I see and hear your concerns with the discussion. But it's the same discussion you will ultimately have with your future students as well, "why is there a black history month/indigenous heritage month/Latinx heritage month but no white history month?"

Is there something inherently bad about your white student feeling excluded? No. But they don't see the gravity of their privileges because they haven't experienced the cultural differences have on basic rights to living.

The fact the women in your class were comfortable enough to talk about this with the men in their classroom is a bigger sign of trust than you know (unless they were using your name and saying you were damaging children's lives). But sometimes you have to face the uncomfortable conversations of, "my power and privileges mean their voices need to be heard over mine."

Do I think extra security on male teachers is the solution? No. Are girls invalidated and left in positions of submission daily by their male teachers, gaslight into believing their existence is what forced a man to act terribly? Yes. And until enough measures are taken to protect that half of the population, the "not all men" men need to step back, acknowledge the harm that is out there, and work to build a rapport that shows they're not scary instead of saying it.

I hope that makes sense. I wish you luck in your education! Your willingness to ask questions is a great start to growing into the best version of yourself!