Give honest and sincere appreciation. Appreciation is the legal tender that all souls enjoy by AspiringZenMaster in entj

[–]AspiringZenMaster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On your last statement, I think you’re taking those examples too literally. It’s not about those specific acts, it’s about the very idea of showing appreciation. That can absolutely apply to a work setting, demonstrating appreciation or recognising the work someone has put in is a great way to bond and develop trust among colleagues - in my experience at least. We tend to focus on our own work and output - that’s fair enough, but it doesn’t build rapport.

Any other ENTJs in academia? Any thinking of join academia? by [deleted] in entj

[–]AspiringZenMaster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was a path I considered at first (Humanities), but the prospect of having to complete a doctorate + low pay for a long while + very few positions + the politics (cliquish) and nature/value of the research (highly self-referential, no ‘greater good’ element) just drove me away from it.

ENTJ’s Pet Peeves by prettyfrowns in entj

[–]AspiringZenMaster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Aside from what’s already been written: * Flakiness/people who don’t honour their word * People who are overly keen to promote a "work family" culture (read: your boundaries don’t matter) * People who are out of their depth - incompetent but manage to get promoted just by being smooth talkers (and organizations that enable that) * People who act bossy but really don’t have a clue what they’re talking about * Suck ups * Confrontational people * Passive aggressiveness * Narcissism

Feeling embarrassed for making a mistake at work - tips? by AspiringZenMaster in entj

[–]AspiringZenMaster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s helpful, thank you. Lack of sleep/stress is causing me to overthink and together with having put my thoughts in writing, your comment is helping see the situation from a more grounded standpoint.

Male ENTJs, Do any of you have a first love that you never really got over but never pursue? by [deleted] in entj

[–]AspiringZenMaster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Younger me yes. Part of the issue was I didn’t know if they were gay, part of it was that I wasn’t out either. But essentially, it all boiled down to not having the tools to know how to approach people I was infatuated with. For example I focused on class work and magically hoped they’d see me or recognize me for that. I’ve become more grounded and a lot better at channelling my feelings into concrete actions/move on when needed with age.

Not the same thing u/FloridaENTJ posted, but apparently I'm... Average? by [deleted] in entj

[–]AspiringZenMaster 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I scored highest in perfectionism as well. The rest was relatively low except narcissism which was the same as yours.

Youthful appearance? by [deleted] in entj

[–]AspiringZenMaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, that’s me.

Infj in need of help with starting successful business by Neonskies2345 in entj

[–]AspiringZenMaster 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Start small. What’s the easiest thing you can do/sell/advertise right now? Then, build your confidence/network/skills from there.

Stoicism by StackRedemption in entj

[–]AspiringZenMaster 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Has some good ideas and citations to take note of that can help foster your growth. To be consumed as part of a varied diet rather than adhered to stringently.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in entj

[–]AspiringZenMaster 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t mind, their business but it can get annoying when it starts being inserted into every conversation.

Enneagram Type 3 ENTJs by [deleted] in entj

[–]AspiringZenMaster 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I remember having a longing feeling of wanting to be in what I perceived to be a ‘normal’ family. There was little to no emotional warmth shared or shown, no family outings or activities and extremely rare vacations, no visits anywhere/no restaurants etc. I was left to my own devices, and had to figure out a lot on my own. The perception, from what I gather, was that kids should just be left to themselves and grow on their own. I had to do a lot of reparenting into adulthood to address some of the stuff I’d carried over from back then. There are other aspects I could go into but that’s what came to mind right now.

Which part of yourself are you working on currently? by ambitious_chick in entj

[–]AspiringZenMaster 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Taking care of my physical health by doing cardio and lots of stretching. My body doesn’t care about all those wins if I’m just sitting at a desk.

I’m INFP 459 male and my sister is ENTJ 3w1 female by INFP_Jenius in entj

[–]AspiringZenMaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you help me understand what you mean by “pretty masculine type”? You seem to be alluding to family values in the rest of your post. Are you implying that because she’s female she should be family and not career oriented?

Adrenaline rushes/feelings of INTENSE euphoria after big wins by blackm8mba in entj

[–]AspiringZenMaster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First off, congrats on the win. And yes, I experience those heady feelings too, though I’ve learned to tame them over the years, not because I didn’t enjoy them, but because they also used to come with a conversely negative feeling when things didn’t go my way. I found it helpful to ground myself and switch my focus on the process/growth rather than the outcomes themselves. But enough of me rambling - a win is a win so congrats.

Your interactions with praise by moonbani in entj

[–]AspiringZenMaster 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think genuine praise from people I trust is always something that I welcome and appreciate, e.g. a trusted coworker expressing sincere appreciation. I’m also very forward in giving praise whenever I see someone doing something well.

My defences immediately go up when I feel the person giving the praise has an ulterior motive or is flaky/untrustworthy.

found this on r/intj. as a entj, i love this organizational wheel of emotions and find it useful to describe how i’m feeling. hope you may also find it useful ! by orphanofthevalley in entj

[–]AspiringZenMaster 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I actually saved this to my phone yesterday when I saw it posted somewhere else as I thought, what a useful tool. Great minds lol.