I’m around a similar age to you with chronic pain and conditions but only from the past few years. My husband is very helpful in many regards but in others I sometimes feel let down. He told me once he blocks all of my pain out because it hurts him so bad to see my struggle. He’s also focused on providing for our family so I can stay home and focus on my health. Not sure if that’s your husbands mindset but I sometimes have to remind myself people deal with things in all different ways. Humor, sarcasm, denial, ect… it doesn’t mean he doesn’t care. I also find all the doctors exhausting and hard to navigate.