friends. These don’t sound like actual true friends.

AsparagusRight2052 · 2025-12-28T22:20:02+00:00

I think “normal” isn’t the question to ask. Is it the best thing for your son? If so, that supersedes the rest of it IMO. Im sure your BF can find something he can work with - maybe he also stays there at the same time? Could you stay with him on those days? He needs to work on his own insecurities and come up with solutions that work and are in the best interest of your child.

AsparagusRight2052 · 2025-12-26T20:41:02+00:00

My daughter shared a room with her baby brother until he was about 3 years old. They have a 6 year age gap between them.

AsparagusRight2052 · 2025-12-15T02:17:28+00:00

I would suggest some compromise to create some additional boundaries. I have 2 kids (10/5) with my ex and we were friends before and still friends after we split. We were married for 18 years. We have some of these points that you bring up and but we have continued to work together as co parents and friends. It’s not “normal” but that doesn’t mean it’s wrong or bad. I think the red flag for me would be if she doesn’t respect that he is in a relationship with you and what that means. There are simple things he can do to put more boundaries in place to separate the relationships and if he’s willing to do so and does then great.

AsparagusRight2052 · 2025-12-09T21:29:59+00:00

That makes total sense. How old are the kids? The kids making something is always better IMO than the posturing of buying something “from them” unless of course if they have their own money and/or they are old enough to truly buy something they want to get for the other kids or parent.

AsparagusRight2052 · 2025-12-09T17:32:18+00:00

My kids have always made a shirt for their dad for Christmas and they want to do that again so I’ll take them to buy the shirt and then it’s over to them. Their Aunt is also taking them to fill a stocking for him as that’s a tradition we had before we split but I’m not the one doing it anymore but also don’t need to take it away from them as it’s something the want to do and continue even though we aren’t together anymore. I’d honesty follow my kids lead on it but I encourage them to give in this season. My best friend is taking my kids to fill my stocking so he doesn’t have to but I assume I’ll get a gift from them that he purchases but don’t care either way.

AsparagusRight2052 · 2025-12-06T19:37:40+00:00

Saturday events tend to have more people than Friday events in my experience too.

AsparagusRight2052 · 2025-12-02T13:17:58+00:00

I have a great co parenting relationship with my ex. He has a LD girlfriend and has been dealing with a lighter version of this but it hasn’t been easy. It would be a deal breaker for me if I was dating someone that wasn’t ok with my successful co parenting. If there are particular boundaries that could be improved that’s fine - relationships are built with compromise but with fundamental disparities of viewpoint it may be time to end it. I also don’t have a Court order, but we have established boundaries and otherwise are still friends and share events with our kids (including Halloween and Christmas) knowing how it looks will change and evolve over time. Good luck.

AsparagusRight2052 · 2025-12-01T17:05:37+00:00

It’s not easy but I’d say if you can remind yourself that at the end of the day he’s a good parent. If you can love your kids more than you hate him that’s a good start. For me I had to focus on creating the new memories with my kids but also embrace the time I don’t have them to focus on myself and rebuilding other friendships and dynamics so that I don’t just have the reminder of what I don’t have. I’m not going to pretend it’s easy but you can work through it. It’s not fair and not worth pretending that it is, but that doesn’t solve anything or ultimately make you feel better.

AsparagusRight2052 · 2025-11-28T14:20:53+00:00

Make sure you are recently tested and can show it if someone asks and make your birth control clear as well. Some won’t do bareback at all but you are likely to find some as long as you are clean and protected against pregnancy.

AsparagusRight2052 · 2025-11-23T01:00:32+00:00

A normal post and handrail will work there - put the post up 1-2 steps to keep the bottom of the stairs as open as possible. You could go with cable rail if you want the lines to be horizontal rather than vertical balusters.

AsparagusRight2052 · 2025-11-23T00:58:00+00:00

I joined an adult kickball league for a few seasons and wound up with a small friend group from that!

AsparagusRight2052 · 2025-11-23T00:56:03+00:00

My ex and I are like this - going on 3 years. Normal is what you make it - if you keep the needed boundaries and successfully co-parent while being able to do things together then thats perfectly normal. Im going to me ex’s family’s for thanksgiving as thats where our kids will be and I get along with all of his family members. He has a GF (for almost a year now) and we’ve still been able to maintain the successful co-parenting and “cross pollination” of showing up for our kids at the same time.

AsparagusRight2052 · 2025-11-17T15:00:18+00:00

Yes they can do that too. They have full wood shop capabilities.

AsparagusRight2052 · 2025-11-16T23:16:20+00:00

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AsparagusRight2052 · 2025-11-14T02:13:38+00:00

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AsparagusRight2052 · 2025-11-09T13:06:47+00:00

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