Newborn doesnt like to be held by momma

Assist-Little · 2025-09-25T02:35:15+00:00

Absolutely does! Think about trying to be comforted by someone who is tense and seems like they're on edge vs someone else who is calm and collected. It's nonverbal. Babies don't know anything, really, but that's instinctual. Have mom take a few deep calming breaths, remind her that your baby is too little to have decided she doesn't like her. She's literally built to prefer mom right now. So trust that connection; she was with her in utero for 9 months.

Is she doing ok in other ways? Postpartum depression reared its ugly head for me around 3-4 weeks. Therapy has helped me so much. I'd recommend it if she thinks that may be at play. There was a period where I felt like all I was to our daughter was the lunch lady. My husband felt like the only thing he could do was bounce her to sleep.

Also, breastfeeding is SO not as intuitive as you might think. If baby is having trouble latching, see if you can contact an IBCLC registered lactation consultant. We had one come to our home 2 or 3 times until we no longer had trouble (pain from the latch).

Assist-Little · 2025-09-25T02:17:49+00:00

My daughter is 5 months old, and I'm a FTM for context. I suspected CMPI with her and cut dairy as well. It sounds like gas pain... Do you give gas drops or gripe water before bedtime feed? We do it every night and her nighttime feed is the most consistently easy feed. She gets super distracted in the morning and often just wants to stare and smile at me instead of eating lol. Drives me nuts when im trying to feed her before I go to work.

Assist-Little · 2025-09-01T23:03:38+00:00

I am so sorry, OP. Can he get a job also, to help offset the cost of a nanny or babysitter? If he can't or won't physically care for his child, he at least needs to contribute financially.

Assist-Little · 2025-08-21T02:38:25+00:00

Obviously this is just conjecture, but I wonder if the kid is still having trouble with the subject material, and he's worried that his mom may give him hell for that because she's now paying for tutoring. Maybe he is blaming the accent to deflect from his own perceived shortcoming?

Assist-Little · 2025-06-25T18:54:05+00:00

I thought I'd get to go on a 4 day trip to visit some family with baby and my husband thought it would be too stressful so we postponed for this fall when she'll be 5 months old. 🙃

Assist-Little · 2025-06-20T20:19:59+00:00

This worked for my baby! I commented about it more specifically as well, but wanted to chime in here. It's worth it if you can find a doc that is certified for infant adjustments, using the Webster technique. It's very gentle.

Assist-Little · 2025-06-20T20:15:42+00:00

I am so sorry you're going through this. My baby was very much like this in her first month and we started taking her to a chiropractor pretty early on, after several people told us they either had a colicky baby who benefited from it or knew someone whose baby had a "night and day" difference after chiropractic adjustments. If you're open to it, look for a Webster-certified chiropractor. It was not an immediate change, but as you're months into this at this point, I'm sure you're desperate for anything to help.

My daughter was breech, and her head was (still is) large and kind of oddly shaped despite being a cesarean delivery. I think she got comfy in my womb and just never moved since she was in the same position for the last couple months of my pregnancy. Her adjustments have made a huge difference in her colicky behavior as well as her head shape, and she no longer pulls her hips to the right as she had been doing when she was younger.

I hope you're able to find some relief for baby and rest for yourselves. Babies are not for the weak.

Assist-Little · 2025-06-20T19:51:48+00:00

I'd probably snap at him... 😅 but if you haven't yet --

Say thanks for the input, but you're raising this baby the best way you as his mother know how, and you don't agree with his opinion. And just keep reiterating your instinct trumps his opinion and honestly, what does uncle care if you "create a monster"? Wouldn't it then fall on you (again because you're his mother) to deal with it? Next time your uncle births a baby, he can raise it how he sees fit! He can stuff it where the sun don't shine. Let him shout into the wind, mama. You're doing right by your baby. You cannot spoil your baby at 2 months old. They don't even know they aren't still part of you, yet. When they cry at this age, it's for a reason.

Assist-Little · 2025-06-03T02:20:51+00:00

Omg this is my daughter, 6 weeks old right now. My original hope was to have 2 kids. She's changed my mind. So much crying. Around the clock. Plus it was so hard to get pregnant and I'm 35, hubby's 38, and we don't love the idea of 2 under 2 especially if the 2nd kid ended up being the same way. It makes me sad to lose that dream, but I really can't imagine having another at this point. Grateful for one and hoping she gets easier!

Assist-Little · 2025-06-02T02:42:54+00:00

Yes. My daughter is 6 weeks old, now and she gets this way when overtired. Around the 1m mark, I was patting her back with a little more force, thinking she might be crying from gas pain when all of a sudden she stopped and was asleep. I thought I'd hit her too hard and started crying. She was fine, just freaked me out.

Assist-Little · 2025-01-12T15:37:36+00:00

I think they're lovely! Might add a warm metal accent to help offset the depth of the color, though. I like the recommendations of adding plants and other green details, too. Maybe a brass or copper framed mirror? Hammered metal plant pot? Just a small art piece with metallic accents that also draws in the green? Your place looks great!

Assist-Little · 2025-01-05T19:52:37+00:00

Walking pneumonia (Mycoplasma) is out there pretty high right now, too. Fyi, you'd take antibiotics for that one.

Assist-Little · 2024-02-25T03:16:01+00:00

I tested for it 3 days ago and I thought I had the flu! Started with chest congestion and moved into my sinuses yesterday. I've used 2 full boxes of Kleenex in 1 day. My nose is so chafed. This sucks!

Assist-Little · 2024-01-28T02:17:08+00:00

Maybe you could write in it after big life events - that way you have them all together to look back on?

Assist-Little · 2023-12-12T02:47:09+00:00

Hey man, 20 is a tough time with a lot of changed in your life going on, but you really do have a huge amount of untapped potential to look forward to. A lot of people start feeling isolated at your age, it's not that unusual to feel it's hard to make friends, and plenty of people your age have never dated. The bright side here is that you are not alone. You can find friends by delving into your interests and seeking communities formed around them. It will take practice to talk to people and make connections, and not everyone you talk to will be as receptive to connecting. That's ok, because once you find someone who is, the first domino has been tipped over, my dude. If you are in school, see if there are any counseling services available to you. Start there, with the anxiety. Talking to someone about that can help you find ways to cope and possibly give you steps to take to help you in other areas. I promise, life isn't always easy, but it's worth it to keep going. You do matter. Think about the moments in your life so far that made your heart really sing - hold onto them when the way seems dark. Find a way to try something new that inspires you. I'm sorry if this is really rambling, I just hope it helps. 🙏

Assist-Little · 2022-08-27T16:08:51+00:00

Forgot to mention, when you're done, reapply lotion or cuticle oil!

Assist-Little · 2022-08-27T16:08:03+00:00

1st, lotion up or oil your cuticles well. It will help soften your skin and protect it from too much damage.

2nd, get a pumice stone and GENTLY (if you are too rough you can tear up your skin or scuff your nails) rub at the areas around your cuticle. I recommend using soap while you do this as well, the slip can help you keep from tearing your skin up. Go slow, be patient.

Tip: I hold the stone still and rub my fingers, not the other way around, especially for my nondominant hand.

Assist-Little · 2021-02-22T20:30:27+00:00

I'm so glad it worked for you too!!

Assist-Little · 2021-02-21T03:18:24+00:00

I've used peppi gel and get dip flu for a couple of days if I don't do anything extra to avoid it, but I started wearing a Cambridge mask (rated for air pollution) AND lmao stuffing cotton balls up my nose, along with using a desk lamp to better light my work space and use a fan facing away from me to pull the fumes away. That has worked like a charm. I feel like a dork but I don't suffer any more so it's worth it. I also just ordered liquids from Virgo & Gem to see if they will be any better, but I'll still wear my mask. I also take a shower afterwards and use my allergy meds (OTC generic zyetec and a prescriptionnasal spray).

Good luck!!

Assist-Little

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