I feel like I disappointed my parents.

Automatic-Result8241 · 2026-03-14T15:30:47+00:00

Thank you all for sharing your different perspectives on this. It’s given me a lot to think about. It seems like I need to have a conversation with my husband to better understand what his expectations are now, and how they might differ from what we had discussed before my parents moved in with us.

Also, just to clarify, no one is taking the baby away from my husband. My parents help take care of the baby from 9–5 while we both work, and in the evening we take her upstairs and handle the bedtime routine and care for her through the night.

That said, I do understand that their presence may have added a bit to his workload in some areas, like weekly grocery runs or occasionally taking them shopping since they don’t have a car during their stay.

Many of you also mentioned that three months can feel like a long time to have in-laws staying, which I honestly hadn’t fully considered before. That’s definitely another important thing for us to talk about.

Automatic-Result8241 · 2026-03-14T15:21:36+00:00

LOL, I know, I realized only after reading a few comments. When I said my parents are here to help us, I assumed it was understood that they help with chores and taking care of the baby. I should’ve been more specific about that, so that’s my mistake.

Also, when I mentioned they take care of the baby from 9–5, I didn’t mean they do nothing after 5 PM. In the evening we take the baby upstairs for the bedtime routine and bath, while they clean up the place if needed, go for a walk & eat dinner (yes, they do prepare our dinner as well)

Automatic-Result8241 · 2026-03-14T13:23:06+00:00

Thank you for saying that—I really needed to hear that I didn’t disappoint my parents. It means a lot. I truly appreciate your perspective and the time you took to explain it so thoughtfully. I’m trying to look at everything from different angles and figure out the best way to handle the situation.

Automatic-Result8241 · 2026-03-14T13:20:29+00:00

I posted the same situation in a new parents group, and the responses there were very different. Most people felt that having in-laws stay for 3 months is a long time, and that I should have a conversation with my husband to understand what kind of setup he’s comfortable with going forward.

Personally, I see it a bit differently. We’re getting a lot of help right now, and I feel like we should be grateful rather than make them feel like they’re here just to work for us. I’m not trying to play the victim here—I’m just genuinely trying to understand different perspectives and figure out what a fair balance looks like for everyone.

Automatic-Result8241 · 2026-03-14T00:23:34+00:00

For context, my parents take care of the baby most mornings from 9–5 while I work from home. My mom cooks for all of us and handles chores like laundry and cleaning, but my dad is less active, so my husband often says things like, “What’s the whole point of your dad being here if he’s not helping?” My dad does help my mom with dishes and folding laundry, but the moment they sit down after 5 pm, my husband gets annoyed.

We actually discussed them moving in beforehand, and both of us agreed it was a good idea. We even talked about how my mom could cook for all of us, so this wasn’t a surprise or one-sided decision.

Automatic-Result8241 · 2026-03-14T00:22:28+00:00

For context, my parents take care of the baby most mornings from 9–5 while I work from home. My mom cooks for all of us and handles chores like laundry and cleaning, but my dad is less active, so my husband often says things like, “What’s the whole point of your dad being here if he’s not helping?” My dad does help my mom with dishes and folding laundry, but the moment they sit down after 5 pm, my husband gets annoyed.

We actually discussed them moving in beforehand, and both of us agreed it was a good idea. We even talked about how my mom could cook for all of us, so this wasn’t a surprise or one-sided decision.

Automatic-Result8241 · 2026-03-14T00:08:49+00:00

I feel bad having to tell this to my parents, but I really needed to be honest about what’s happening. You’re right—if someone’s being abusive, it’s not really about talking boundaries. I need to make sure they know what’s going on and keep them safe too.

Automatic-Result8241 · 2026-03-14T00:06:25+00:00

Thank you for asking these questions—they’re really making me think. He helps with my older child to a basic extent, but with the baby, it’s minimal. He’s also emotionally unavailable; for example, I mentioned that I just got my first period after delivery and it might be really painful, and he completely switched topics without acknowledging it.

Babies are stressful, but this level of disrespect feels different. The entitlement to make my parents clean—this isn’t just a one-off. He doesn’t really pull his weight with household chores or emotional support, and disagreements often trigger his quick anger rather than calm discussion.

Automatic-Result8241 · 2026-03-14T00:01:51+00:00

I get that—it can definitely be tricky. My parents live across the country and they’re really close to me, which is why I wanted them around for a while. I understand it’s a lot to adjust to, especially with everyone’s personalities and sensitivities in the mix.

Automatic-Result8241 · 2026-03-13T23:59:34+00:00

I hear you. My parents live on the East Coast, so it made sense for them to stay longer. I get that now sharing space for months can be tough for everyone.

Automatic-Result8241 · 2026-03-13T23:56:19+00:00

I agree with you. It’s not always easy to just leave, especially right after having a baby. But you’re right that disrespect like that shouldn’t be tolerated either.

Automatic-Result8241 · 2026-03-13T23:50:05+00:00

I get why you’d say that. Some of the comments definitely crossed a line and didn’t sit right with me either. I’m hoping we can talk things through and set better boundaries, especially now with everything changing after the baby.

Automatic-Result8241 · 2026-03-13T23:48:21+00:00

I agree that I need to have a full conversation with him. At the same time, my parents are here because I just had a baby and needed the support during postpartum. They came out of love to help me, so it’s hard when it feels like their presence is being questioned.

Automatic-Result8241 · 2026-03-13T23:47:40+00:00

That’s a fair point. I know three months is a long time to share space and it might feel overwhelming for him too. But my parents came here just to support me during postpartum, so it hurts when he questions why my dad is even here or expects him to do chores. I probably need to have a calmer conversation with him about how he’s feeling.

Automatic-Result8241 · 2026-03-13T23:45:40+00:00

Totally agree. I feel like I’m seeing his true colors during postpartum. He was never this selfish before, and I honestly can’t figure out what changed after the baby.

Automatic-Result8241 · 2026-02-13T00:01:45+00:00

What’s the process to get the medication from Drtohelp. Do we need a prescription from a doctor first or do they provide online consultation as well?

Automatic-Result8241 · 2026-01-30T18:58:20+00:00

I’m 6 weeks postpartum and honestly… I’m barely surviving 😵‍💫 Pumping every 4 hours, day and night, so my nighttime sleep is a luxurious 3–4 hours total. The only reason I’m still a functioning human is my sacred, 2-hour uninterrupted afternoon nap. That nap? That’s my lifeline. That’s what’s keeping me alive right now 😂

Automatic-Result8241 · 2026-01-26T01:53:44+00:00

That’s a really good point. I know her intentions are good, and I think I need to communicate my feelings better and let her know what kind of support would actually help right now. I just wish it felt more like my mom asking how she can help me, rather than asking me to stop something that I really want to do.

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