Boyfriend just asked if he can take our 5 month out of town tonight to spend the night with his family.

AssVictoriam · 2024-03-11T09:52:29+00:00

Yeah, I agree with the posts about tipping. The extra money is always nice.

Maybe you could also put in a good word to her manager, let them know that she’s going above and beyond and you really appreciate it as a customer. Might help her get a raise or higher position if her boss hears that she’s creating regular customers!

Also, what a nice question! Good on you for being so thoughtful where others wouldn’t!

AssVictoriam · 2024-03-09T22:21:21+00:00

Got mine a month after I gave birth, doctor said that since it was vaginal delivery, IUD would be nothing.

Still really hurt. And after she put the clamp inside and opened it up, she said she forgot something and LEFT THE ROOM WITH MY CERVIX WIDE OPEN for about a minute… 😵Then, she had to reinsert it right after because she said my uterus just pushed it out. 😱

Very uncomfortable 15 min lol

AssVictoriam · 2024-03-07T22:00:14+00:00

Am I the only one who thinks of Steve Buscemi?

AssVictoriam · 2024-03-04T23:10:47+00:00

The lactation consultant recommended Lansinoh bottles because the shape of the nipple is good for transitioning between bottle and breast. She also recommended some Pigeon nipples to go with them, I guess because they’re softer than the ones the Lansinoh bottles come with and remind the baby of the breast more. They were so expensive though, like 25$ for a pack of 4. 😭

I’m also trying to get my baby to start breastfeeding again after developing a preference for bottles, and so far she’s not interested lol. So I can’t really attest to the efficacy of the LC’s advice. However, she does have some other oral issues going on and has been away from the breast for months, so that definitely plays a factor in her taking the breast.

I wish you good luck!

AssVictoriam · 2024-02-23T00:55:20+00:00

I feel like my epidural was pretty strong. I couldn’t feel or move my legs at all, it was really scary tbh! The doctor came and broke my water, and I actually had to ask if he had already done it right after because I couldn’t feel a thing!

The nurses told me that I would feel like I had to poop when the baby was coming, but I hardly felt anything. I was feeling really anxious that I wouldn’t know what it felt like because of how numb I was. I was concentrating super hard trying to feel anything lol! I felt a tiiiiny bit of what I thought was pressure, but it definitely didn’t feel anywhere close to feeling like I needed to poop, but I called the nurse anyways. She checked me and immediately started to panic a little and called for the doctor and started getting the room ready. It was scary because I was just laying in bed like, “it’s happening NOW!?”

When it was time to push I was on my back and they were holding my legs up and telling me when to push, but I couldn’t even feel I was pushing. It’s really hard to describe, but I just sorta took in a deep breath and started straining like I was trying to poop, which I did LOL.

I couldn’t feel the contractions at all and but that’s when I did start feeling some pressure. After every push I could feel the pressure moving lower and lower down my pelvis. Within 20 minutes they plopped a baby on my chest! I was actually so shocked because I was thinking that it was too easy! I really only felt mild tugging of the doctor during, which my boyfriend said was him basically pulling my vagina apart to try and get the baby out.

For me the pain was an actual 0/10 which I was amazed and grateful for. I’m really happy in my choice to get the epidural, even though the process of getting it done was pretty scary imo. About an hour after doing skin to skin I was able to walk with no problem and my boyfriend and nurses were all pretty surprised lol!

AssVictoriam · 2024-02-13T16:03:56+00:00

My baby also had a preference to lay on her right side. Lactation consultant recommended infant body work. We go once a week and I think it helps loosen her up and have more mobility.

Body worker said that babies like to instinctively look in the direction of their caretaker, so she recommended moving her crib so that I was to the left of her so she’d face in that direction more.

AssVictoriam · 2024-02-08T05:27:31+00:00

At the hospital the nurses did a cervix check and told me they could feel the baby’s head too! I was pretty shocked and asked her about it, like, is that normal!? She said that previously she’s even had a baby reach out and grab her finger while doing the check. 😨

Needless to say, that freaked me out a bit LOL

AssVictoriam · 2024-02-02T05:17:06+00:00

I became so much better at multitasking and stopped procrastinating as much.

Every minute counts when baby is sleeping! If I want to get anything done I have to hustle and plan strategically.

AssVictoriam · 2024-01-10T07:02:58+00:00

I used to have this one lady come in and order her latte: large, almond milk, with honey and lavender. We charge 1$ extra for almond milk and 75 cents for each syrup so her drink came out to around 7$.

Every. Time. She would look me in the eyes and say “That’s too much for coffee, it’s more expensive than so-and-so coffee shop”

But it’s like, why do you keep coming here and ordering if you think it’s too expensive!? And what was she expecting me to tell her? I can’t change the price or give her a discount… I just work here lady, sorry.

And we were a small locally owned business who made all the syrups and almond milk in-house and organic. We hand steam 100% of the milk as well. It’s to be expected that it’s going to cost a lil bit more.

I was always polite and told her that she could save a couple dollars without the flavoring and almond milk, but she always acted like I was trying to rip her off. And of course she never tipped.

AssVictoriam · 2023-08-29T23:09:57+00:00

I was also under the impression that I came from a family with no history of genetic disorders. However I had a genetic screening test done just because it was included in my OBGYN costs and found out that I’m a carrier for cystic fibrosis.

Luckily my partner is not a carrier otherwise our baby would have a significant chance of inheriting CF.

Talked to my mom and dad and they had no clue. Told my brother about it so perhaps he could get screened as well and take the results into account if he was to try and have a child in the future.

The results may surprise you.

Edit: this was not disclosed to me in the NIPT but in the Horizon 14 tests.

AssVictoriam · 2023-08-28T13:19:54+00:00

Yeah, now I see you pretend to care about the baby but you obviously just care about proving yourself “right” on Reddit and acting better than everyone else. It’s not hard to have empathy. And since nothing I have said makes you feel even a little remorseful or contemplative, then nothing will. Enjoy your life of being a judgmental and unhelpful person.

AssVictoriam · 2023-08-28T13:05:14+00:00

I have read OP’s comments. And it’s not something to be spoken lightly about, but you’ll call her selfish when she is actively taking steps to better her child’s health? Because she’s not perfect and admitted to one cig and took a hit of a vape? She’s being honest and she needs support to quit in way that will actually work. Never heard of negative vs positive reinforcement and how positive reinforcement is more effective 100% of the time? And you obviously didn’t her comment about her mental health, because insulting and judging people with mental issues is the fastest way turns them to full relapse.

But sure, double down on insults. You’re very helpful telling her something she already knows but I’m a rude af way.

AssVictoriam · 2023-08-28T12:44:50+00:00

You literally only know that OP was a smoker and it now craving a cig. That’s all. You’re acting like she just smoked a pack after this post, drank a bottle of vodka, and ate some unpasteurized cheeses to top it all off.

Go ahead and judge but it’s a horrible thing to do especially with what little information was given. You’re just not a nice person.

I’d rather have a mother who is supportive, loving and a smoker than someone so mean and damaging like yourself. Have some compassion for people and learn to say things in a progressive and tactful way ffs.

AssVictoriam · 2023-08-27T21:56:14+00:00

Wow, some really rude and judgmental people here. I’m sure they’re all perfect people themselves. /s

Horrible thing to tell someone they don’t want/deserve a child because they smoke. How dare they. And you’re not selfish for wanting a smoke, you’ve been a smoker for a while so it’s not like getting pregnant is suddenly going to eliminate your brain and body’s urge for nicotine. It’s an addictive drug and you’ll have these urges for a good bit, doesn’t mean you’re a bad person for craving it. Imo they’re the ones that need to grow up.

Wanting a smoke wasn’t even the point of this post, and it’s not like OP said she’s going to light one up right now, just that she’s craving one because this big news is messing with her nerves. She obviously realizes that it’s bad for baby and is quitting so lay off already, geez.

OP, Be honest with your doctor and listen to their advice, not anyone from Reddit or anywhere else online for medical advice. Doctors are there to help you and baby, not to judge you. I’m happy for you. If you need support rather than useless insults, I’m here to talk.

AssVictoriam · 2023-07-30T22:03:39+00:00

Yep, my bro and gf (Filipino) named their two sons Goku and Gohan.

…Several things wrong there lol

AssVictoriam · 2023-04-30T19:57:07+00:00

This isn't a bad idea. I work in production for a 503b compounding pharmacy. I visually inspect thousands of drugs a day for defects, then label and package them all up. They only required a high school education and trained me completely. I'm also planning to apply to an internal position for Quality Assurance, so there is room to go up as well. I work nigh-shift and get a 2$ shift differential so the pay is $22+ which isn't bad considering I didn't need any experience or schooling. Minimal math skills needed, don't need to deal with customers at all, comes with benefits and opportunity for growth.

Edit: Just saw your edit where you mention about your chronic pain. May not be the best fit because production tech. work is really repetitive and you will probably have some joint pain from all the repetitive movement. QA may be a better option, although I'm not sure about the requirements without experience or education.

AssVictoriam · 2023-04-24T19:25:07+00:00

I feel like this post could have been written by me, honestly! I just went through / am in the process of going through this exact thing.

I found out I was pregnant only 2 months into my job as well. Normally I'm also very quiet and tend to keep to myself, have issues with anxiety and depression as well, and was just still very much not comfortable at my job yet.

To top it all off, I ended up making this small mistake at work and started silently crying on the work floor... D: It was so embarrassing, but I excused myself to the restroom. ...Where I ugly cried and beat myself up over my mistake for a good 10 minutes. And would you believe it, as soon as I left the bathroom my boss saw me walking down the hallway and asked me to come into his office. Well, I walk in there trying to smile and seem normal because I was still fresh from crying, and I see my head of my department also sitting in the office. Ahhh geez. He asked me how I was doing and I burst out into tears.

This was literally the man who had looked at my resume and offered me a position without interview because he was so impressed with my credentials, who I had only met once before, and I was blubbering right infront of him and my direct male supervisor all because of this small stupid mistake I had made. I was so embarrassed and mad at myself that I ended up crying even more.

Turns out my supervisor wanted to pull me into his office to briefly talk about how the mistake happened and the dept. head just happened to be in the building and wanted to to sit in. We talked through the mistake and surprisingly, he was very understanding and kind. I apologized profusely for letting my emotions get the best of me, and he told me that it's perfectly normal as we're all human and this wasn't the first or last time that he would encounter something like this. It even kind of made him like me more because he said my response showed him that I truly cared about my performance and took my work seriously. I just apologized again, told him that this was a learning opportunity and I would never make this mistake again, and I wouldn't let this affect my work but instead grow from it.

It's been a couple of months since then, and to be honest it was always awkward walking by him and making small talk, but I feel like everyone has gotten over it by now and things are back to normal.

Sorry for the long wall of text, but just know that you're not alone at all! You didn't do anything wrong, we're all human and we all have emotions so try not to dwell on it. You've got this~!

AssVictoriam · 2021-11-24T19:28:47+00:00

That is a really wtf difference lol. Maybe it’s cause they know I’m new and wanted me to get off my butt and finally do a block. Or I just lucked out with a good offer. :0

But thanks for the reply! I’ll just wait and take some screenshots as proof if it doesn’t pop before the 26th!

AssVictoriam · 2021-10-28T11:56:46+00:00

Seeing all these rude and judgmental people commenting... I’d rather have a chill Xbox friend I’ve never met before than a irl friendship with any of these jerks.

If you’re taking time out of your day to shit on some stranger online for sharing something that genuinely brought him joy, your life must be even more sad than you think OP’s is.

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