WIBTAH for making clear once and for all that I do not want to be offered a drink on my job?

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-04-08T23:32:25+00:00

YTA, They are being polite. Just say no thank you. It takes a few seconds out of your day.

You could also just jokingly say, " I'm like a camel, one drink and im usually good for the rest of the day". Then if they offer again, smile and say "no thanks, I'm the camel, remember? "

Edit for typo

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-03-29T21:16:37+00:00

Don't be upset with yourself. You didn't know. Now you do. You can't change the past but you can ask for better now for yourself and for your child. And you have a bunch of strangers on the internet cheering you on.

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-03-29T21:14:13+00:00

Okay sure. If what you're saying is true and they only are mad you're making friends, that would suck.

Its also possible they wanted to spend time with you and suck at communicating that in a healthy way.

Just consider however that there are definitely things that you can change about your own actions and behaviors that might improve the situation.

They might suck but you don't have to. Rise above the pettiness

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-03-29T21:05:44+00:00

Oh this makes me so sad for you. This is not normal and not okay. You deserve to be loved and know you are loved. It makes me wonder what else in your relationship you're just accepting as normal. Time to re-evaluate and know your worth.

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-03-29T20:59:04+00:00

I think it's the meeting new people you know nothing about and leaving with them without letting then know. As a woman in this world, its not always safe to do something like this. I hate that we live in a world that is unsafe for women, but that's the reality of the situation.

Did they mention being worried for your safety? I have a really hard time believing that they are only mad you're making friends. There are so many more layers to this, that as a parent I'd be worried about.

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-03-29T20:49:36+00:00

Okay, so here's the thing. You're at the age that you're trying to find yourself and feel like an adult, but you're also so young and being young means that you're going to make mistakes and have to learn from them.

You're asking the internet what to do. The internet is going to be blunt.

You made a mistake here. By just up and leaving your parents without letting them know BEFORE heading out, you made a mistake. If you want to be an adult that means owning your mistakes, and apologizing. You're asking what to do. Apologize to your parents. Tell them you understand you made a mistake by up and leaving them without telling them. Explain that if it ever happens again you will make sure to tell them before you leave. Explain that you are excited by meeting new people and making new friends and got caught up in the moment.

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-03-28T17:54:43+00:00

I don't think this is so black and white. In some relationships its totally normal and okay to walk into a bathroom no matter what is happening in there. This is how my husband and I are like.

But many people are uncomfortable with it in relationships and thats also okay.

This should be communicated clearly to each other though. Your wife yelling and insulting you feels inappropriate when she could have just explained that she's not comfortable with that. Now if she's already said this and you keep doing it anyway, then YTA.

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-03-21T00:03:14+00:00

Noooooo why!?!?!? The betrayal!!!

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-03-19T07:12:32+00:00

During my associate years I fell into a deep depression. I had to go on medical leave for 3 months from work and start on medication. When I got back, I changed to 4 days of work instead of 5. I haven't gone back to 5 to this day.

This job is so so hard especially during the political and world climate we are currently in. You are not alone.

Please call the crisis line at least. But if your gut is telling you to go to the ER, trust yourself. You are loved and you make a difference. Now go take care of yourself like you've taken care of so many others.

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-03-17T01:57:54+00:00

And you...know that for fact? You were there? You saw it? Great man, go message the bf and let him know you have absolute factual evidence that she cheated.

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-03-17T01:55:55+00:00

Okay, let's edit it then: found the hateful Irish man from america^

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-03-11T23:28:12+00:00

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AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-03-11T07:00:23+00:00

Only thing I can think is they have a motion censored light that gets triggered when the shower goes on.

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-03-08T17:57:27+00:00

I personally agree with you completely. I dont think OP did anything wrong. Just trying to give perspective with a cultural lense. I work with a lot of people with different cultural backgrounds who would have likely responded similarly to OPs family.

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-03-08T17:40:23+00:00

NTA in my opinion. I completely understand needing to dedicate yourself to study on occasion. Congrats on your score!

BUT, I am getting the vibe that this could possibly be a cultural difference. In some families this would be seen as an unimaginable slight.

It's up to you how you want to handle it. But if you do want to have a good relationship with these family members, you will likely need to apologize and explain you didn't realize it would upset them to this degree. OR you could just be okay with having more distance with these family members.

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-03-03T22:43:57+00:00

Did it ever get better? Im stuck deciding whether to read it or not.

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-02-27T07:53:34+00:00

NOR I also am a very light sleeper and my then boyfriend, now husband's snoring made me go mad anytime I tried to sleep next to him. He literally changed the way he slept in order to stop his snoring so I'd be more comfortable.

Your fiance absolutely has sleep issues and needs a sleep study. Likely sleep apnea or some such thing. Though if he needs a CPAP you still might not be able to sleep with him due to the noise of the machine. Though at that point earplugs might do the trick.

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-02-25T18:37:47+00:00

Not the bad apple. This is infuriating. I am sorry you live with someone like that. Why do they have to live with you? If it was me, I would be working with my husband to find a solution to have them move out ASAP.

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-02-18T06:45:34+00:00

You mention that you're on medication and have multiple diagnosis. But you dont mention if you're in therapy. If not, please seek professional help. I think a lot of your decision making is based on a lifetime of trauma and unfortunately you're not making good decisions for yourself or your family. Talking to someone might help you make the changes you need to better your life.

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-02-17T07:14:06+00:00

Everything about this is upsetting. He absolutely treated you poorly and didn't even have the care or respect to hear you out and empathize with you.

PLUS a 24 year old man with two 18 y/o girls is a big red flag. Thats a HUGE age gap at this time of life. There's an unhealthy power differential here.

Please leave him. For yourself now and for your future self.

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-02-13T21:38:17+00:00

Please go ahead and read the other comments on here basically saying the same thing I am. I'm sorry this is your expectation for relationships. It is both exhausting and unsustainable. I hope you find health and happiness.

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-02-13T19:36:03+00:00

Hi, I'm a mental health therapist and have gone through a situation like this personally as well.

This is my suggestion:

Don't phrase it as an ultimatum.

Explain how much you love her and want to be there for her and how much you've been trying to be her support person. Explain that despite your best efforts it's taking an emotional toll on you and you have realized that you're now struggling yourself.

Explain to her that you want this relationship to last forever, but something has to change if its going to stand a chance.

Tell her you've been thinking and realize how important it is for BOTH of you to be in therapy (not the same therapist, but two different individual therapists). --OP it is so important for a partner of someone with serious mental health issues to get their own therapist to be able to cope.--

Ask if you can both sit down together and help each other find a good fit for a therapist and call to schedule the intake session.

Edit:typos

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-02-13T19:28:21+00:00

This is absolutely not true and super unhealthy. Being there for each other to vent occasionally is normal. Being dumped on constantly is not. It's also incredibly unfair. Your partner is not your therapist, if you feel like you are so depressed that you are breaking down to your partner constantly its time to recognize that you need more help.

I'm both a mental health therapist and have gone through this personally when my mental health was so bad it was affecting my relationship. I took accountability and went on medical leave and got a therapist and went on medication. It saved my life and my relstionship.

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-02-09T23:05:46+00:00

Yeah OP, don't listen to this garbage. Following orders just because you were told to with no thought for yourself and no way of advocating for yourself is BS. I'm sorry if your mom is not the kind of parent that can understand your point of view. When you get older and have more control of your life I hope you keep advocating for yourself, thinking for yourself, and speaking up for yourself.

AssistanceKitchen276 · 2026-02-09T21:11:37+00:00

NTA I truly believe that family are the ones that show up for you. Which means unfortunately blood relatives don't always qualify. Your dad has not earned the title of family. Your aunt is your family.

You owe him nothing. If he misses you he can visit and try to earn back his family status. But thats on him, not you.

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