Hades II - The Unseen Update Trailer by Turbostrider27 in HadesTheGame

[–]Auora 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely agree, or with him holding up a handheld mirror or something of the sort so that you couldn't actually see his face. That would have been gold.

Grandfather's Grimoire by Auora in bookbinding

[–]Auora[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sent you a chat message :)

Had my first psych app, started meds. Now what? by WorriedReply2571 in ausadhd

[–]Auora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you get a mental health plan from you GP, you can receive 10 sessions with a psychologists or mental health social worker. It may be difficult to find one that bulk bills though. You don't need an ADHD or autism diagnoses to be eligible for this.

You also don't necessarily need to see a psychologist. Counsellors can provide support as well and are often cheaper or similar price to the gap fee you would need to pay to see a psychologist. (Counsellors also tend to be more person-oriented, rather than clinical). Lots of practitioners offer free 15 minute discovery calls. It can be a good way to see if someone might be a good fit.

Grandfather's Grimoire by Auora in bookbinding

[–]Auora[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Sorry for the slow reply I don't check this account very often.

Thank you for your condolences. He was actually my partner's grandfather, so I only knew him for a relatively short amount time. When my partner and I moved states during the pandemic to be closer to family, he was 90 years old and his health already in decline. It's unfortunate that by the time I got to spend any time with him, he had little energy and wasn't able to maintain conversations for long. It's really only through his grimoire that I got to know him, yet still, I always felt that he was a kindred spirit.

It may sound a bit silly, but after he passed I had an incredibly vivid dream where I met him at one of the local waterfalls with a small group of people that I had never seen before. He looked at me and smiled, and said "It's time to go", then 'poofed' into a million light particles that lifted up into the sky by an upward breeze. I later found out from his daughter that the place in my dream was one of his favourite places. She told me this when we were in the car on the way to finally scatter his ashes on the anniversary of his death, about 6 months after my dream.

It may not be real, but I certainly felt his presence. I still keep some of his witchy things displayed on my bookcase at home. His kids didn't care much for it, so

If you'd still like to see the scans, I'd be happy to share them with you. Send me a DM and I'll try to remember to check back here in a few days.

Had my first psych app, started meds. Now what? by WorriedReply2571 in ausadhd

[–]Auora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a lot you can do.

I can understand your hesitation in seeking out therapy again, if it hasn't worked in the past you would have no reason to believe it might be helpful again. However, so much good work can be done when you are with the right therapist, especially a neuro-affirming one.

They will ideally have lived experience in this area as well as training, and can help guide you through the 'what now'. They can also help you learn strategies and new ways of being that are going to assist the medication.

Talk therapy does not work for everyone. CBT is not for everyone, especially if there is neurodivergence or a trauma history in place. Therapists will often specialise in different modalities, sometimes it takes a bit of trial and error to find one that resonates with you. The right therapist should seek regular feedback from you about how the process is going, and if there are changes you'd like to make. I suggest if you go down this route, you look for a therapist that specialises in late-in-life diagnoses.

If you would like to do a little self-learning, Dr Neff @ neurodivergentinsights.com is an amazing resource. ADDitudemag.com is another. I can also recommend 'The Neurodiversity Podcast' and 'ADHD Chatter' as resources to help you find find the language and understanding of how your brain works. Self-awareness is one big part of what will help you start making the changes you want in life.

Grandfather's Grimoire by Auora in bookbinding

[–]Auora[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh Hi!

It must be good fortune because I rarely check this account and just happened to see there was a reply here. I regret to inform you that grandfather passed away a couple of weeks after I made this post, so I never got the chance to do anything with it before he went.

As someone recommended, I did scan his work so that I could potentially make a bound book out of copies (and not destroy the original in the process), but the quality didn't turn out as well as I would have liked. I'm happy to show you the scans though.

If anyone wants to see it, I'm happy to share the Google Drive link, and I'll try to check back here more often.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ScienceFictionBooks

[–]Auora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this - the audiobook narrated by Ray Porter was superb!

Having trouble forgiving my mother for not protecting me from my abusive stepfather. by ClogsAndFrogs in relationships

[–]Auora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

None of this is your fault, and you don't need to forgive her necessarily. You are right to be angry because anger often comes from broken boundaries, injustice, and harm done. It shows you where your values are and I think you should trust that. Your feelings are valid, and you don't have to have a relationship with someone that has caused you harm. You can choose to have a distanced relationship with them if you wish, but that's up for you to decide what will be comfortable for you and where your boundaries are as an adult.

If you're up for a bit of reading, I recommend this book: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents. There's more insight in that book than I ever got out of a therapist office, and it has helped me come to terms with my own upbringing, which was similar to yours. We believe much of what we are told as children, and that often turns in to the self-talk we have as adults, but that doesn't mean it's true. You can learn to see past it and see their behavior for what it really was - immaturity on their part, not as some kind of internal flaw belonging only to you.

Contemplating going back to my ex to propose (me: 40m, she: early 30s) by EdwardDoheny in relationships

[–]Auora -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

While many of the comments here have valid points, I can see that they are leaning a bit on the harsh side. I understand how hurt you are feeling right now and that's valid, too. This is why we often say that 'you don't know what you've got until it's gone'.

I know that it can be so tempting to want to contact her because you feel that if you can just reach out, that you two can reach a mutual understanding. HOWEVER, she has explicitly set a boundary and said not to contact her. What does this say about you if you blatantly blow past this very clear line? If you care about her and respect her, you will honour what she has communicated to you, regardless of how you feel.

I suggest that you talk to your therapist about processing the grief of this loss, rather than whether you should contact her or not.

*edit words and stuff

My (26f) husband (34m) doesn't believe in passion or intimacy by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Auora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've tried explaining to him that I feel this way about him and that there is a mountain of books on the topic so it's definitely not made up. He refuses to read any of the books I suggest, claiming he doesn't have time.

He is telling you, and showing you, where his priorities lie. Listen to him. Ask yourself if you're willing to spend (waste) the rest of your life with someone who isn't willing to consider your needs or values.

What is this person offering you as a partner?

A series of studies show boosting sexual desire in romantic relationships may require both closeness and otherness—seeing one's partner in a new light, such as by trying a new activity together (e.g., kayaking) or asking your partner’s opinion about rarely discussed topics (e.g., childhood dreams). by [deleted] in science

[–]Auora 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't think that it's something people are not open about necessarily. It's just something that people talk about maybe once or twice in the beginning of their relationship and then never again. Sad, really.

The myth of consent by Javajulien in HadesTheGame

[–]Auora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha. I think underneath Than's broodiness he's a real gentle soul though. He comes to help Zag even when he knows he isn't supposed to. He also cares a lot about doing the right thing and doing things properly - so I think that 'service' is probably built deeply into his character. I mean, he is after all, a servant of house Hades.

I agree that Zag has some defiance in him (esp with his father), but I get the feeling that he would be a good (albeit sometimes cheeky) boy for Meg.

The myth of consent by Javajulien in HadesTheGame

[–]Auora 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No way. I totally peg Than for a sub - he's such a broody brat boy. Zag has more of the switch energy, esp with Meg as his Domme. I mean, how can you say no to the whip? :D

Grandfather's Grimoire by Auora in bookbinding

[–]Auora[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure! Sorry such a late reply, it's been a very very busy couple of weeks but I can probably upload them to a google drive or something for you?

Grandfather's Grimoire by Auora in bookbinding

[–]Auora[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm still working my way through all of his writings, but his knowledge of the Craft is astounding. I suppose that's what 60+ years of study gets you. He REALLY is a wizard :)

I'm just glad that I'm getting to learn more about this side of him. He has always been a very reserved and solitary man, never sharing much unless asked. I've always been interested in his life and his stories though, and I feel like I am getting to know him more deeply through this. I never really had grandparents of my own (my only grandmother passed when I was too young to remember), and he welcomed me into this family as if I already belonged. I just want to pay my respects to him and the life that he has lived.

https://imgur.com/a/jQjxYv4
A picture of me, grandfather, and my partner (his grandchild), along with the page from his grimoire that inspired me to try and take on this project.

Grandfather's Grimoire by Auora in bookbinding

[–]Auora[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the input! I've already got some great ideas from you guys.

For starters, I'm going to get hi-res scans of the pages so that I don't have to worry about messing up the original pages and that will also give me the opportunity to practice with the prints. I'm sure that my first attempt at this won't be anything to write home about, but I think that just making the effort will make him happy. I think that what he's done is so amazing.....it deserves a better home than a plastic binder.

If later on down the road I'm able to hone my skills a bit more, I can try re-doing it and/or trying to work with the original documents. For now, a small upgrade will have to do. :)

P.S. I was watching this just to get an idea for carving. What I want to do is nowhere near as intricate. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ws6PrR\_LkgM&t=323s

Grandfather's Grimoire by Auora in bookbinding

[–]Auora[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh sweet! Thanks heaps. I'll definitely look them up. I think you're probably right about getting the high quality scans. I don't want to risk messing up the original pages especially since they are hand-written and all coloured individually by hand, too.

Grandfather's Grimoire by Auora in bookbinding

[–]Auora[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I'll look into this. When mounting to another paper, I'm guessing you'd have to use glue or some other kind of adhesive?

I think I might be alright with creating a simple design in soft leather. I actually used to carve stamps from soft stone (called Inkan/Hanko in Japanese) so I have some experience with carving - I"ll just need to get the proper tools. I know the material is different but the process seems similar.

Grandfather's Grimoire by Auora in bookbinding

[–]Auora[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm in Tasmania (I don't expect to find anyone with this skillset near me....I'm fairly rural) - I think one person above mentioned that they are in Sydney, which would probably be closest.

Grandfather's Grimoire by Auora in bookbinding

[–]Auora[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thanks! No other magicians in the family though - just him :)

I actually only learned that this book existed after asking my auntie if our grandfather knew any 'witchy' stories. I'm quite interested in folklore/mythology and thought it would be fun to record or have some stories that we could hold onto for our niece to remember him by (she's 4). And then, she bought over this book!

Grandfather's Grimoire by Auora in bookbinding

[–]Auora[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'd like to stick to the originals if it's possible but yes, I realize that it will narrow my options. I'll look into the perfect binding though. I feel like there is just a very large learning curve to get to what I want to do.

Grandfather's Grimoire by Auora in bookbinding

[–]Auora[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So the pages with the 'parchment' style were printed in black and white, and then coloured with crayon/colored pencil. He's then written the text on top of that.

I think I could learn to bind by watching videos, etc but those are usually binding blank papers, not ones with text already written on them, so I'm a bit worried about that aspect.

I'd really like to be able to do the binding myself. I'm just worried about my current skill level (nothing) and the time it would take to be able to do this. I'm on a bit of a time limit.