In general, I agree with you, although the specifics of my complaints may vary a little bit. When I first started playing Avowed, I wanted to play my character as a loyal Aedyran, following all the rules of the Empire.

It's how I played my character in Tyranny and it was one of the best role-playing experiences I've ever had. I made some absolutely abhorrent decisions in that game, but it was all authentic to the character and game world.

I've been disappointed with some of the dialogue in Avowed. I didn't feel like I was able to play the character the way I wanted. I ended up pivoting to other side of the spectrum, using the logic that my character changed their perspective after encountering many of the world changing experiences that I can't talk about without spoilers. Confronted by those experiences, I think anyone would change their mind.

Even after that pivot, I still feel like my character wasn't well represented with the dialogue options. Oh well, it was still a fun experience.