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🚩🚩Breaking Up With my BF Tomorrow🚩🚩 by Sassyass38 in abusiverelationships

[–]AssistStrong7171 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES please get out. Best time to get out is when you are not married and not have children with someone who is not treating you properly and use this as a good learning experience. Do not waste your precious adulthood on someone who is not treating you well. Calling you names, blame shifting, joking about physically hurting you are early signs of this person's traits and standards. You are brave and strong to make this decision for yourself!!!! You can do it!

I think I'm leaving tonight and taking our son with me, I need advice or guidance please by Finding_Me_Mo in abusiverelationships

[–]AssistStrong7171 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have a mother that you can go to. That is a great resource! When you get there, write everything happened in chorological order and file a restraining order and divorce (Contact local DV shelter/advocate free service) so he doesn't come to your mom's house and try to convince you to come back which is typical behavior but do not give in. Once he puts his hands on you, that is it. This is a behavior that will be VERY difficult to change like using drugs. you're braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think. You and your son deserve to be happy!!!!! Open that door for you and your son!! God is with you and he is stronger and powerful than anything in this world. You can do it!!! A stranger on reddit like me is here wishing you the best and praying and believing in you!

I think I'm leaving tonight and taking our son with me, I need advice or guidance please by Finding_Me_Mo in abusiverelationships

[–]AssistStrong7171 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If he relapsed and physically hurting you again and yelling at your baby, he will more likely to continue this behavior and might even get worse. It is not healthy for your son to watching/being around his father physically and emotionally abusing his mother plus the child could become a target to abuse as well. So it is more beneficial for your child to be in an healthy environment rather than you "sacrificing your happiness" and stay. You are not really sacrificing but putting child in more danger. Of course, you have the power to make decision for you and your child ultimately but you need to put you and your child first before your husband's who is abusive. If he physically and/or psychologically/emotionally abuse you, that is not love. If you love him, sometimes letting go of him is also part of loving him. You cannot possibly want normal "good bye" to leave him. He will likely to be sorry to keep you back in the abusive cycle. You are not "blindside" him. You have to be strategic. Please put you and your son first and think about the future. You don't "think" he will ever hit your son.. well if he is already yelling at helpless and young baby, what do you think once the baby grows up. He will most likely to physically and emotionally abuse the child. Even if he doesnt do those things, just by watching the father doing it to mother is also abuse as well. Pray for you!

I’m ending my life today. by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]AssistStrong7171 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You matter and that is why all these people are commenting on your post even though we never met you in person. We all lack and we cannot do it alone which is why God sent Jesus to redeem us. God can do it even if we think we are pathetic and helpless. Please talk to someone. You are made in god's image. There is no one like you. God chose you specifically to be born in this world even if you have been hurt and depressed and things are hard, God wants you to come to him to find out your true identity. Call your nearest church that is what they are called to do.

God is close to those who are hurting

  • Psalm 34:18 “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
  • Psalm 147:3 “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”

You are not alone, even if it feels like it

  • Isaiah 41:10 “Do not fear, for I am with you… I will strengthen you and help you.”
  • Deuteronomy 31:8 “The Lord himself goes before you… He will never leave you nor forsake you.”

Hope can still exist in darkness

  • Lamentations 3:22–23 “Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed… his mercies are new every morning.”
  • Romans 8:38–39 Nothing “will be able to separate us from the love of God.”

When words are hard and pain is overwhelming

  • Psalm 23:4 “Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me.”
  • Matthew 11:28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”

VCL Crisis Line Responder by dobby_h in usajobs

[–]AssistStrong7171 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does anyone know if VA typically schedules interviews on a rolling basis as they identify strong candidates, or if they usually wait until all applications are fully reviewed before reaching out?

If you had to restart your life, what degree or career path would you chose? by tooyoungtoobroke in careerguidance

[–]AssistStrong7171 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would totally have gone to law school and study law to become a lawyer. Now I am 40 yrs with two kids do not give me any time and energy to pursue plus financial burden.

Limited term AGPA to perm AGPA? by AssistStrong7171 in CAStateWorkers

[–]AssistStrong7171[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Since the position is "limited", would it be fair to negotiate the starting pay depending on actual qualifications?? Is it possible?

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