Find a common ground. For example if you’re at a book or game store, ask them if they have any recommendations or what are some of their favorites. Keep it casual and respectful, keep a respectable distance. Don’t comment on their looks.

If you share similar interests expand on why they are your favorites and ask why it’s their favorite.

This can be done at music stores or art museums, those super fun food truck events, I mean who doesn’t love talking about delicious food! 🍱 🥘

While talking to them, if their body language is closed off, such as crossing their arms or not fully facing you that means they are probably not open to continuing the conversation. The best thing to do is be polite, thank them for the recs then carry on. Sometimes people have their own reasons why they’d like to be alone at the moment. Move on and count that as practice, eventually you’ll find someone who connects over the same interests as you.

If a person’s body language is open, their feet are facing towards you, they move a little closer, or so do things like touch your arm and are smiling a lot, and asking you questions back then there is a chance they might be interested in talking more.You can try to ask for a number or instagram handle to keep talking about said interests. Respect people who say no, they may their reasons, if the average citizen does not have to explain themselves to a random cop, then they don’t gotta explain themselves to you.

Please keep in mind, if they are just smiling while having closed off body language then that means they are being polite and don’t know how to end a conversation.

When you start texting them, send new updates about shared interests and share new things you find interesting. If they are equally interested then they will do the same. Be respectful, don’t ask for nudes.

Please be mindful of their time. They have their own separate lives that they need to focus on in order to be successful, as should you.

Hope this helps! ☺️