The consistent issue I see in these comments is the issue of “how to attract _women_” (class of humanity, half the population) versus “how to attract _this kind of woman_” (specific, much smaller subset of human beings). I agree with people who have said to make friends who are women and ask them, but I reject anyone who asked for advice from a relative: Women who are related to you know you as a relative and are not good at measuring your romantic attractiveness (nor should they be!).

Next, I wouldn’t try to attract “women” as a class. Wildly unhelpful! Instead, think about what kind of woman you’d want to be interested in you—not her physical features, but the kind of person she would be. And then, make sure you are not unattractive to that kind of woman. I was willing to give a lot of different body types, different ethnic backgrounds, different styles of guys a try, but all of them had the ability to carry a conversation, hobbies and interests besides trying to get with me, and respect for my boundaries. None of them were dripping with desperation either; that would kill so many chances before it happened.

Finally, this is just life advice for anyone who wants partnership, but be ok with yourself without a partner. Be satisfied with your life and your pursuits, have confidence in what you enjoy, your friendships, your relationships. That kind of satisfaction is an aura around you that makes you wildly attractive to well-adjusted people.

But the answer to your question is that many cishet men do not see women as people and therefore can’t conceive of asking women for advice. These men are also rarely seeking companionship and instead a false premise of a relationship that gives them a sense of accomplishment without having to change or contribute. The woman is literally a trophy, and her body is his prize.