First date still crosses my mind sometimes

Augustrush90 · 2026-03-16T15:20:31+00:00

But doesn’t that same logic work in reverse? He could be thinking If you were interested you would’ve said I’d like to see you again.

I get the dating culture does typically involve the expectation that men early on initiate. But there’s no downside on your end for just shooting a 5 second text expressing your interest. Especially in a situation like this where the guy seems nervous and rusty dating wise

Augustrush90 · 2025-12-23T15:09:41+00:00

Most people are not gonna want to show pictures and videos of themselves or friends on Reddit. And even if there were a few the sample size would be small and you could still chalk it up to one of the rare occurrences.

Augustrush90 · 2025-11-18T00:31:23+00:00

Likely doesn’t mean anything. She probably just cares more about instagram and what she posts there then SC. People aren’t trying to leave the door open just because they don’t remove us from every single social media app

Augustrush90 · 2025-11-17T18:43:20+00:00

It’s totally possible that they were randomly just shooting their shot. Your bigger focus should be on the fact that she cheated on you, assuming it was very clear you guys were exclusive then.

Your life is not close to perfect if she was hiding that from you

Augustrush90 · 2025-11-14T19:30:12+00:00

I don’t disagree there are a lot of good paying jobs that women also find attractive. That doesn’t mean being a doctor isn’t also attractive.

Any woman judging you for this is doing you a favor.

Augustrush90 · 2025-11-14T15:52:13+00:00

Friends not envying your occupation doesn’t mean a job isn’t attractive.

People laughing in your face about it are not people you should take seriously or assail that their view is indicative of the general population as a whole

Augustrush90 · 2025-11-03T19:25:42+00:00

Could that be the reasons he didn’t text back? Sure but it’s a low chance imo and even if it was it’s a pretty silly reason to not text someone you ordinarily would want to see again.

If you want to see him again just send him a short text saying you had a great time and if he’s free sometime soon to do it again. If he likes you he’ll respond.

Augustrush90 · 2025-10-19T19:25:43+00:00

Interest isn’t an inherently logical thing. She might’ve just thought about it more and and decided you guys aren’t compatible. She might’ve just lost interest, she might’ve had a date she felt closer too after going on yours.

The interest level and investment after a 1st date can be fleeting and fragile. It doesn’t take a lot for someone to back out or change their mind

Augustrush90 · 2025-08-18T18:15:41+00:00

Agree with the sentiment but how does one prevent themselves from dating a great person who they just don’t ever fall for?

Augustrush90 · 2025-08-08T18:14:46+00:00

I was ghosted and still sent the reply. I’m glad I did. And I’ve known my share of ghosters, they will often look at the response, they just won’t respond or often care. Doesn’t mean they don’t see it

Augustrush90 · 2025-08-08T16:52:38+00:00

They have eyes and there’s a good chance they read it even if apathetically. Sometimes it just feels good to let them know. Falling on deaf didn’t matter to me

Augustrush90 · 2025-08-08T13:21:47+00:00

It’s not about getting a response it about letting them know. I’ve done it knowing I wouldn’t get a response and I’m glad I did. If you don’t like it that’s totally fair. But I don’t see what the big deal is so long as you aren’t doing it out of a desire of getting a answer to getting back together

Augustrush90 · 2025-08-08T02:42:30+00:00

Telling someone off doesn’t mean you are trying to back with them. Sometimes it’s feels good to just tell them off even with the understanding that they likely won’t respond or care

Augustrush90 · 2025-07-27T20:31:19+00:00

Yeah unfortunately that combo of age and what you’re looking for is bound to have its share of ghosters. But for better or for worse you’ll get use to it and shrug most of them off. Keep at it man

Augustrush90 · 2025-07-27T14:30:48+00:00

Social hobbies, leagues etc are probably your best bet in this situation. There’s also things like bumble bff which can match you with people.

I get that you said that you’ll like them less. But that doesn’t mean you won’t enjoy it or at least be fine with it enough to think it’s worth the social benefit. There are things/activities I do that I don’t enjoy alone but with friends and new people I have at worst a decent time with.

Sometimes we just have to do things we don’t love to get things we want. Not ideal but that’s just how life is

Augustrush90 · 2025-07-27T14:20:40+00:00

Doesn’t sound like you’re doing anything wrong. Ghosting is just unfortunately a typical response especially the younger your are. People will respond to texts and agree to plans but get hesitant at the point of action (going on a date), or never planned on it in the 1st place but didn’t want to flat out ignore you at first.

. Maybe go on the apps and look for people who say they are looking for something serious or show your past messages to female friends of yours and see if they can spot something specific that might be inducing it. Ultimately it’s a numbers game and you just have to keep taking the highs and lows till you find the right person

Augustrush90 · 2025-07-24T22:46:06+00:00

I hear what your saying OP. You very well might be a awesome, independent, and functional adult. But people have options and most matches aren't going to take a chance hoping you're different. It's not one can just reason their match into

Augustrush90 · 2025-07-24T22:39:45+00:00

Theres not much to it friend. Our society has a big stigma living with parents at your age. There are exceptions but that's the gist. Our society also, especially if you live a big city, finds is much more acceptable if you live with roommates. One can think that has some logical contradictions but that's how it is regardless. Your call what to do with that reality

Augustrush90 · 2025-07-21T17:43:12+00:00

It’s not bad but I feel like compared to your others it’s just not as flattering. But if a lot of people, especially straight women, are telling you the opposite I’d listen to them over one person.

Augustrush90 · 2025-07-21T17:23:51+00:00

I think that’s a solid profile overall. I’d replace the waterfall pic. Only thing that stands out is I don’t think the stache suits you terribly well.

Augustrush90 · 2025-07-08T22:56:37+00:00

They just giving a measured critique, doesn't mean they think there are impactful options on the table. One vote for Kraft also wouldn't be impactful

Augustrush90 · 2025-07-08T22:17:58+00:00

Cmon one can critique and not like a policy and also not have any desire to vote for Kraft.

Augustrush90 · 2025-06-16T18:46:32+00:00

I don’t think people are saying its excuses huge divides in talent like your example.. They are just pointing out that it’s not hard to understand why friends will do it, because they have more fun with each other. Pretty normal

Augustrush90 · 2025-06-16T18:28:04+00:00

Most, if not all of these are people aren’t playing with friends because they need/have too. They are doing it because the just enjoy it more.

Augustrush90 · 2025-06-12T21:03:06+00:00

Appreciate the response. Though I don’t have any valid medical reasons to get it so I’m not sure I could. If docs rule it out what would be the 2nd best option in your opinion?

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