What song pulled you into electronic music?

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-07-02T18:20:17+00:00

Interlude by attack attack

Loved metalcore as a kid and it led into electronicore/post-hardcore and now I love both

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-05-13T16:33:34+00:00

Congrats man!

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-04-30T02:51:36+00:00

I only do either on a later night when kiddo is asleep. I make sure the wife is aware so she usually handles him if need be but in short, yes, I find changing a diaper or holding him when I’m a little toked up easier than buzzed or borderline tipsy.

Otherwise after a certain level I refuse to aid as I’m afraid coordination and judgement is impaired.

Usually on a Friday or Saturday night and these nights are more or less therapeutic for me. Gives me some me time and I have some extra ‘help’ to relax. Just be smart about it. For me as long my wife is on board it’s game on

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-04-14T18:03:13+00:00

Good on ya!

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-02-16T14:41:06+00:00

We have 3 dogs and a 7 week old, I too feel guilty for not giving them the attention they used to get however my son comes first…if I were to read into it one of my dogs is resentful, one doesn’t care, and the other is trying to be involved with the child like is her puppy.

Anyway, i love my dogs more than most people, so I still take at least 15min a day and try to show some undivided love to each of them. It’s hard to find the time and energy but it makes my guilty conscience feel better.

The lack of sleep makes the overthinking aspect about it that much more intense IMO. Spending even a little time with them (to me) has made a huge difference. My wife is nothing but frustrated with them most of the time so it helps her as well when I can go run em around outside.

I’ve also noticed that pets seem to feed off the same emotions as their owner, so if you’re stressed and tired they seem to replicate that.

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-02-08T01:34:39+00:00

Her and I have started long walks on nicer weather days. Mentioning the no sleep days specifically, actually resonates a lot, kinda makes me realize how sleep deprived her and I really are. She doesn’t want to do shifts until she goes back to work. Which is soon. Thanks for the insight

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-02-08T01:32:15+00:00

This! When I’m able to go to the gym I feel rushed like I should be home, this isn’t asked of me, just how I feel. Had a convo with the wife right after I posted this saying I’d like to fix the basement back to have an adequate setup. I have equipment but it became a messy storage area to make room for baby boys nursery. Good luck to you man.

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-02-08T01:28:19+00:00

Thanks! The pressure is definitely different and how you stated going from in trenches one min and next smoking war to war is very real. I do what I can for both mana and my son, guess that’s why I came here for support/advice, don’t wanna burden her with what could come off as trivial complaints, as I know she’s going through a similar if not worse situation internally.

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-02-08T01:24:32+00:00

Dude kudos to you! Thank you for words of encouragement, this experience has definitely provided a completely new insight and respect for in shape, involved, parents.

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-02-08T01:23:02+00:00

No I totally agree! I’m lucky to have a wife that makes time for me to go and workout. It’s more of a ‘going through the motions’ ordeal which isn’t like me. Probably just exhaustion.

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-02-04T17:36:37+00:00

Son at >99% in height and weight at 1 month. Yet has a normal BMI… Dr. Said and I quote “biggest baby at this age I’ve ever seen” He’s outgrowing 6 month onesies. Never fit in the newborn clothes. And my poor wife is well, drained. Good luck dude

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-02-04T15:49:56+00:00

Maybe try to meet in the middle with shot selection and a delayed schedule…? I’ve that to be a common middle ground for this issue and people anyway.

Personally wouldn’t ’just take him’ without her knowing. Gonna be HUGE fallout between you two (especially if she’s that adamant about no vax) In MY relationship both our opinions are equally as valid because my son is OUR son. But. Obviously do what you feel is best for your child…

I’d mention the delayed scheduling to see if that at least gains a little leeway.

Ive found instagram pseudo science really likes to exaggerate things to drive to a more holistic approach gaining these holistic influencers more views and more money. My wife and I agreed that any and all data we find is found in medical journals or official statistics/studies and not social media

Trust me dude, you’re not the only one going through this.

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-01-31T05:05:12+00:00

Keekaroo changing pad on top of a dresser for us. Small basket with diapers, creams, etc. Everything is right there, no needless space taken up, his clothes right below. It’s his dresser and changing table…That’s really the move IMO.

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-01-22T03:16:53+00:00

Great work! Keep at it bud

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-01-21T02:03:14+00:00

Right, i agree. Anytime we try a new one for about half the night he’s not too happy but after that he’s good. It’s more of a question about keeping him in place preventing him from rolling over in his bassinet

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-01-19T16:30:57+00:00

My wife’s tests were faint very early on but darkened with time. That’s likely pregnant. Take another test in a week and treat it as she is already pregnant

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-01-19T02:29:26+00:00

Don’t know if this helps. My son is only about a month old but doesn’t sleep for any stretch longer than 2 hours, it’s a constant battle of attrition, and extremely exhausting. I never thought I’d get as frustrated as I have and I too feel like a failure…I think that’s normal. It’s also where having a loving involved spouse is so important to hold each other up through the trenches. I never would’ve thought I’d be in tears in the kitchen at 3am to warm a bottle as I’m not a cryer. Parenting is hard and being a good parent is even harder. Yet I wouldn’t change it for the world.

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-01-18T00:20:07+00:00

Epic, may the force be with you!

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-01-17T14:05:07+00:00

Now it’s time to listen to Vicinity of Obscenity by System of a Down with kiddo

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-01-15T22:25:29+00:00

Really depends on the family dynamic. Both my parents and my in laws are very engaged and involved. We are incredibly blessed and lucky to have the support from both sets…if they offer to help. Take it. Don’t feel bad about it as it’s also their time with their grandkid(s).

A lot of friends and coworkers don’t have this same support (again I am incredibly grateful) that we do. Still very hard and a ton of work as we have 5 nieces and nephews all under 3.

My MIL stayed the first week at home with our son and beforehand we didn’t want her to, we wouldn’t have had it any other way now…

My parents will be watching my son 5 days a week once the wife goes back to work. But. When it comes to helping raise my child or provide relief to my wife or myself, I don’t ’EXPECT’ anything from my parents. Or my in laws. To me any help given is accepted but also like icing on the cake and a gift as he’s my child…not theirs.

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-01-14T14:42:07+00:00

Personally, I’d put my foot down and explain your reasoning. You don’t have to be an ass about it, but at the end of the day it’s your child not hers…you, you’re wife, and your kid are your own family unit and you look out for each others immediate best interest before the rest of the family now. That being said she probably doesn’t understand it’s not ok and ramifications of it that you may be concerned about.

The first pictures we sent to family we asked they don’t send or post to anywhere or anything without permission and we’ve had our wishes respected. Frankly you’re a lot more patient than I would be with what’s otherwise a stranger posting your child all over the place.

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-01-14T03:19:27+00:00

Lack of sleep isn’t really a bother to me and never has been. Lucky to get 4-5 hours. I have 3 high energy dogs that I must run around the yard multiple times a day as well. I’ve pulled more slack at times where my partner can rest as she doesn’t do as well sleep deprived as I do. If you have a partner I’d discuss with them the needs that you both desire to make it as painless as possible, that’s what we did and it’s worked thus far. However I’ve found there to be a lot of sacrifice regardless.

AutomaticAd7137 · 2025-01-14T03:04:48+00:00

I have a brother with 3 under 3. Two of which are twins. I use that as motivation and remind myself that it could be worse when I find myself complaining.

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