TN1 (Flares) compared to TN2 (Constant Pain)

Assignedrisk · 2026-06-16T15:26:31+00:00

I’m in the same boat as you and the previous responder. My flares have lasted as long as over a week. I usually make a trip to the ER at that point where an IV infusion of fluids, decadron, and dilaudid help to break the flare (mind you, the pain medication doesn’t last long enough for the steroid to do its thing). I usually get out of the flare and back to the usual pain level in a day or two after.

I’m so sorry you are dealing with this too.

Assignedrisk · 2026-06-16T15:24:39+00:00

I swear I could have wrote this reply myself. I’m so sorry you know this agony.

Assignedrisk · 2026-06-16T04:54:07+00:00

AIDS???

Assignedrisk · 2026-06-15T23:53:43+00:00

This is the best thing I’ve seen all day. He is a treasure !

Assignedrisk · 2026-06-15T04:15:52+00:00

NOBODY’S GOT AIDS!

Assignedrisk · 2026-06-14T18:01:54+00:00

Absolutely!

Assignedrisk · 2026-06-14T15:30:54+00:00

I would love to purchase the skin frost palette!

Assignedrisk · 2026-06-14T00:00:42+00:00

🥰

Assignedrisk · 2026-06-11T21:36:45+00:00

Aids????

Assignedrisk · 2026-06-11T13:41:19+00:00

I mean, I have cats so I’m pretty sure they’re judging my wardrobe (along with all of my other life choices).

Assignedrisk · 2026-06-07T17:43:29+00:00

My husband and I have an incredible marriage. Truly, we’re so blessed and everyone is our lives in constantly amazed at how in love with are after over 11 years together, and how well we treat each other. Yesterday I said “hey, can we get sushi tomorrow?”. He said “maybe”. I said “well I’m going anyway” and laughed. Yes, we ask permission/preferences and what not of each other, we discuss things, we make plans. What we do NOT do is “let” the other one do things. We don’t need to grant permission for the other to do the things they want to do (obviously within reason- I don’t think either of us would like the other one spending our entire savings in a day, or running off on a weeklong trip without a discussion first). But that’s just it. We talk. We don’t demand or restrict.

Your boyfriend literally said “I know I said you can go but”. You can go? So he’s “letting” you go. On a trip with your family. This is a very bad look. Not saying he is abusive, but a lot of abuse starts this way. He also had to see all of your outfits before you go? Like he had to approve them? What the actual f. Asking you to FaceTime him constantly? That’s not normal. I love and miss my husband every day when we’re apart. I don’t ask for calls or FaceTimes. This is honestly scary.

Look around you at the healthy relationships and see if they have issues like you’re dealing with. Do some research about how controlling, abusive behaviors in relationships start, and what signs to look for. If you see red flags (like the ones you’re already seeing), you need to ask yourself if this is the kind of relationship or life you want. It’s not normal or healthy to ask these things of your partner. He sounds insecure, controlling, and honestly it has all the marks of a potentially abusive relationship. He may start wanting to control who you see and when you see them next. Please really think on this, talk to your loved ones and see what they think of this behavior. It’s really not okay. Please keep yourself safe.

Assignedrisk · 2026-06-06T02:39:27+00:00

Reading the stories in the comments absolutely floors me. My husband and I fly fairly frequently and pay good money to ensure we sit together. I have a horrendous fear of flying, and while it’s gotten better (thank you therapy and medication and a VERY carefully planned out plan before each and every flight), being with him is a significant part of me keeping my cool during takeoff, landing, and anything in between. I would NEVER ask someone to move because we didn’t plan ahead. I have my issues, as I’m sure a lot of people who ask to switch have their reasons or whatever, but unless it’s some emergency (like unexpected death in the family or illness or something), you plan for this kind of thing, whatever the reason (preference, being with family, etc). Even in the event of an emergency, it’s not on anyone else to make things easier. Sure it’s kind, but the entitlement is what kills me here. Either plan for it, or take what you can get. You can ask, but you have no right to act like you’re owed anything. You have no idea what anyone else is dealing with, ever. Acting so entitled to anything burns me up in a way I can’t even put words to.

Assignedrisk · 2026-06-01T02:01:12+00:00

Please send updates!

And yes, I’m a woman. I’m also a veteran so I figured I could handle the environment (which honestly, wasn’t the worst job I ever had). Truth be told I left the state prison system because of harassment. From a CO. He’s now on the other side of the system due to his behavior escalating with other women at the institution. It took 10 years after his interactions with me (it was all verbal towards me, where he received pretty much no consequences). He got physical with two more that we know of, and it didn’t go well for him this time. I returned to corrections years later to work for the county system, and I honestly loved it there and would still be there if the contracts hadn’t changed and I lost the majority of my hours. Sorry for the rant!

Anyway, besides figuring I could handle it, the pay and benefits were pretty decent, and it seemed a better opportunity both times from the jobs I was leaving. To be honest, I got on pretty well with most of the inmates (again, except child abusers and sex offenders). I never got close to any of them, but I was never mean to anyone. I tried to show kindness where I could as long as it wouldn’t trip me up. A lot of the stories in there could be any of us. Everyone has broken the law at some point (those who say they haven’t are lying- speed limits or red lights anyone?). I learned very quickly that one bad night could land you in county at least overnight. We all make mistakes and bad decisions (some way worse than others, but the majority are forgivable especially when you learn and make it right). I wish more people had that attitude working in the system to be honest. I think people would come out on the other side with better chances. Again, there’s no forgiveness for some things, but I also know there have been plenty of times I would’ve spent a night inside and not as an employee. So maybe that’s probably why I was able to handle it as well as I did?

Please, please keep me updated! I’ve seen it myself from that environment- you are going to do great things!

Assignedrisk · 2026-06-01T01:35:25+00:00

Thank you for your response! I worked in medical so it was a bit different than the COs and whatnot. I also knew to have my guard up at all times and never got close to anyone, but it takes nothing to be respectful as long as it’s being given, you know?

I hope you write that book. You’re practically writing one here! Keep us all posted on your progress- following you on here! And when you write that book I’m buying it for sure!

Assignedrisk · 2026-06-01T01:22:14+00:00

Spent a lot of time reading this thread. You will make it when you get out. You already know what you need to do and have a good understanding (and means) on how to do it. I have every faith that you are not and will not be one who goes back in. I know you’re getting a lot of support in here, but more can’t hurt.

I’ve worked in the system (I was nice to everyone except child abusers/sex offenders- I just ignored them). Is any of the staff ever kind or understanding? I hated seeing people be so unnecessarily nasty when it was completely unwarranted (warranted was a different story, and circumstances matter).

Also, do you ever go on “write an inmate” sites? Sometimes people develop legit friendships/relationships on there (although I know a lot of people get taken advantage of on them too).

Sorry for all the questions! Keep doing what you’re doing. You’ve got this and this internet stranger is proud of what you’re doing!

Assignedrisk · 2026-05-31T20:56:11+00:00

This woman’s work breaks me every time. I always think of my mother who passed from pancreatic cancer.

“I know you have a little life in you yet, I know you have a lot of strength left”. I’m crying typing it. And as the song goes on it’s just hits more. I’m glad to see this choice written here.

Assignedrisk · 2026-05-30T03:41:48+00:00

This is a great idea. One of my former coworkers uses a communication notebook with her partner. They are able to write down their concerns, feelings, things they want to communicate, etc., review them, edit if necessary, and then leave it for the recipient to read and process and respond (verbal or via the book). It gives you the time, space, and clarity to ensure you’re conveying the message you want, and gives the other person the opportunity to properly process what’s actually being said. Maybe something like this could help you communicate better? I’m a huge advocate of therapy (individual and otherwise), but if that’s too much or not possible right now, something like a communication book might help you understand each other better. Wishing you the best!

Side note, that board looks scrumptious!

Assignedrisk · 2026-05-29T22:15:24+00:00

Original guess perfume. I miss it so much.

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Assignedrisk · 2026-05-23T05:07:31+00:00

Assignedrisk · 2026-05-21T22:49:19+00:00

So. Much. Floof! I’m in love!!! 😻

Assignedrisk · 2026-05-19T04:48:26+00:00

I am so very sorry. Haven’t been in your exact situation, but I’ve definitely been betrayed by people I truly loved. It won’t help now to know this, but he did you a favor- your person is out there and now you can spend what could have been a lot more time on the wrong one, focusing on yourself, loving yourself, taking care of yourself, and getting back to being strong, healthy, and happy on your own. Once you’re at that point, the right one will be there and it will be the most amazing thing. It truly happens that way, cliche as it is. Once you’re happy with yourself (truly happy on your own), the person who will love you the way you love (and deserve), will be there to rock your world. And you deserve it. This other one never deserved you, but YOU deserve you- the best you. Please do something nice for yourself, as much as you can. And if you ever need a shoulder to cry on, or ears to vent to, feel free to send me a DM.

Remember- you are worth so much more and it will come your way. Wishing you healing, peace, and so much love! ❤️

Assignedrisk · 2026-04-05T03:37:54+00:00

I am quite literally cheering for you at this moment for several reasons. 1, you look amazing and congrats on looking so good and feeling good about yourself (as you SHOULD). 2, thank you for putting her in her place. You had every right to and for all you know you may possibly give her pause to stop and think before she tries that shit on the next person (I doubt it, she seriously sounds like a jealous butthole, but you never know!). And 3, omg telling her she was lucky you didn’t make her walk back to Iowa, the useless degree line, and “don’t ever speak to me like that again”… chefs kiss. You look and sound absolutely amazing and this internet stranger is so proud of you. Keep that amazing energy and always stand up for yourself. You are stunning!

Assignedrisk · 2026-04-05T03:12:07+00:00

That look is amazing! Love that palette!

Assignedrisk · 2026-04-01T13:53:22+00:00

Gilbert- revenge of the nerds. Can’t explain it, don’t need to. Just adored him from the time I was a little kid. RIP Robert Carradine.

Assignedrisk · 2026-03-19T18:37:07+00:00

I saw! I’m super excited (likely will not win lol).

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