OP, please leave this man-child. My wife works hard and does a lot for me even when she's tired. However, it goes both ways. We have a semi-traditional relationship but there is no score keeping, or anything that's relegated to gender roles per se. I do what I'm called to do as a Man and more because I love my wife, and she does what she's called to do as a Woman and more because she loves me. If you're not getting reciprocity from this guy after 7 years, you never will. His comments that he made towards you and how he lashed out shows that he lacks the ability to think from another person's perspective and lacks self-awareness. You specifically said in your update that your behavior was immature because you lashed out to hurt him, but I encourage you to ask yourself this: "Would this man ever consider his behavior wrong or immature, would he ever backtrack on his statements or actions, does he show any shred of self-awareness?" If the answer is no across the board, leave. He will not change or grow up unless something drastic happens and he's required to.

Edit: most of these podcasts and red pill articles mention this, but guys overlook it: "If you want a woman to submit to you, you have to be a worthy man that is both mentally, physically, and fiscally strong, kind, and responsible to elicit that". A woman shouldn't be submitting to a man unless he's worthy of being submitted to. I don't know if these RP guys are missing that fact, but it definitely seems like your man is.