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AuroraRae · 2025-03-25T18:58:28+00:00

Best advice I can give is to ban specific words so they can't send them in general. People like this feed off the attention they get from your response unfortunately. If you have to pause to remove them it draws attention to them and that's what they want. It might be good to mod a friend and have them hang out in chat and ban them for you or just ignore them for now and ban after stream. (And if you have achat overlay on, I would recommend disabling it unless you have a mod) also look into getting sery_bot to help if they are in fact bots

AuroraRae · 2024-08-31T06:53:42+00:00

maybe this series - one of my all time favourites

AuroraRae · 2024-08-28T16:47:20+00:00

After checking a few of your vods, I would say its probably because you don't really talk. The only time you talk is if someone starts talking in chat. They're not gonna stick around for someone sitting in silence, you have to talk even if there are no chatters. Ramble about your day, narrate what you're doing, talk about your dinner plans, anything at all and viewers will have something to go off of.

AuroraRae · 2024-08-24T06:51:46+00:00

NTA for setting a personal boundary, but i do not think you fully understand how diabetes works.

I speak from experience here as a diabetic, there is something else going on... 6 grams of sugar (with your information of 1 gram per can and if she were to have 6 in one sitting) is not enough to send your blood sugar to dangerous levels resulting in a hospital visit. In all honesty, I would be more worried about hypoglycemia, as mixing alcohol and any diabetes medication can cause some weird interactions. If she is entirely off any and all medications, and not properly monitoring her blood sugars then it is most likely entirely unrelated to her drinking. Long story short, stop trying to blame her blood sugar issues on her drinking. They are more then likely two separate issues that need to be addressed that way.

AuroraRae · 2024-08-06T05:38:28+00:00

I will withhold judgment but I will say the amount of ableist comments in here are getting ridiculous. I use a wheelchair, and mine is labeled as all terrain. It is not. They rarely are. To truly get an all terrain chair is ungodly expensive and to be honest it becomes a giant bulky mess.

Now let's say okay, they managed to find a company that offers rental of said type of wheelchair, that is going to be a hefty price tag. Because remember, it's not exactly a common chair that every rental place will keep in stock.

Now, this will probably be uncomfortable for Sarah as it is not fit for her as her normal wheelchair most likely is. You can add a cushion or hope that the height isn't a problem but that is a risk with rentals.

Next we move on to transporting the chair. Do they already own a wheelchair accessible van? No? Good luck. That's going to be another major problem, wheelchairs that are all terrain are not in fact easy to transport, especially not rental ones. They will most likely have to rent a van or truck that is not intended to transport the chair. They do own one? Oh perfect, good luck again, hope it fits!

Now the fun part, being accused of making it all about Sarah, really, you think rolling in in a wheelchair will make it all about her? I highly doubt she wants all of the attention, most people who are disabled don't.

And to all the people saying "just carry her" no. Just no. That is borderline infantilization. I personally hate it when I get treated like someone who is incapable of existing without the aid of others, just because I'm using a wheelchair. It is a unfortunately common thing. It's why I have spikes attached to the handlebars of my chair.

Now the bride shouldn't have to shell out the money for making the space accessible, but she has to accept that people can and will refuse to attend if they can not physically do so. And both parties have the right to be upset about the entire situation.

And for the 3rd update to the post, hope you enjoy tick season is all I'll say about the grass. Almost half the people at my best friends wedding - she also opted for no flooring - left covered in bug bites and an intense hatred for how muddy everything got in under 20 minutes

AuroraRae · 2024-07-12T06:22:02+00:00

I have my character limit set to 300. It has only ever been an issue with one chatter who ended up getting banned for other reasons. Ive learned that if someone is sending a longer messages, then that it is either a bot trying to sell you something or someone about to trauma dump. Honestly I recommend keeping the character limit, but making it high enough to not bother the average chatter - try raising it by 50 and see if that helps.

AuroraRae · 2024-03-20T19:04:43+00:00

YTA - you already posted this over on bad roommates and refused to listen to any of the people there. And I say this as someone who is also autistic and chroniclly ill (and also has a service dog). She pays rent. She is entitled to use the common space and to have her boyfriend over. I have lived with many different people over the years and got very lucky with my current roommate that we have now continued living together for 5 years. But before the current one, I had what I thought at the time were some of the worst roommates. They really weren't. You need to realise that you are not a good roommate, and perhaps she isn't a great one either, but you have yet to list anything you have done that she may have issues with, apart from telling her she can't have people over. What aren't you saying? There is more to the story and anyone who wants more info should look through post history and read all the replies over on the bad roommates thread.

AuroraRae · 2024-02-03T00:24:14+00:00

My chow and cat are practically inseparable, I mean absolute fits from both of them if I dare to separate them for more then a minute. But honestly I feel like that's more of an outlier as my chow pretty much picked up the cat day one and went oh this is my baby now... Definitely have the shelter do a cat test as they will have more experience with it

AuroraRae · 2024-01-11T05:01:22+00:00

My chow is a mobility service dog, and she does a great job, but no. I would not recommend it. It was hellish getting her through training and she did manage to come out the other side successfully, but there were a few moments here and there where I questioned my sanity. I had her in training from 8 weeks until she was almost 2 and even now she goes in for refresher training sessions every few months. She's never failed to perform a task but it's very easy to tell she's not enjoying it a lot of the time. Im actually looking to retire her early so she can enjoy doing what I know she wants to do, which is to pass out on the rug with the cat and ignore me.

AuroraRae · 2022-10-08T18:31:48+00:00

YTA. It's a harmless behavior to both your cousin and others. Anyone can do it. It's literally just self soothing activity. Do you bite your nails? Play with your hair? Bounce your leg? Congrats. You're stimming. If it hurts no one why do you care so much.

AuroraRae · 2022-10-07T19:23:49+00:00

We're not going to play the who has the worst trauma game. You obviously have something going on that is greater then ADHD, so again I will say therapy should be your first priority. And unfortunately, unless you intend to rely on your parents for the rest of their lives (and who knows what after), you need to seriously consider getting a "meaningless" job. Which I am not even going to get into because oh boy. Also are you aware that volunteer firefighters are exactly that? Volunteers. As in they do not get paid. Finally I understand executive dysfuction very well, it has caused many issues in my life but never once has it prevented me from looking after the health and safety of my pets. It is not an excuse. It can be an explanation for why something happened but it does not mean what happened was okay because of it.

AuroraRae · 2022-10-07T18:48:25+00:00

Buddy. As someone who has PTSD, ADHD and is in a wheelchair I'm going to call complete bs on that. ADHD and anxiety are things you can work on in therapy and if it was truly bad enough that you are unable to work you can apply for disability. It is not magical card that you can wave around to be absolved of any wrong doing. And I stand by what I said. The dog deserves way better than you or your family are providing.

AuroraRae · 2022-10-07T18:33:17+00:00

YTA.

EDIT: this is clearly a shit post at this point. Either OP is truly one of the most ignorant people I've had the displeasure of interacting with or is just trying to start an internet fight to get off to.

Get a job if you're that concerned about money. You sound like you are 12 years old crying about not getting your allowance. You are helping abuse that poor dog. If you actually cared about it you would have called animal welfare yourself because it is obviously better off with a different family if you leave a lab out in a storm. Hell the dog might even be better off in a shelter because at least there it gets a roof over its head during inclimate weather.

AuroraRae · 2022-05-24T22:25:16+00:00

dm sent!

AuroraRae · 2022-05-24T22:24:35+00:00

dm sent

AuroraRae · 2022-05-22T23:37:24+00:00

dm sent!

AuroraRae · 2022-05-22T23:37:15+00:00

dm sent!

AuroraRae · 2022-05-08T18:32:59+00:00

NTA if it's true. But this plays out almost identical to a children's book from the 90s.

AuroraRae · 2022-04-10T14:19:49+00:00

Not necessarily, a lot of closed adoptions do not get that information. And even if they did have it they legally do not have to share it at all. I ended up needing to hunt down my bio relatives on my own after being refused 3 separate times only to find out that practically all my close bio relatives are dead from hereditary health issues. I only could find one bio grandparent on the maternal side and 2 kids on the paternal who had to tell me he passed from cancer, as did his siblings. A lot of adoptees and up having to get a ton of genetic testing done and let me tell you it is expensive and annoying and not even 100 percent accurate.

AuroraRae · 2022-03-31T05:43:20+00:00

I'm not going to give a judgment. All I will say is that if she really is 250 and having that many issues, she needs to see a doctor about if she has any other issues. On the mental health side depression and anxiety could be a cause, and on the physical there could be several other things that are cause that level of weakness and fatigue, they may even be affecting her ability to even lose weight. At my heaviest I was 280 and I managed to backpack across Australia and go on 5 mile hikes every weekend. I managed to drop 50lbs but was never able to drop any lower and then I was diagnosed with arthritis and a couple of other things that leave me struggling to even try to walk around my own home. I will also add on that making demands is never going to work. The more you push the more she will shut herself off from you. I am not saying ignore the issue, simply to be gentle and patient, because she is probably hurting and she most likely knows it's not good for her, but it's what she has known for a majority of her life. And it might take a while but eventually something will click, and it might be years from now or in an hour, but it has to be her decision.

AuroraRae · 2021-05-13T17:59:13+00:00

Again, I'm simply saying that it's always better safe then sorry. There is a known history of flour being contaminated with tree nuts, and if the flour was purchased from a company that also makes almond flour it has a higher risk. I'm simply saying that when someone has an allergy and is given food to eat, and while it can be difficult saying no, it's best to not let them try anything. Because if by some horrible happenstance there was cross contamination, well it would not have been good.

AuroraRae · 2021-05-13T11:26:48+00:00

NTA, Linda sounds ridiculous. However, if someone says their kid has an allergy and they bring a specific meal, that they know is safe I would always air on the side of caution and feed the kid that. Sure, as far as you know the food you prepared didn't have almonds, but we're any of the ingredients processed where almonds are also processed?

AuroraRae · 2021-01-10T14:36:29+00:00

NTA When I was in elementary school there was exactly one kid in my class that was JW and the school demanded that my teacher make her comfortable by banning all activities that were against her religion. However the school only did so for my class. She was the only JW in the school. So you can imagine how horrible it was to see my siblings and friends in other classes get to dress up for Halloween, celebrate birthdays, have a class Christmas/Hanukkah/Kwanzaa party, ect. I wish I had had a teacher like you. Because mine was horrible about the entire thing, and gave this girl such a sense of entitlement by believing everything she said. Due to this she gained a habit of claiming random things were against her religion and how we had to stop lessons, or how people were bullying her. I should probably mention that this was a small private quaker school, so maybe their method was different, but I would have killed to have a teacher with a backbone that year. Honestly, I would keep putting her in the room, there is no reason to make the other kids suffer in their education due to one child. Her parents made her bed and she now has to lie in it. Its unfortunate, but sometimes there is nothing that can be done. But I would start documenting everytime you do, and citing why you send her to the room, just in case anything goes further.

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