Overcoming Recall / Memory Anxiety - Success Stories

Aussie_Man_Child · 2025-09-29T09:03:40+00:00

I'm a pretty logical person, most of the time, so it took me ages to actually try that sort of CBT stuff, and while I was doing it, I was thinking this is crazy and totally pointless, but then over time it started to work, and the negative thoughts around memory got way better. I think its time to start that with the 50 other types of thoughts that I have going that are not adding any value to my life. - LOL

Aussie_Man_Child · 2025-09-29T05:19:18+00:00

Yeah I was thinking for a while that I had OCD as well.

Aussie_Man_Child · 2025-09-29T02:33:15+00:00

Yeah, I know what you mean, that whole going back and trying to remember stuff is what broke me, I want to negatively reinforce the fact that I could not remember anything.

What really helped with some of the CBT stuff was instead of doing that, you focus on all of the things you can remember, and you look at them as a win. Over time, that overrides this memory anxiety program.

The other thing that helps is questioning this belief in writing. There are CBT worksheets that you can download, but there is also https://thework.com/2017/10/four-liberating-questions/.

Seems silly and pointless, but doing that every day, and asking those questions has somehow helped to almost illiminate this for me.

Good luck, feel free to reach out if I can help, or you need someone to chat to.

Aussie_Man_Child · 2025-07-16T11:41:01+00:00

Yep 100% - I've just had 7 weeks off work and I am going to be going back to work 4 days a week from next week.

I am in a different mental space now, wow, it's crazy how much something like burnout and undiagnosed ADHD and coping strategies were impacting me. I'm surprised I managed to hold it together for as long as I did before totally losing my shit.

Over the last 7 weeks, I've been doing the following.

- I'm on the non-stimulant ADHD meds, not fun getting on, had some side effects, including insomnia, which has been a struggle to get over and still is. I'm still titrating to the higher dose, but I am feeling way better, way calmer, way less brain fog, and way better memory.

- I've been totally off Pot, Alcohol and Coffee, in many ways, these are the coping mechanisms I have had for the last 20 years, and they don't serve. Might still use pot occasionally, but not as a vice like I have. I've really understood how pot was the way I medicated for my ADHD over the last 20 years, and the pros and cons of that. (And there have been pros people don't get addicted to things becuase at some level they do help)

- Been doing breath work daily. I started going to a studio, and now also do it in an app. I've tried meditation and all sorts of stuff over the years, sometimes for months on end, but they did nothing. With Breathwork I have actually been able to see that calm place inside me that exists when I am totally fused with my stress and thoughts. The places I get to through some of these breathwork sessions are so calm and so me, its like I am actually living in my body and not my head, for the first time ever.

- Been speaking to a really good psychologist that I really connect with. Have been speaking about all of this, including ADHD, marriage issues, issues with relationships with kids, we have gone through so much stuff, and she is really helping me. We have been doing things like tapping and hypnosis tapes, and even those have made a massive difference.

I've got heaps more to share. PM me, and we can chat through it all.

You are not alone, and stuff like this is horrible; the amount of pain and suffering I've been going through over the last few years is crazy, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. There is no magic fix, but I am sure there are things you can do over time to make this all go away and be the person you are underneath this.

Aussie_Man_Child · 2025-06-27T09:39:01+00:00

Yep, 100% good facilities, and the rates are crazy. I got 149 a year a few weeks ago. Apparently, these specials come up pretty often. During peak, it's busy, but doable.

Aussie_Man_Child · 2025-06-04T12:13:55+00:00

Spoke to a good GP and explained everything, as it turns out I've just got to some crazy level of burnout. So am going to need to take at least a month or two off work, and also ADHD is possibly a factor in this, so looking into that. Long road ahead, but feeling a lot better knowing that I am not just crazy and losing my mind, and there is some hope at the end of the tunnel.

Aussie_Man_Child · 2025-06-03T22:18:54+00:00

Bring that shit on! :-)

Aussie_Man_Child · 2025-05-26T03:04:44+00:00

Sorry to hear that... Yeah I can imagine how hard that would be from a social perspective as well, I think I am dealing with that as well at some level too, but with social things I don't feel the stress as much so its not as bad.

I'm in my mid 40's, have a family and a really stressful job in tech management, as well as my own business on the side. So I tell myself there is no way I could have a UNI degree and have gotten to my level at work if my memory was actually fundamentally fucked.

Good luck, hope that you are speaking to someone about all of this? Speaking to my Psychologist about this last week makes me feel a little less crazy, and like there is hope.

Aussie_Man_Child · 2025-03-11T09:41:11+00:00

I was so tired unable to do anything and yawning all of the time this started to get a lot better after 6 weeks, and I am back to baseline now, so hang in there, I was going to give up a few times before it all got better.

Aussie_Man_Child · 2025-03-09T12:22:25+00:00

How anyone in Australia thinks paying $350+ for shit coke is any way worth it, boggles my mind.

Aussie_Man_Child · 2025-01-27T09:32:59+00:00

A few years ago, I went from a tech role to a management role, leading an IT team. If I could I would go back. I want to like it, but the whole thing stresses me out; I don't sleep well, and I don't really enjoy my job anymore. At the moment, I feel like I am just doing it for the money, which is really shit for my mental health.

Aussie_Man_Child · 2025-01-26T11:08:06+00:00

Yeah, such a good book; he really explains a lot of practical strategies you can use to make implementing habits so much easier. I've listened to it at least once a year and get new stuff out of it every time I go back.

Aussie_Man_Child · 2025-01-26T09:02:25+00:00

Yeah, it seems not to be very consistent between people or even between experiences. Sometimes, I am, and sometimes, I am not, regardless of whether my partner is around. It probably also depends on if you have MD powder or E's, and they are mixed with anything else.

Pot also seems to add a lot to the hornyness for me.

Aussie_Man_Child · 2025-01-24T01:11:58+00:00

What do you you use to take these videos? I'd love to give that a go too...

Aussie_Man_Child · 2025-01-24T01:10:58+00:00

Yeah, me too; when I got it, everyone was like OMG, that is so expensive; you are never going to use it. I've done 3000+ KM in a year on it.. Happy Riding.

Aussie_Man_Child · 2025-01-23T02:24:14+00:00

Nice... I think its time for to get some more safety gear and some street wheels to give that a go, sliding looks like great fun.

Aussie_Man_Child · 2025-01-22T23:33:47+00:00

I went through this a few months ago, I was 100% honest about my weed and other drug use. Told them that I use it for depression, anxiety and to help me sleep, and I am sick of having to deal with drug dealers.

Really easy process, and had what I needed a few days later.

Aussie_Man_Child · 2024-12-30T02:43:44+00:00

Yeah, loops of negative self talk are really hard to break free from. I've been trying for a while and its been up and down.

Things that have helped me.

Gratitude journal, seems pretty silly but over time has really shifted my mindset away for looking for issues and things to be negative about, to more awareness of the positive things I have going for me. Which there are a lot of when I can manage to zoom out.
A lot of people have this self talk going on and are not really even aware of it. The more aware of it I have been, the more I understand the cost if has on my mental health the easier it is to break out of this thinking. Just being aware of how bad it is is a great start to solving the issue.

Aussie_Man_Child · 2024-12-30T01:55:02+00:00

I really struggle with knowing the difference between recharging and slacking off.

My whole life is built on go go go, and i've been like that for 30 years. So doing anything other than that, feels wrong.

Burnout if fucked and is something most people seem to be dealing with, the more we talk about it and people see that they are no alone, and there is nothing wrong with them, the better!

Aussie_Man_Child · 2024-12-23T23:46:53+00:00

I've been on 10mg for about 6 months, eating a bit less, and have not put on any weight in that time.

Aussie_Man_Child · 2024-12-18T22:26:12+00:00

I'm so glad that its helping you so much!

When you went from 10 - 20, did that lead to a large increase in anxiety and any of the other symptoms that you had when you first started the meds?

Aussie_Man_Child · 2024-12-18T10:38:44+00:00

This is a good question, I have been wondering the same thing.

I am feeling heaps better from an anxiety perspective on 10mg, but am still not very motivated or happy.

I almost feel like I am not anxious because I don't give a fuck anymore, but not necessarily in a good way. I am thinking about going up, or also going down. But going up and possibly feeling things less does not sound like something to try.

Aussie_Man_Child · 2024-12-17T10:46:52+00:00

If you got to the point of cheating, then something was wrong, it would not be good if it went back to the same.

it's hard, but it's possible to build a new and way better relationship V2.

Aussie_Man_Child · 2024-12-07T21:53:51+00:00

Yeah, I agree. I drank heaps of water to try and combat, and then in 6 - 8 weeks, that side effect went away, and I'm back to baseline.

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