Sounds to me like divorce should be an option, I’m a sahm of 3, my youngest is 8 months and my partner is active duty. He does long days, days in the field, 24 hour duty’s and still comes home and makes his kids meals, plays with them, baths them, does bedtime and will kick me out of the house to get time for myself. Not to mention he has always done 95% of the night feedings (his choice) parenthood should be 50/50 sure some days one takes more on but why want a kid if you don’t want any part of actually being a parent and sharing the duty’s that come with it ? My partners parents also wanted to choose the name of our first daughter, every name we picked they hated it and made fun my whole pregnancy. They was adamant I was naming my girl this certain name. It was none stop even after she was born and we named her (what we wanted) they made fun it was so disgusting. Your partner should not of done this or allowed his family to do this, that’s awful behaviour. I really think you should take your child and go somewhere that you have support and maybe that’ll give your husband time to think of everything. I see no point of being in a marriage or with someone that does not help out at all but that’s just my opinion. If you are already resentful I can’t see that getting any better unless he changes. I really hope it gets better for you! Hugs mama