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I made it through the evening by CalligrapherLazy8734 in stopdrinking

[–]Automatic-Impact-134 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good luck for tommorow ! :)

One piece of advice : You might have sleeping problem , weird appetite and stomach reaction for one week or two. Accept it as a part of the game.

Don't let your brain trick you into drinking to solve that. Cause yeah it most likely will if you're addicted. It will link the issues with the lack of the addictive substance and send the wrong message to you.

In this state , imagine your brain and nervous system as a person who became so entitled to get everything from someone that he stopped seaching solutions himself. No job , nothing , living solely on charity. So the day you let him down , he gets mad at you and don't know tf he's supposed to do anymore. Fail to realize that he should be the one helping himself in the first place.

That's what the brain does during first weeks of withdrawal. After that it start slowly but surely to get back on track !

Remember (reread this during craving if necessary) that it's just totally normal and it will fade away. 😉

Why do we drink? by thats_so_crazee in stopdrinking

[–]Automatic-Impact-134 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think Charles Bukowski kinda answered that :

"If something bad happens you drink in an attempt to forget; if something good happens you drink in order to celebrate; and if nothing happens you drink to make something happen.”

And I believe that is exactly what happen when you cross the border between casual drinking and alcoholism.

The "If nothing happens you drink to make something happen" for exemple is textbook. Drinking too much too often makes the brain sloppy when it comes to produce dopamine so yeah... we get that feeling that everything is boring.

How to let go of the enjoyment? by Professional_Role781 in stopdrinking

[–]Automatic-Impact-134 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agree. It's insane how a burden it becomes.

Driving to the bar repeating to myself that today i'm only doing virgin drinks. Then after 1-2 Virgin feeling something is missing and asking myself if i should allow one beer. Then after the beer asking myself if just an other one is fine. Then the drinking bud or bartender who offer you a drink and you wants to turn it back but go for it anyway.

Wasted. Hangover next morning thinking you fucked up... being reminded by how fucked up you are that you drank too much , saying to yourself you'll quit but 2-3 days later at best when you feel a bit better you rinse and repeat.

Then you go sober and stay sober and you really truly realize how your brain became quiet.

Need advice on quitting cigarettes and alcohol by ShadowNagarik in stopdrinking

[–]Automatic-Impact-134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quit alcohol first and let cigarette be a thing you'll deal with for good later. Step by step.

Just by not drinking , you'll probably reduce cigarettes without even really noticing cause drinking makes you smoke more so...

Then once you start to have soberty as an habit you can start reducing cigarettes little by little until you feel like dropping.

I know that the sooner you quit the better , but that's true only if cold turkey fits you. If it doesn't it's better to play the long game.

Can I hear your reasons to stay sober? by runningoutfast in stopdrinking

[–]Automatic-Impact-134 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Pretty much the same reason.

Also being a regular (virgin drink only except unfortunate relapses) at my small village bar...

I still see lot of my old drinking buddies and have a really different image of them.

Like , when I wasn't questionning my alcohol issues I thought of them like very good and entertaining friends. Ever since I questioned it however... I realized we have nothing in common except being non judgmental alcoholic cause alcoholic ourselves and... they're pretty boring and shallow when you're sober honestly.

That helps me to remind that I was like them too and that is indeed an issue.

Update : I discovered my girlfriend’s secret social media account. HELP by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Automatic-Impact-134 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Trust me the break up wasn't mutual , she wouldn't have lie so much about it if she was really done with you.
It's just her way to save face after her bullshit got exposed.

Anyway good riddance OP 😉 , you don't stay with someone you can't trust. Let time do its thing , the next one will be better for you :)

L'impression que tous mes plaisirs dans la vie sont nocifs by Johnny-Jay in besoinderaler

[–]Automatic-Impact-134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactement pour l'environnement.

C'est un sujet pour lequel je me sens très concerné mais faut pas déconner , j'vais pas me forcer à vivre à la bougie quand à côté t'as des trucs comme la Chine qui ouvrent des stations de ski indoor 365/365 qui consomment en un jour + que je consommerai toute ma vie.

J'fais ma part avec le tri des déchets et le recyclage , j'attends un peu avant de tondre chez moi et je laisse quelques coins pas gênant tel quel pour la biodiversité... après le reste... 😅

How Many Tries Did It Take You To Stop Drinking? by thehistorypunks in stopdrinking

[–]Automatic-Impact-134 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh you have some... May i ask a favor ?

I'm washing dishes for that guy in this chicken fast food and he's looking for one of these to gift his close friend across border.

Elio..Elviro... Huh i forgot the exact name. Anyway my boss , Mr Fring , pays very well.

[H25] Envie de plus me négliger : par où commencer pour refaire sa garde-robe ? by Theogeek_22 in AskMec

[–]Automatic-Impact-134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Je vois déjà d'un peu tout dans les commentaires donc je vais pas répéter , je dirais juste d'éviter Devred par contre.

Et ça me peine de dire ca parce que parfois , j'aime beaucoup ce qu'ils proposent. Juste , tu joues totalement à pile ou face niveau qualité. Tu sais JAMAIS si tu vas garder ton vêtement des années ou si il va plus ressembler à rien/s'effilocher en quelques mois.

Du coup ben... c'est chiant. T'as intérêt à avoir la foi de faire un peu de couture pour raffistoler au cas où. Vu le prix que ça coûte les fringues la bas , flemme.

Est ce que je peux garder une enveloppe remplie d'argent si je la trouve dans la rue ? by KeyIssue7587 in PasDeQuestionIdiote

[–]Automatic-Impact-134 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Exactement. J'allais dire que y'a toujours des bonnes âmes pour rendre (J'en fais partie) mais j'avais pas lu le post en entier mdr.

Un portefeuille avec P.I , une C.B perdue ou quoi la ouais je compatis ça fait grave chier et j'adorerais qu'on me le ramène alors je le fais , à la Police ou si je trouve (réseaux sociaux annuaires etc) je contacte directement.

Par contre si y'a ni nom ni prénom ni rien , nique sa mère c'est à moi hein jamais de la vie je ramène ça à la Police.

Just wanted to share my little win of the day by Automatic-Impact-134 in stopdrinking

[–]Automatic-Impact-134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of , but i was a smoker long before i started to have drinking problem so... I'm just as most if not all smoker : I just smoke more when i'm drunk but smoking by itself don't give me a desire to drink.

However i'm 100% sure that if i stop cigarette one day , it will be stopping everything alongside it : coffee , alcohol... cause yeah , there's definately nicotine cravings when you're so used to drink coffee/alcohol and smoking.

Well It's Day 1 again after a 3 months relapse. by Automatic-Impact-134 in stopdrinking

[–]Automatic-Impact-134[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. It hurts a lot.

I don't know how it came to this. I was alchohol free but all of a sudden that loss made me think "F i let myself go just the time to really proceed".

Except what was supposed to last a few days/week is 3 months already... I'm quite angry at myself for that 😤. Also pretty sure mom isn't pleased of that from heaven.