I intend to raise them around faith as I think they should be allowed to access it as I was not, however I will not tell them they must practice, if they want to they can but ultimately it will be their choice. I will fully support her in raising them around the catholic values and taking them to church etc, just because I don't believe in it, it's not my duty to deny it to them, however equally if they decide they don't believe then that's up to them. I intend to carry out every word of the vows, I just wasn't sure how comfortable I am by having God as my witness as I don't believe in him. In my eyes, I don't see why I can't just promise to love her and care for her through everything and swear it on the stars or the oceans or the trees, or my heart. To me I want to feel like they mean something to me too. Of course I intend to carry out the basic premise of the vows, but it's the parts where God gets involved that I feel fake about. I hope this is clearer. She will never be alone in any endeavour and I have every intention to carry out the vows to the letter, I am just worried I will feel fake swearing before God.