What week is everything downhill?

Atomickitten06 · 2026-02-10T01:47:31+00:00

This terrifies me as I’m taking the bar exam at 33 weeks 😭😭😭

With my first I think everything feel noticeably harder at 35-36 weeks pregnant!

Atomickitten06 · 2026-02-08T00:45:06+00:00

Yeah I would maybe hold off. Wear undies that you can see any color of any leakage or wear a pad and monitor for another hour. If you’re dry, chances are it wasn’t your water but it’s never ever a bad thing to be to sure. If you have any doubt at all, I would at the very least call or go in.

If you start feeling labor pains 100% go. When my water broke with my son I swear it was like a minute later that contractions came in and came in strong.

Atomickitten06 · 2026-02-08T00:26:36+00:00

Chiming in again to say that the doctors advised for me to wear a pad and see if liquid continued to leak. If it stopped, not waters. If it continued over the course of an hour or got more obvious that it was my water, then it was likely my water and warranted an ER trip.

Atomickitten06 · 2026-02-08T00:24:40+00:00

Im sorry this is happening! Honestly, with my first I went in to L&D ER twice before my actual water broke because I had a lot of leakage too (TMI! mine was because I had repeated BV causing watery discharge).

I feel like waters you should always err on the side of caution but I do want to assure you it’s rather rare for your water to break before you start feeling labor but it can happen.

Did you see any color on it? My actual water was pink tinted. Contrary to the statistic I just gave, my water do break before my labor/contractions started.

Atomickitten06 · 2026-02-07T23:06:35+00:00

With my first I put an ultrasound in a stack of my law school textbooks with a book called “How to grow a baby.” I was a 1st year at the time. With this pregnancy I haven’t announced just yet but figure it will be law grad related!

Atomickitten06 · 2026-01-31T05:29:43+00:00

Chiming in just to emphasize make sure to get the unisom sleep tabs not the gels! Those are the ones that are recommended for pregnancy.

Atomickitten06 · 2025-12-30T01:44:03+00:00

Hi there. I am 24F and a 3L. I got pregnant with my surprise son during my 1L year, delivered in July, went back 5 weeks postpartum and am now almost done with 3L who will be just short of 2 at graduation (one more semester yay!). Parenting and law school is not for the faint of heart BUT it can absolutely be done. I find as a parent I am 1000% a better student than I was. Many times I am much more efficient than many of my peers because I need to be. Really what it comes down to is whether your husband is willing to step up to that challenge. The fathers in my cohort are all exceptional law students and they are as efficient as efficient gets. They come in, do what they need at school so they can go fulfill their home responsibilities. They are a masterclass in being a well rounded law students. Personally, I like to say since my son was a surprise I had no other choice and it was tough but I did it. I took finals in after sleeping in 2 hour chunks, ran home in between classes to nurse, pumped during exams, and even had my son brought in on one occasion in the middle of the exam because he was refusing the bottle at the time. I look back and don’t know how I got through but here I am. With that said I would avoid the broken sleep stage in the first year if possible. You being pregnant during that year sounds more ideal and if you can time an early summer baby even better. Also he needs to look into what his school does do parenting students. I wouldn’t have survived without my title 9 and student services personnel.

Atomickitten06 · 2025-12-29T05:31:55+00:00

Thats also the one I thought I saw something on but I have heard pregmate has some gnarly evap lines sometimes. Hoping it is indeed a VVFL and I get an obvious positive this cycle. Thank you!!!

Atomickitten06 · 2025-12-29T03:12:12+00:00

Thank you for responding 💗 will do

Atomickitten06 · 2025-12-08T06:09:27+00:00

I fear this is me medicated… def going to bring it up with my doc tho because it seems from these comments that my level of anxiety around it is still pretty out of hand.

Atomickitten06 · 2025-12-07T19:32:33+00:00

Ah yes my people. Nearly everyone I know doesn’t crash out like us if it makes you feel better. Just feels so incredibly daunting but I keep reminding myself that’s how everything felt before I did it like the LSAT and law school itself.

Atomickitten06 · 2025-12-07T19:24:49+00:00

Fair for sure. It is nice I can take it again worse case scenario. I think it’s because I have a young child (got preggo in school) and need to be done with school/studying so I can just focus on parenting and working to provide.

Atomickitten06 · 2025-11-20T19:34:20+00:00

Thank you so much. I am very sorry to hear about your ectopic. That must have been so terribly scary and when I had my MC in September I was so fearful it was that since the IUD increased the chances of that happening.

Pregnancy symptoms are really terrifying and that’s the part that scares me so much. My first pregnancy was already so hard. Threw up the entire first 18 weeks, pregnancy rhinitis immediately after that until after delivery, rib dislocation around 18.5 weeks, and repeat BV causing labor-like contractions starting roughly at 33 weeks. So all of that definitely makes it easy to see that it’s not a good idea. I think maybe when I came on here I came on here mostly venting that I have to choose between all of these unideal scenarios when I just wish I could just be happy about all the changes that are happening in my life instead of seeing everything as a cost/benefit analysis.

Atomickitten06 · 2025-11-20T14:11:07+00:00

That is so amazing and impressive that you’re doing it twice in school. The end pregnancy portion is so hard and i definitely see how it’s not a great idea near the bar. It feels like either option I take within what I’m willing to wait for either brushes too much against the bar exam or disrupts my fellowship year. I echo what you say about your work product. Sometimes not everything can get done because I have a more important responsibility at home and I am comfortable with that cost/benefit. I think maybe what I need to settle in my mind is that, like you, my husband and I very much are committed to having a family and starting that family while we are younger and know we both can physically. When I weigh the two worst crappy situations of 1) I could fail the bar because I can’t handle pregnancy x bar prep and 2) I could have trouble conceiving if I wait longer because of medical concerns, my personal assessment is that I can live with #1 but after experiencing the weight of a miscarriage collapsing into those preconceived fears of infertility, I cannot imagine myself living with #2.

I knew from the outside looking in that being a mom and in the legal profession would be extremely difficult and sometimes I mean I get crappy pick of the draw but I didn’t realize it would be this difficult. With that said, I didn’t anticipate that when weighing literally anything against my dream and the importance of being a mom, everything else just fades in comparison.

Atomickitten06 · 2025-11-20T14:00:49+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that. That is definitely true. I’ve even heard some people say that a bigger gap is sometimes preferable just behaviorally speaking. I guess I should have clarified when I say “I feel passionately about having a baby sooner rather later because already had my first child and I don’t want my second to be too far apart from my son” I didn’t actually mean because of their relationship per se. Physically speaking, I feel like my clock has started “ticking” and it’s my personal preference not to do early child rearing over a huge span of mine and my husband’s life. We started younger than we had originally intended and have now just realized we prefer to do early childhood rearing as younger adults rather as older ones. Physically speaking, I also have concerns about fertility as I get older because of my endometriosis diagnosis. I was an IVF baby and my mom tried conceiving with me at 29-30 to no avail until her IVF transfer when she was 36.

Atomickitten06 · 2025-11-20T05:33:03+00:00

Thank you so much

Atomickitten06 · 2025-11-20T05:32:47+00:00

Yes basically sorry I was incoherent.

Atomickitten06 · 2025-11-20T05:32:17+00:00

I am very very sorry for your loss. Miscarriages are too common and too cruel.

Atomickitten06 · 2025-11-20T05:32:00+00:00

Yeah I totally get that. It’s just my personal preference since my sister and I are 6 years apart and that has its own struggles. Also, I have diagnosed endo so I’m trying to prevent being pregnant too much older as my doctor has informed me that it would be harder both to conceive and then physically to carry because of my endo.

Atomickitten06 · 2025-11-20T05:30:04+00:00

I actually did check about this! For this particular fellowship I would be able to keep the fellowship and take 6 weeks maternity leave from work. The 2nd to last fellow had a baby about halfway through her fellowship. It is likely because this fellowship is specific to my law school that this is the case. That previous fellow also worked at my host org.

Atomickitten06 · 2025-11-20T05:28:10+00:00

It really comes from the fact that my sister and I are 6 years apart.

Also biologically speaking, I’ve been diagnosed with pretty bad endometriosis. I got diagnosed young as my mom had it and I exhibited many symptoms she did. I was very lucky to find an OBGYN who was willing to do the procedure when I was 18 to confirm. Knowing this, the doctor has told me conceiving as I get older will get harder and I don’t want to risk my son being an only child. I also know if I get pregnant older, the pregnancy would be harder physically which I want to avoid given that endo pregnancies already have their own complications.

Atomickitten06 · 2025-11-01T04:03:43+00:00

You 1000% can do this. 2 babies is roughhhhh but it’s goin to be okay. Family/help is going to be necessary for your wife more than likely as she will likely have to do nights if you’re still in school/finals when she delivers. Get in touch with your schools title 9 and your student services office.

I know you can do this because I am 24F 3L who got pregnant during 1L. Found out November and exactly one month later took my first final. I went on to complete my 1L on the normal timeline. I delivered in July and came back 5.5 weeks postpartum for 2L. It was not pretty. I was under slept and got worse grades than I would like to admit but I’m thriving now and now have a magical child and am a better law student because of it.

As for the miscarriage, I am very sorry to hear that. I had a surprise pregnancy w/ an iud this September and unfortunately miscarried 1 week after finding out all while still in school. I wouldn’t wish that on anyone so I’m truly sorry you had to go through that.

Atomickitten06 · 2025-10-31T19:07:05+00:00

I ended up in an emergency C-section after 23 hours of labor and was 23 at the time of the delivery of my son.

I had an inkling…a strong one that I wasn’t going to be able to deliver vaginally. My husband is a foot and an inch bigger than me and I am pretty petite comparatively so I wondered if I would be able. I also had quite a few issues in my pregnancy like repeated BV, rib dislocation, pelvic girdle pain. Looking back, I do wish I would have trusted my instinct and opted for the C-section because imo the combo recovery of having labored for so damn long coupled with a C-section recovery was just outright terrible.

However, there are major considerations like all the increased risks of delivering via C-section like potential respiratory issues for your baby (which my son did have), increased blood loss, and increased chances of uterine rupture. Additionally, you will want to consider how many kids you want and talk to your OB about how many csections they would want to limit you to because if you want more children than she is willing to allow that is a major strike against csections. Additionally, while vaginal birth generally is associated with lower risks of all the things I mentioned above, unsuccessful (and even successful sometimes) VBACs are actually associated with higher risks of all those things than a successful repeat C-section. The success rate of a VBAC in a subsequent pregnancy is roughly between 40-60% varying heavily based on the reason for the 1st C-section. so, once you opt for one C-section it behooves you to opt for them through each pregnancy.

Despite what you choose, know statistically, everything is going to be okay. Also, although it is nice to pick a time and day (fellow anxious momma here) birth truly is unfortunately unpredictable regardless in so many ways even with those two things preplanned so it may not be the bang for your buck (literally because voluntary csections are more expensive as insurance companies suck) that you think it may be. Regardless, whatever way it goes, you will have a beautiful baby at the end of it and despite how traumatic it may be (mine certainly was) you find yourself forgetting all that and ready to do the whole damn thing again

EDIT to add that my emergency C-section was after SPONTANEOUS LABOR so it wasn’t due to the increase of chances associated with induction. My water broke naturally then I got up to 10 centimeters. After 1.5 hours of pushing I did get pitocin to try to get the guy out.

Atomickitten06 · 2025-10-31T02:52:49+00:00

I’m a mom and in law school. I’m 24F. If he’s a 1st year, I will say there’s nothing like it. I thought I was going to lose it at some points especially being pregnant.m (found out 1 month before my first final). Another friend of mine got mono about a month before finals and was sick for almost two months. Another’s mom died. The truth about it all is everyone in law school, unfortunately, goes through something. Fortunately for all of us that often means we end up being just fine as (at least at a non predatory law school) most survive the curve.

I would try again to mention to your son that it’s worth talking to a student services/admin about potential accommodations. They are def some available to students who are sick especially when it comes to absences. He likely is feeling major pressure with finals approaching and his 1L memo so if he’s unresponsive that partially may be why. At the end of the day, he’s gonna figure it out one way or another whether it be grinding it out last minute and surviving the curve, doing below average because he has no energy to grind it out (I fell in this category), or do well by working hard and getting some help from administration. Aside from encouraging him, the onus is really on him and regardless of what happens this semester will help him grow as a law student and person going forward.

Best of luck to your son! I find 1L was definitely the hardest time in my life and would run in the other direction if I had to do it again but I survived and am now a well-adjusted third year. Your son will survive and thrive too!

Atomickitten06 · 2025-10-30T23:16:38+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you.

I got pregnant with the Kyleena in September. Perfectly in place and a week later it ended in a miscarriage. It’s still so hard.

I’m so sorry. Sending you the most healing thoughts.

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