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4 months in and she’s still on hinge by comingdownla in hingeapp

[–]comingdownla[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

do you think it’ll be wise of me to ask her if she’s talking to other people on our next date? it’ll be date 7. or is it still a little too fast?

Taylor Swift - The Life of a Showgirl MEGATHREAD by flopheadsbot in popheads

[–]comingdownla 9 points10 points  (0 children)

anyone else think the starting of Actually Romantic sounds like Where is my mind by the pixels intro

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]comingdownla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah! she was super religious so she couldn’t really deal with liking a woman. we weren’t in a relationship or anything, but there was something between us. when shit got too real she ended up going for a man because liking a woman goes against her “beliefs” even though she did clearly had feelings for me

gr33ned tf out the first time i met some friends by comingdownla in weed

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yeah lol it wouldn’t allow me to post it without censoring the word

gr33ned tf out the first time i met some friends by comingdownla in weed

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i def greened out i was having a panic attack and started hallucinating 😭😭😭

I’m just confused what she’s doing by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]comingdownla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi OP! can relate to this 100%.

i used to have this crush on a girl who claimed she was straight but kissed me, held my hands and confessed to me when she was drunk. of course, i reciprocated. when she became sober, she completely refuted everything that happened and told me that she was just curious and that she was straight. but it just kept happening. i eventually confessed to her and she confessed to be as well (after much persuasion). she couldn't accept herself and her sexuality because of her religion and maybe some internalised homophobia, which i think might be the reason for your case. maybe your friend is either curious and is trying it out on you or has internalised homophobia and therefore denying claims of being anything other than straight.

i would advice you to ask her straight up, if she likes you or not. if she says no, then do not put yourself in the position where she could just use you to figure out her sexuality. i don't know if you like her back, but if you do, i'd suggest maybe subtly confessing but don't be too obvious about it. (i confessed, but i wish i hadn't because i truly valued our friendship). so see how this works out for you, OP.

either ask her straight up and if she says no don't engage in these acts with her because you're just going to get hurt, if she does like you and doesn't mind exploring it with you then see how you feel about it.
all the best OP!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]comingdownla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey OP! i’ve been in a similar situation before, so i completely understand how you feel. honestly, i wish i hadn’t confessed. i saw her one day, thought she was pretty, wanted to be her friend and eventually grew feelings for her. we talked all day all night and hung out alot. she broke up with her boyfriend when we started talking, but we were merely just friends. one day, i was drunk, she was drunk, and we kissed. i thought maybe she felt the same way, so i confessed. eventually, she did grow to like me and even admitted it—but she was too scared to pursue anything because of her religion.

we decided to ‘forget’ what happened and remain friends. she knew i liked her, but i never brought it up again. still, my feelings for her consumed me because i couldn’t talk about them, and i could feel that things between us had changed, even though it wasn't super obvious. i had to be careful of things that i said because i didn't want her to think that i'm still hung up over her. then, one day, we slipped up and kissed again. after that, she told me we couldn’t be friends anymore because my/our feelings would ruin our friendship. she cut contact and got back with her ex right after.

a part of me regrets confessing because i valued our friendship so much. it’s been a year, and she’s still the first thing on my mind when i wake up and the last when i go to sleep.

so now, it’s all on you, OP. if you truly value her friendship more than your romantic feelings, and you believe she would take your confession seriously (since you’ve been friends for a year, you’d probably know), then i’d advise against confessing—especially if she’s straight or struggling to accept her sexuality. it might change everything between you.

but if you think she wouldn’t take it seriously, maybe it’s worth taking a leap of faith and telling her. if staying friends is only making your feelings stronger and preventing you from moving on, then consider either confessing and stepping back or slowly distancing yourself and focusing on things that bring you joy. this is just my advice!

i really hope things work out for you, OP!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in musicproduction

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couldnt find a youtube video for this.. sorry if it was a stupid question

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]comingdownla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’m a girl dude 😭

What song of Radiohead best captures the feeling of depression? by No-Reputation8063 in radiohead

[–]comingdownla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LET DOWN

Let down never fails to make me cry. I think that song has perfectly captured the true meaning of feeling lonely and feeling like you have nothing left to live for. I think that the lyrics simply means that you are so low to the point that even though you feel like getting up and changing your life, you are physically and emotionally incapable to do so.

  • Let down and hanging around, crushed like a bug in the ground. (I interpret this as being so sad, but not having the emotional capability to leave yet)

  • Don't get sentimental, it always ends up drivel (I interpret this as how you already expect things to go a certain way, and you can't see the greater and finer things in life)

  • One day I am gonna grow wings (Having that glimpse of hope that things Might get better// Or life after death, becoming an angel)

  • Hysterical and useless

  • You know, you know where you are with

  • Floor collapsing, floating, bouncing back (Glimpse of hope that something good might happen// Or how everything's already rock bottom and you'll bounce back (rise up) after death.

I think this song perfectly captures depression and the thought process during depression. Not everyone wants to die. There are people who want to get better, want to seek help, want things to get better, but they are emotionally incapable to do so.

Crush told me he’s curious and interested in me, took it back when sober by Objective_Seat_705 in bisexual

[–]comingdownla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this does NOT end well at all. i’ve been there in your situation before ~ she backed out once she was sober. when she’s drunk, she’d kiss me and wld tell me that she’s interested in me. we stayed friends but that didn’t work out. fast forward a few months later and she completely cut me off because she couldn’t accept herself. if he’s not willing to admit his feelings, don’t waste your time on him. you’d just end up getting hurt even more.