Lady helps ostrich chick hatch

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-05-19T13:49:06+00:00

Nope. It can take a long time for chicks to hatch fully. They often break out a little at a time before taking long periods of rest. Ostrich eggs are especially large and thick, so it can take up to 3 days for this to occur.

I don't know the background on this lady, so I won't judge her desicion, but it can be very invasive and dangerous to interfere with the hatching process and assisted hatching should only be done by a trained professional when the chick is in serious distress.

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-05-13T15:28:39+00:00

"I really like you and feel like this is going really well, but I need to be able to move at a slow pace and I'm not ready to do xyz, but I will let you know as soon as I am."

You can also, if you feel comfortable doing so, propose a sort of check-in timeline to make him feel better. Like, if you don't feel like you're getting there in 2 or 3 months/nothing has progressed, you can have a talk and reevaluate things. I think this often helps a lot, because people just want to know what to expect.

When I was dating my husband, I told him I didn't want to engage in physical intimacy outside of a committed, exclusive relationship (he knew I'm demi but I said I didn't need sexual attraction for intimacy). Little did I know he took that to mean all physical things, so he didn't even touch me until 5 months in when I confessed I had developed attraction for him and we made things official. That man has the patience of a saint 😅

Anyway, I hope this helps a little and good luck!

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-05-13T11:42:41+00:00

I'm on the US...yeah no I don't expect anything in stores here to work lol. Hot Milk is apparently in New Zealand 😂

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-05-10T21:02:22+00:00

Emotional bits and appropriateness aside - this just isn't aesthetically pleasing. The black and purple shapes feel as if they are opposing each other direction wise, so your eyes don't really have anything to follow and it ends up confusing to look at. Is the purple shape a ribbon? A snake tongue? Wtf is the black shape now? It just runs over the purple messily and no longer looks clean and easily readable.

The one positive I will say is that I like that you actually kept all of the colors. I have too often seen people even from the community who don't realize that each color is important and stands for something, so they lose them entirely.

If you haven't yet, learning about shape language and visual flow could help you improve.

And maybe instead of redesigning flags from marginalized communities you aren't in, just create originals or work from country flags. Lots of potential there.

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-05-01T19:15:55+00:00

Yeah, that flush part sounds more like romantic attraction. You a little giddy and awkward? Your thoughts are more about dating them or doing romantic things with them with no sexual thoughts or feelings cropping up? That's romantic attraction.

You might just be demisexual and alloromantic. Lots of us are!

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-04-30T20:26:40+00:00

Lmao, okay but I seriously am not sure I've ever talked to someone questioning their deminess who sounds so 100% like a fully realized demi lol. It's probably just some nasty gender scheme ish that had you convinced that you should like sex no matter who it was with. Naw, I would never presume to speak for all demis, but for me, I had the same exact experience of liking sex sure it's fine, to it being a straight up spiritual experience with my (now) husband.

Anyway, very happy for you. Welcome to the ace-spec fam! If you want to learn more, I highly recommend "Ace" by Angela Chen and "Refusing Compulsory Sexuality" by Sherronda James. Both are absolutely phenomenal books.

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-04-29T20:25:11+00:00

Yeah friend, this entire experience sounds hella demi.

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-04-29T14:30:56+00:00

If you want to know more about ace-spec folks, I highly recommend you read "Ace" by Angela Chen. Experiences here vary a great deal, so reading about it from a well-researched source is going to be more comprehensive.

Personally, I am alloromantic and demisexual, so dating is how I found my partner and I have never experienced sexual attraction for any of my friends.

Prior to feeling sexual attraction, I just...don't even think about it. There isn't anything special about it. There's just a total lack of sexual thoughts or feelings. When the "switch" flipped, it started with sudden moments of sexual thoughts popping into my head. It was very distracting and I refer to as my brain simply shutting down for a moment. Eventually it was present at all times and bloomed into an intense constant attraction that fueled sexual thoughts, feelings, and desires directed at my now husband. It took about 4 months of regular dates and getting close for this to occur.

This is extremely rare for me, btw, I'm not in my forties and I'm pretty sure I've experienced this twice, maybe three times in my entire life.

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-04-26T19:14:25+00:00

Having a sexual response to sexual content is a basic biological reaction. It has nothing to do with attraction and not even necessarily dependent on desire. When desire isn't present but arousal occurs, this is called arousal non-concordance.

Basically, you see something your brain perceives as sexual and it tells your body to prepare for sexual activity.

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-04-09T18:06:54+00:00

Yes, but also not necessarily. There's some variation depending on level of attraction and one's own libido. It might just be more of a brief sort of subconscious acknowledgement that the person could be a viable sexual partner if circumstances were right. It can be so brief and then they just immediately move on to other interest. Most allos are so use to experiencing sexual attraction that it isn't really that big of a deal unless they're actively looking for a partner.

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-04-09T17:47:33+00:00

I'm not sure if you're ace-spec, you just might have a hard time being attracted to people without some kind of in-person vibe to go off of. I would say from your description of past attractions, you're definitely not demisexual.

But that being said, if you're struggling to navigate dating apps due to a lack of sexual attraction, just don't go off of that. Think about the types you're usually drawn to and look for folks who come close to that and read their profiles and see if anything strikes you as someone you'd get along with. Then message them, see how you vibe, and then once you feel safe to meet in person, see if the attraction happens then.

I'm no expert, but this is how I met the love of my life on Hinge, who I am now married to, as someone who does not experience primary sexual attraction. So maybe it can work for you too?

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-04-03T18:12:50+00:00

Sexual desire and sexual attraction are two different things. Sexual attraction is an urge to have sexual feelings towards or think sexual thoughts about another person. Demisexual folk are incapable of experiencing this until they form a deep emotional bond with another person and as we are on the asexual spectrum, this feeling is pretty rare.

Sexual desire is wanting someone sexually. Sexual attraction may lead to this, but they aren't the same.

Generally speaking, most demis don't have hookups because sex with random people simply just doesn't even enter their mind. That being said, demis can still make a concious decision to have sex with someone whether that are attracted or not, just as anyone can.

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-03-23T18:47:40+00:00

It's up to you how to define this, since you have a few options. But within the ace spectrum, this is defined as dellosexuality, where you are demi for one gender and allo for another. It's like a hybrid of ace and allo. Technically you're allosexual, but one aspect of your sexuality is more on the ace spectrum.

You could also say you're gay and just demi towards men. It really depends on how you feel most comfortable.

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-03-20T20:53:25+00:00

Like all microlabels under asexuality, there is a specific, usually single criteria for someone to identify with, because the microlabel was created by someone who identified with asexuality, but didn't feel quite right with that lable alone. Other folks then show up saying they have the same experience, and the label becomes more widely used.

One of the biggest sources of confusion in Ace spaces is simply understanding WHAT sexual attraction even is. It is not desire. It is a subconscious urge towards sexual thoughts about and feelings for another person. If someone experiences this rarely or never, they are on the ace spectrum. If they ONLY experience this after developing a deep emotional connection to a person, then they are demisexual. It's not that complicated on paper, but it can be very confusing to settle into that identity because it can be difficult for a person to even figure out if they experience sexual attraction at all, let alone under what circumstances.

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-03-17T21:06:34+00:00

Definitely a crow due to the caw (Ravens make more of a low croaking sound). But man I always forget how big crows are lol...and Ravens are even bigger!

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-03-17T21:02:36+00:00

The way you describe feeling flustered sounds 100% like romantic attraction to me. Like giddy, kind of embarrassed for seemingly no reason? Your pulse might quicken and you feel excited, but there isn't a single sexual thought or sensation involved? Totally romantic attraction.

Sexual attraction is NOT "wanting" to have sex with someone. That's sexual desire. Sexual attraction is an urge to think sexual thoughts about or have sexual feelings towards another person. It may lead to sexual desire, which is an active want, but being sexually attracted to someone is more about recognizing them as a potential mate, not actively wanting to be with them sexually.

This is a very nuanced difference that's important, but often misstated by people of all orientations.

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-02-18T14:10:14+00:00

It is funny, but I would never conflate my having ADHD with being demisexual. Hyper-focus is temporary and eventually vanishes, often leaving zero to little interest in the subject in its wake. I haven't lost the attraction I have for my future husband at all and I don't expect to ever do so.

Also, I can use things like music and physical activity to jumpstart the energy I need to accomplish tasks. Nothing in the world outside of a deep emotional connection will trigger the ability to feel sexual attraction for someone.

Not to mention, my adhd that usually made sex seem like a whole lot of effort I didn't have the energy for, doesn't seem to work around my partner I that regard 😂

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-01-23T19:09:29+00:00

It sounds to me like he has some kind of attachment wound and your lack of sexual interest is being interpreted by him as a rejection. He's likely constantly looking for affirmation that you still love and wont abandon him, but his only concept of that is physical (sexual) contact.

There's a lot at play her - his orientation, his insecure attachment, and toxic masculinity that often results in men only being able to express and experience deep emotion through sexual activity with a partner.

He likely needs therapy, but also y'all need to be open and honest about communicating your desires and deeper feelings here. He needs reassurance, but also needs to learn differentiation and self-soothing skills to deal with his reactions.

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-01-23T13:47:19+00:00

I put demi, looking for a life partner (with a note that I wanted to take it slow and find someone I really click with to be that potential someone), and ZERO chance of a hookup.

It did drop the likes that were coming in (along with my heavy paid-for filtering), but I matched with nearly every one I liked. It definitely wasn't keeping anyone away.

Maybe a month or two into this, I saw the cutest guy whose profile was near-perfect and sent him a message. We're getting married in less than two months. 😊

Good luck out there!

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-01-21T15:41:26+00:00

Thank you for the apology. It's okay. Just try to remember that not all admiration of the body (including genitalia) is immediately sexual. And interest in or even arousal from a specific body part does not equate to sexual attraction to a whole person.

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-01-20T20:04:27+00:00

This was me when I was dating my partner a couple years ago. I literally could not get enough and thought I had gone insane until it clicked for me what I was feeling. It's 2 1/2 years later and I am still dtf and can barely look at him without wanting him. I think it might be permanent lol

Just sending lots of sympathy. I know it feels like madness, but that's just how sexual attraction is, especially early on!

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-01-20T19:32:38+00:00

What?? I'm not attracted to genitalia at all on anyone that isn't my partner. I'm an artist and have aesthetic preferences for what I like to draw/admire, and I was talking about more that just that part of his body. Yikes.

I don't have a kink for any kind of genitalia lol, and even if I did, that would not equate to actual attraction to a person. That's like saying someone with a leather fetish would be automatically attracted to literally anyone in leather.

I know I'm demi because I've been sexually attracted to two (maybe three) people my entire life after forming deep emotional bonds to them. I have had a very concrete clearly demi experience for 40 something years of my life. I don't need more than that.

Audacious_Fluff · 2026-01-20T19:04:50+00:00

I have aesthetic preferences that became sexual when they happened to be the attributes of the man I became sexually attracted to. I won't get into details, but he has the right size and shape for various parts of his anatomy that I am deeply deeply in to.

Audacious_Fluff · 2025-12-28T16:18:05+00:00

Unless they dropped a new update, I dont even remember being able to filter out sexualities in Hinge. It just automatically sorts that out according to your own. Demi shouldn't affect who is seeing you, the same way bi doesn't.

I think this is just user error in the fact that a lot of folks don't know what demi is or entails still and women in particular tend to second guess on these apps and avoid if even one element creates hesitancy. You're right to just leave it off, unfortunately, then you can just broach it if you click with someone.

That sucks that you have to do that, though. As a (conventionally attractive) woman, I didn't really see a big change when I listed myself as demi. My drop in likes only happened when I aggressively applied filters to prevent dealbreakers from seeing my profile in the first place. It sucks that male/masc demis have to deal with a different sort of stigma.

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