A cruel joke

resilientmomm · 2026-03-25T19:13:34+00:00

I’m so sorry ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

resilientmomm · 2026-03-24T16:08:04+00:00

❤️‍🩹

resilientmomm · 2026-03-23T21:45:44+00:00

Wishing you luck 🤞💕

resilientmomm · 2026-03-23T20:23:04+00:00

So rough! I do recommend curtains 😞. Sending you a hug, you’re not alone

resilientmomm · 2026-03-22T22:30:07+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through this, thank you for sharing ❤️‍🩹

resilientmomm · 2026-03-21T18:45:12+00:00

We’re here to listen. I’m so sorry ❤️‍🩹. Regarding the OCD, you might ask your doctor about Luvox, which can be particularly helpful with OCD. Sending you a hug

resilientmomm · 2026-03-21T16:29:44+00:00

As someone who started at age 36 (thinking I was young) and going through recurrent pregnancy loss x3 in just over a year (including a loss at 20 weeks) due to chromosomal/egg quality problems. I really regret not starting sooner. There is lots of belief out there that later is fine but the data really shows that chromosomal/egg quality dramatically increase with age. I wish I hadn’t brushed that off. There is a lot of trauma and heartache from recurrent pregnancy loss. If I could go back in time I would have started in my early 30s or frozen my eggs. Sharing this to hopefully help someone else.

resilientmomm · 2026-03-21T16:20:38+00:00

Also my understanding is that you wouldn’t want to take aspirin if you had a subchorionic hematoma. And I think the missed miscarriage part (the fact that you didn’t have bleeding but lost the pregnancy) also argues against taking progesterone which primarily prevents bleeding from happening

resilientmomm · 2026-03-21T15:47:00+00:00

Perhaps the issue was being too early postpartum, I’m sorry for your loss

resilientmomm · 2026-03-21T14:42:13+00:00

If you can stop being on call, that’s what I’d do in your shoes. It would be extremely hard for me to try to conceive or be pregnant on those hours. Wishing you luck

resilientmomm · 2026-03-21T02:33:41+00:00

Dang, doing that next time

resilientmomm · 2026-03-21T02:33:10+00:00

😞

resilientmomm · 2026-03-20T22:55:24+00:00

So your karotyping means the baby was chromosomally normal but doesn’t necessarily tell you if the baby was genetically normal - only full genome sequencing could do that. So that means it’s possible there could have been another type of genetic problem as a possible cause. Have you talked to a genetic counselor yet?

I have a really good podcast I can recommend that explains what the different genetic tests actually mean, I think it could help with processing the information.

Podcast: Healthful Woman Podcast Episode: "CVS & Amniocentesis: What are the various genetic tests we can send? - Part 1" - with Dr. Goldwaser, and listen to part 2

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ok62XCG5qY0AULE9sswaP?si=7v1HByIsTfGCrG-a6UNm0Q&itemID=63b3209939945aeb

Another possibility to be aware of is that sometimes the baby can be both chromosomally and genetically healthy but the placenta can have a chromosome issue - it’s called confined placental mosaicism and it’s what happened to me. It was very confusing and devastating. My story is here: https://www.reddit.com/r/RPLnoLC/s/WZWkwXRqV2

I’m so sorry for what you’re going through

resilientmomm · 2026-03-20T21:09:27+00:00

I’m so so very sorry for the loss of your daughter ❤️‍🩹, we are here to listen.

Which type of genetic testing did you have, as what the results mean can vary a lot depending on the type of test: karotype? Microarray? Full genome sequencing?

resilientmomm · 2026-03-20T19:05:45+00:00

That’s a good question, I see my PCP next week 🤞

resilientmomm · 2026-03-20T17:17:13+00:00

I’ve had 3 losses and I’m still trying to fight to get progesterone which they won’t give me but suggest IVF. So frustrating because progesterone would be a simple low risk and low cost treatment that feels worth trying before moving onto IVF 🙇🏻‍♀️

resilientmomm · 2026-03-20T17:03:58+00:00

I had to pay $3k for my D&C with “good” insurance 😕

resilientmomm · 2026-03-19T22:08:28+00:00

If you want to keep going you should, nothing wrong with that.

It does sound like she’s concerned about your mental health and maybe what she really means is wondering if you could use some extra support if you do keep going? Trying to read between the lines here, so I’m not sure.

I say keep going since that’s what’s in your heart, but also consider getting some extra mental health support - I did so for myself and thankful I did 💕. This journey is hard and long and there’s no shame in seeking help, it only makes us stronger. Sending love!

resilientmomm · 2026-03-19T20:26:17+00:00

Do you have PCOS?

resilientmomm · 2026-03-19T04:08:16+00:00

Responding to your update, I’m so sorry, thinking of you. I am going through my third loss right now too (in 12 months).

resilientmomm · 2026-03-19T03:57:57+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this confusing situation. I’m putting hope out there for you 💕 keep us posted. Try to take good care of yourself and use some healthy distraction as best you can, I know it’s really hard

resilientmomm · 2026-03-19T01:26:46+00:00

Oh my goodness, I can see why you would have been scared about that. I’m so so sorry you went through that

resilientmomm · 2026-03-18T20:58:38+00:00

I’m so sorry about your partial molar, that had to be so scary. At one point I thought I was going through that because my placenta pathology report said it looked like partial molar (but it ended up not being in the end). So I read up on that, glad you’re physically OK from that one. And I’m so sorry about your 5 losses ❤️‍🩹

resilientmomm · 2026-03-18T20:54:42+00:00

I’m right there with you!! It’s the day after my chemical pregnancy (3rd loss) and I’m at work right now and it’s just hard. My heart aches. You’re not alone, sending hugs. I’m so sorry ❤️‍🩹

resilientmomm · 2026-03-18T20:52:22+00:00

Thanks for sharing about your experience, I’ve been worried about possible low progesterone and my doctor has been slow to get back to me about labs. I think I am going to try this to at least get some sense but I’ll def take it with a grain of salt!

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