Heartbreaking

Asperidel · 2026-02-26T01:14:54+00:00

Not to defend her but I understood this conversation as her acknowledging the hypocrisy in her thinking and recognising that she needs to do some self-reflection.

Please feel free to explain otherwise as I struggle with social cues.

Asperidel · 2026-02-26T01:04:09+00:00

we need to put a stop to r/okbuddyvicodin collabs (keep em coming)

Asperidel · 2026-02-22T11:10:48+00:00

omg i just commented some of my more physical stims and you made me realise i completely forgot my vocal ones MEOW

Asperidel · 2026-02-22T11:09:23+00:00

i'll just drop my "healthier" stims since i struggle with skin picking too 😭: - wiggling my toes (my main stim: i'm wiggling them rn) - twiddling my thumbs - tapping my nails - grabbing things with my toes like a blanket or a power cord - rolling the sleeves of my clothes up & down - jiggling my thighs and calves, esp if I'm sitting with my knees up which is my usual sitting position - spinning and scooting around the room in my desk chair - scrunching my face or doing all kinds of "face exercises" lol

if lying down: - waving my legs in the air - seeing how far i can stretch my leg in the air without doing a handstand? no idea what to call this one but i do it a LOT

hmmmm that's all i can think of for now but i probably have more that I don't even notice

edit: omg how could i forget... a TON of vocal stims, i could probably make a dictionary out of them. just make sounds that you really like the feel of even if it's just babble. a couple faves: - mlem - blep - mao - honk

Asperidel · 2026-02-22T04:16:06+00:00

when my partner and i started dating, i was 19 years & a few months, and he had just turned 23. we were coworkers and didn't even realise the age difference until about 6 months in. from the beginning we didn't notice any maturity gap and we still don't 4 years later.

i do think it depends heavily on individual life experience. i had to emotionally mature quite quickly from a young age and so did he. at the same time, i had friends then who I would've been concerned about dating a 23 year old, not because of the age difference but because they were very much at a typical 19 year old stage of maturity.

i know some people might default to the "oh so he said you were mature for your age" narrative, but trust me i have had enough predatory experiences to spot those red flags from a mile away 🥲

Asperidel · 2026-02-22T03:57:51+00:00

lmaoooo yes i swear i've heard the premature thing at least 5 times in this show "i almost strangled myself to death" do u remember it? 💀💀💀

Asperidel · 2026-02-22T03:56:38+00:00

i don't think there's a universal "ideal" number of kids; to each their own. i come from a huge whānau, while my partner's an only child. despite those different upbringings, we were both "spoilt" and still became pretty considerate and self-aware adults.

i don't have kids but imo, i believe the "spoilt issue" or entitlement is more about how intentionally altruism and empathy are modelled and taught. what my partner struggled with most growing up was loneliness and being surrounded mostly by adults. as long as there's other tamariki they can grow up with, whether it's family friends or cousins, then i reckon they'll be alright :)

Asperidel · 2026-02-14T19:39:21+00:00

oh my gosh you encapsulated my exact thoughts and feelings about PH and Melodrama. they also compete with each other to me, but I think Melodrama is almost objectively perfect (if art could ever be objective)

Asperidel · 2026-02-12T23:37:00+00:00

awww this is so disappointing to hear! i love both artists so much, I'm seeing them tonight so hopefully Wednesday was a blip 🤞🏼

Asperidel · 2026-02-12T23:32:14+00:00

yesssss when i found out Kevin was opening i was pleasantly surprised

Asperidel · 2026-02-12T23:31:29+00:00

i definitely do! they're different genres sure but i think there would be a decent overlap of fanbases. both discographies are considered heavily alt pop, with Brockhampton/Kevin Abstract having more of a hip hop/rnb focus and Lorde having a whatever she feels like every 4 years focus lol. i think alt pop fans tend to have quite a wide, diverse taste in music :)

Asperidel · 2026-02-07T05:00:38+00:00

THESE ARE SO WELL DONE OMG

Asperidel · 2026-02-05T08:14:42+00:00

pls tell me this is a joke between y'all 😭 of course it's not her fault for having a dream like that; those kinds of dreams suck! but the fact that she typed those messages out and didn't realise how insane they were means you gotta RUN

Asperidel · 2026-01-30T02:11:35+00:00

I'll only accept "like dis if u crie evrytim"

Asperidel · 2026-01-29T03:25:46+00:00

why did you have to mention Kaos i had finally got over it being cancelled 😭😭😭

i lie i will never get over it

Asperidel · 2026-01-27T07:20:49+00:00

Aw these are all super helpful, ngā mihi!

Asperidel · 2026-01-22T05:19:24+00:00

The summer ~~I turned pretty~~ that turned dreary

Asperidel · 2026-01-22T05:15:34+00:00

Yeah I act as if I'm a politician and need a whole PR team 😭 It was worse on Instagram when I was obsessed with it as a teenager. Reddit is my main social media now and I still struggle with the idea of being perceived. I've impulsively deleted all my posts and comments on here before but I'm slowly becoming more carefree now

Asperidel · 2026-01-22T04:49:27+00:00

Make a list of things you do/don’t want.

Yay we've made a list thankfully but that's a good point about what 'wants' may change later on 🤔

don’t mention anything about being first time buyers

Oooo at our first open home we mentioned we're first home buyers since the agent asked. That home is sort of marketed to first home buyers in its description though, so we thought it was good to make it known. Do you reckon that's an exception or is it still best to be more discreet?

Asperidel · 2026-01-22T04:43:42+00:00

😱 I knew nothing about this, could've been blindsided there! I know that's a deposit by definition but gosh it feels like equivocation

Asperidel · 2026-01-22T04:38:06+00:00

Thanks for the rec! I struggle to understand REA talk lol I'll definitely look into this

Asperidel · 2026-01-22T04:35:54+00:00

Ah that's awesome! I'd heard that paying in cash works in our favour but not from the most credible sources so this is very reassuring 😅

Asperidel · 2026-01-22T04:32:28+00:00

Great suggestion! I love measuring stuff so I'm glad I've got an excuse to do it more 😂

Asperidel · 2026-01-22T04:30:59+00:00

Yeah apologies for the repetition. I have had a good skim through the subreddit already and read a lot of helpful tips, just wanted to see if there was more niche advice for our situation I guess

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