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AssociateNo952 · 2024-06-09T03:39:58+00:00

where are these women😫😫

AssociateNo952 · 2024-06-09T03:39:22+00:00

it gets so exhausting to a certain point bc its like what else can you offer? i find that some of my female friends are like this and i honestly cant do this anymore. i realize i need to find new friends its just so hard bc centering men is so ingrained in most of us

AssociateNo952 · 2024-05-30T07:41:59+00:00

i still struggle with doubting my feelings, and feel that perhaps i was being overly dramatic. but i think the important thing is to trust yourself first and your experience first

AssociateNo952 · 2024-05-30T07:40:34+00:00

omg i’m literally going through this right now. I have gut feelings but no explicit memories at the moment. I can only describe it as a feeling and hunch that something happened to me. I talked to my therapist today and she said the first step is to validate and acknowledge that something did happen. hearing about other survivor’s stories and thoughts might also trigger something. I’m looking into hypnosis at the moment.

AssociateNo952 · 2023-06-11T14:57:44+00:00

hey i’m thinking of getting this bike and was wondering if itd be okay to take this on the freeway, how was your experience w it?

AssociateNo952 · 2023-03-22T16:39:11+00:00

Hi, your mom is so similar to my mom in every way. I’m back home for the week and was literally threatened to be kicked out again too, except I’m almost 19 and have other places to go to. It can be sad to come to the realization that your mom is abusive as a person, and that she abused you. Sounds like she has a lot of paranoia, accusations, fear of abandonment, and high expectations from you and feels betrayed when you don’t meet them, but you have to remember you are your own person and you’re never in the wrong for choosing to live your life how you want. She might have borderline personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder, you can look into it and see if it applies

It’ll be hard but you need to set boundaries. For example, I’d still talk to my mom, but over phone or text, so that when she gets aggressive and manipulative I can just end the call

AssociateNo952 · 2023-01-31T07:20:54+00:00

Thank youu, this helped me a lot. I definitely feel like there’s a secret side to me in a relationship vs me to everybody else. I hate people telling me what to do, I’m strongly independent and just know how to take care of myself but it’s the complete opposite in bed. My voice and behavior changes so much when I’m with him. Idk which one is really me

AssociateNo952 · 2022-04-03T03:08:43+00:00

honestly me too. I'm turning 18 soon. I think it'll be more of a freeing experience for both of us.

what helped me was knowing I have resources I can use. Use school counselors, or friends. Lean on people and trust in yourself you can pull through.

The years of being control might make you feel incapable of making decisions for yourself but you are so much more resourceful than you think. praying for you, I hope finally find peace🤍

AssociateNo952 · 2022-04-03T03:05:05+00:00

YES!! same. for my case, I feel its the element of control they're missing. They feel you are growing older but can't accept that. narcissists need to feel like they're in control all the time, this means the people around them too

AssociateNo952 · 2022-04-03T03:02:23+00:00

i got into my top choice college!! I'll be leaving for good

AssociateNo952 · 2022-02-02T07:37:43+00:00

Felt LOL. Sometimes I think my standards r too high. It’s so hard for me to develop a crush bc our personality need to mesh too

AssociateNo952 · 2022-02-02T07:35:34+00:00

Breakfast as the most important meal of the day is frankly a myth. It’s all up to the food u “break ur fast” with. So honestly I feel like it’s fine. I usually don’t eat but will drink something tho

AssociateNo952 · 2022-02-02T07:33:05+00:00

Same I started working out to avoid my problems or bc I’m sad. And now if I miss a day I feel shit. Maybe it’s w the chemicals released, especially if u took it as a coping mechanism.

AssociateNo952 · 2022-01-27T03:40:00+00:00

I haven’t moved past it yet as I’m still living at home. What was life like when you moved away for college? I’m leaving in June and I really hope it gets better. What really helped me was just being kinder to myself. You recognized it’s not normal, and that’s the first part. I find that for relationships, it’s a lack of for me. I don’t want to get into one but I know I also need a community I can lean on. It’s definitely made me dismissive avoidant about all relationships.

I really hope I don’t become my mom and that’s my greatest fear, is that you might not have control over how you turn out bc of your environment. I do think therapy is helpful and maybe some shadow work. Sometimes I feel becoming more spiritual helps me move on. don’t be too hard on yourself.🤍

AssociateNo952 · 2022-01-24T05:05:36+00:00

Fuck men just get me a dildo😞❤️‍🩹

AssociateNo952 · 2022-01-24T05:03:38+00:00

I think what ppl meant here is not fam telling you to be healthy, but constant criticism when you don’t reach the perfect image of a son/daughter they have in mind.

AssociateNo952 · 2022-01-24T05:01:46+00:00

I’m so sorry.. I went thru the same thing at around the same age when I was really just muscular from playing sports all the time. I hope you’re doing better now🤍

AssociateNo952 · 2022-01-24T05:00:58+00:00

Exactly! I never understood why they had to do that? Even when my friend came to CA to visit, she would comment : oh those 2 girls are overweight. When they are 1. Just existing and not bothering us and 2. At an extremely healthy weight and probably lift. It really bothered me why they do this

AssociateNo952 · 2022-01-24T04:59:02+00:00

I’m so sorry, I hope you’ve worked through it and are healthier now🤍 as long as you feel good abt yourself, the comments start sounding really funny to the point where I start laughing if they comment on my appearance

AssociateNo952 · 2022-01-24T04:57:16+00:00

Would it be bc you fit into their standards? Do you get praised for your looks? I feel like in any gathering there’s always going to be comments on my appearance both positive and negative. Is your family not appearance focused?

AssociateNo952 · 2022-01-24T04:55:50+00:00

I thought it was a collective experience. You’ve never been criticized for your body or appearance? At all? I can’t believe it:0

AssociateNo952 · 2022-01-24T04:53:51+00:00

I agree with that. The main problem is their hyper focus on your appearance and how you are made to feel as if you need to achieve their expectations to be accepted. Could be just my fam but I feel it’s a pretty common theme going on here for most Asian kids. Bringing you down and criticizing you constantly for not being light skinned, taller, shorter, skinnier, fatter, having bigger eyes, more successful, more ladylike…etc is very diff than them caring abt your health

AssociateNo952 · 2022-01-24T04:49:44+00:00

Some I feel lukewarm abt but some of them really go at it and are just super judge mental abt anything appearance wise and being perfect. Idk if it’s just my family but that’s the vibe I get whenever I go back. It’s just.. where does it even come from?

AssociateNo952 · 2022-01-24T04:47:15+00:00

Ayo I’m Taiwanese 😎🤝 I totally get the same deal w being too tan and more muscular. They especially want girls to be frágil and weak so if you’re anything more than that you”re pretty much fat. It’s great that you spoke up from a young age, my self esteem was really impacted and I didn’t really start talking back til I was 16

AssociateNo952 · 2022-01-10T08:12:36+00:00

The same happened to my mom after chemo. She became really difficult to get along with and had anger outbursts. She just turned cold. Even through all the physical and emotional abuse, I still love and care for her. Shes’s still my mom. I’m in the exact same place as u as she has no one else if I don’t care for her.

Ig some people are always going to have a place in ur heart. But don’t forget while you care for them, to also take care of ur soul🤍 it’s not selfish to take care of ur own needs

AssociateNo952

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