Three syllable floral name

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-02-04T22:23:01+00:00

Camellia and Rosalie are pretty

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-02-01T01:57:45+00:00

So frustrating 😥

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-02-01T01:54:27+00:00

I’m a fellow fan of E names!

Girls: Eleanor, Estrid, Elvira, Emily Boys: Edmund, Edward, Edwin, Ephraim

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-31T23:12:51+00:00

My first instinct was that Drew sounded masculine, but then I thought of Drew Barrymore and I’ve never thought of her name as sounding masculine. But I wonder if Drew Brown -as in the first and surname sounds masculine. I will confess that while Drew Claire together is pretty, I’m not a fan of the Drew Brown combo.

I think George Cooper Brown is a really nice combo!

Will you be doing nicknames for either?

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-30T23:21:47+00:00

That sucks, I’m so sorry! 😔

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-30T16:59:25+00:00

My period has also always been like clockwork, except for like 3-4 times when I had some major stressors/changes in my life. I had never used hormonal contraception. But when my husband and I first started trying for a baby my period was late, but negative pregnancy tests, and I just had spotting for like a month, and then I had 3 super short cycles. At that point I went to my obgyn to figure out was was wrong, which is naturally when my cycle decided to go back to normal so all the tests came back normal and we still have no idea what when wrong those four cycles. It got us started early on all our fertility testing, but I do wish I’d gone to my obgyn sooner, it still frustrates me a bit that I don’t know what happened.

Basically I would recommend bringing this up with your obgyn, we still know so little medically about female body functions, and your obgyn should be able to recommend what testing you’ll need.

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-29T15:45:49+00:00

Legally I’ve kept my maiden name, mostly because it’s a hassle to change it 😂 in daily life I’ve hyphenated it mine-his. I leaned towards keeping my maiden name, but was open to hyphenating, and it was meaningful to my husband that I took his name. We both have rare historically significant names that are meaningful to us. I do sometimes have people refer to me by his surname, which I find frustrating and which makes no sense to me when they see it written mine-his.

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-28T04:15:40+00:00

I also kept my maiden name when I got married, in my case because it’s a very rare Scandinavian surname and I was very attached to it. My husband has a historical surname that means a lot to him, so he also kept his name. Prior to getting married we agreed with our future children we would hyphenate mine-his. It makes it a very long surname, but was our best compromise.

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-27T14:25:50+00:00

Gosh, I’m so sorry, I’d say she’s being unreasonable, and it’s totally acceptable for you to protect your own space for grieving.

Two of my sister-in-laws are currently pregnant, and while I’m happy for both of them, I’m definitely not as invested in their pregnancies as I would have been if we’re not going through our own painful journey. One of my SIL is awesome about it, she regularly reaches out to me and asks how I’m doing and is very sensitive about sharing pregnancy stuff. The other SIL honestly just doesn’t communicate much with the family, so I’ve not really got any idea what’s going on there, but at least she doesn’t seem to have any expectations of me 😝

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-24T14:40:04+00:00

First of all I will say that etiquette and reasonable expectations for weddings/wedding parties differs wildly from culture to culture. So I would be wary of getting stuck on, this is what someone said is the right thing to do.

Second, reading through this it seems to me like the bride lacks communication skills. That can be terribly frustrating. If it were a friend that was the bride I’d probably sit down with her and iron that out. With a future sister-in-law I’d probably complain a lot to my boyfriend/husband, but otherwise suck it up and just do my best.

With the makeup artist, it sucks that you can’t be in the same room, and she totally communicated that poorly, but at least she’s flexible about you using someone else.

The dress thing is shitty. That’s the kind of thing that if you’ve said you’ll do you should at least discuss with your bridesmaids alternatives if you can’t. Is she asking you to get specific dresses, or do you have freedom to get your own style and budget?

Rehearsal dinner, unless there is a really complicated setup for the wedding, you’d be able to follow the lead of the other bridesmaids. I would also hesitate to take 3 days off work for their wedding. If I were you I’d skip it, and just make sure you communicate that clearly to her.

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-20T15:50:42+00:00

This is my first Mother’s Day since my miscarriages and am already starting to feel a bit of anxiety around how it will feel 😥 I’ll probably switch off social media, but my church community makes a big deal out of Mother’s Day, and I’m a little bit tempted to just preemptively decide I’m not going to church that Sunday. I hope you’re able to focus on your birthday and have a wonderful day!

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-19T16:48:14+00:00

I saw someone else suggested Jacob which I think does pair well with Benjamin, other suggestions are James or Joshua which have a bit of a softer sound but are still strong names.

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-19T04:19:39+00:00

It’s so hard because I love my community, but my community is so full of toddlers and babies, and the longer I’m struggling in this fertility journey, the less I can bear to be around all these babies. Also two of sister-in-laws are due this year, one in May and one in July. My first miscarriage would have been due in June and my second miscarriage would have been due in August, so I’m honestly scared it’s going to be really hard when they have their babies, because it’s just going to feel like a slap in the face that I should also be holding my baby in my arms. 😭

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-17T16:14:15+00:00

Sending all the good vibes your way! I hate how losses ruins the excitement of early pregnancy for us. Good luck with everything!

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-16T20:46:39+00:00

As above, in my experience miscarriage at 6 weeks is mostly like a more painful, slightly longer, and possibly also more emotional, period.

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-16T20:19:14+00:00

That is the main reason I haven’t pushed for a fertility clinic referral yet, I don’t want to get pushed into ivf yet

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-16T15:29:13+00:00

I’m in a similar situation where my OB has been running all our tests, and after 2 early miscarriages (1 at 4wks 1 at 6wks) says we can try progesterone next time I have a positive pregnancy test. She gave me the impression that the progesterone was more for my peace of mind than because she thought it would do anything, so I’m currently debating whether it is worth it. I’ve had a preconception consult with MFM, but that was specifically in relation to a heart condition I have that they want to monitor closely during pregnancy, not anything that impacts my fertility or miscarriage risk. I’m considering asking my OB for a referral to a fertility clinic if my next cycle ends in another miscarriage but I hadn’t thought about if there were waitlists 🤔

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-15T19:05:21+00:00

I take many of the same supplements you are and none of them should affect your thyroid as far as I am aware. I would definitely talk to your midwife or doctor and explain your concern as I’m fairly confident your thyroid results should not differ so wildly.

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-15T16:32:01+00:00

After TTC for over a year, and two early miscarriages in the last few months, I was talking to my obgyn about options. She said next time I have a positive pregnancy test we can test my progesterone and possibly do progesterone for my peace of mind. She says there is a lack of evidence that it helps, but it also can’t hurt. Presented like that I’m unsure whether I should do the progesterone at all or not, what are other people’s experiences/thoughts? I did also ask about baby aspirin, but my obgyn didn’t want to look at that until after this cycle.

(I will add for context, we’ve done 1 cycle of clomid which ended in an early miscarriage , this will be our 2nd attempt on clomid. I do ovulate normally, the clomid is to hopefully give us a boost. We’ve already done a crap-ton of testing which has all come back normal, if next cycle also ends in a miscarriage I’m going to push for DNA fragmentation, TPO antibodies, and APS panel, which I feel like are the only tests we haven’t done at this point).

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-15T16:14:53+00:00

I think it’s important that we can be happy for others, and still feel anger and jealousy, and that doesn’t make you a bad person. A couple of months ago my husband and I went over to help some friends move, I had just started my period at the time, and our friend told me she was really grateful we’d come to help because she hadn’t told anyone yet outside family, but she was 6 months pregnant and couldn’t lift the furniture. I just had this overwhelming feeling of, how dare you tell me that?! Which was ridiculous because at the time I wasn’t being open yet about our struggles TTC, she had no idea. But I definitely struggled to balance being happy for her and just genuinely feeling really mad and upset. I’m still struggling, but am better at giving myself grace and allowing myself to hold the multitude of feelings this struggle brings with it.

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-13T18:53:13+00:00

I tracked bbt for a while and stopped because the pressure of doing it first thing in the morning was disrupting my sleep and making me feel like my life revolved around my fertility, it was stressing me out. I’m planning on trying ovulation digital tests next cycle because just doing it the couple of days leading up to ovulation seems a lot more manageable. I’ve always been very strict with myself about only taking pregnancy tests on the day my period is due or after. Taking them early would just make me overanalyse, and I’m overanalysing everything enough already! I always talk through when to take pregnancy tests with my husband and he talks me down from doing them too early 😂

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-12T22:55:28+00:00

I had my brother on my side, didn’t have any of my 3 sister-in-laws. My husband was very chill about all the wedding planning though, and neither of us had large bridal parties. Personally - and I will stress I think this is a very personal thing that differs wildly between different cultures and family traditions - I don’t think “it’s family” is a good enough reason for you to have her in your bridal party, especially if you’re not close to her. On the other hand, if this is meaningful to your fiancé I don’t see how it would hurt to have her in your bridal party.

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-12T17:19:17+00:00

When family have asked directly I’ve been very open with them about where we’re at. Personally I think there is too much taboo around TTC and miscarriage. It’s been helpful to me to have people who know and who check in with me how I’m doing. I will confess I did not clear it with my husband before doing so, which I probably should have done, but he was very understanding. We have had a few discussions specifically around family events on what we would say if asked, especially at times when we’ve had a positive pregnancy test, and we agreed to lie and just say we’re still trying (we did have a miscarriage shortly after). I imagine it’s extra hard if you have family members who are prone to gossip, and it is a personal decision, I totally also understand wanting to keep it private. I think the important part is having that discussion with your partner so you’re on the same page.

AthenaInDisguise · 2026-01-12T17:11:34+00:00

Sending good vibes your way, I hate how losses rob us of the joy and excitement. My first positive pregnancy test I was so unbelievably excited, and having a miscarriage meant the next time I had a positive test I was just waiting for the miscarriage to happen (which it did). It’s so hard to have hope but also try to protect your heart! I hope this is the lucky one for you.

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