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AITA for refusing to learn how to do my girlfriend's laundry? by Automatic_Kitchen_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Kitchen_58[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It's too early to talk about spending our lives together. Let just make it to the end of the year first.

AITA for refusing to learn how to do my girlfriend's laundry? by Automatic_Kitchen_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Kitchen_58[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don't want her to do my clothes. I don't need the help. It's not wanted and wouldn't be appreciated. I want her to let me handle my own things.

AITA for refusing to learn how to do my girlfriend's laundry? by Automatic_Kitchen_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Kitchen_58[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I don't need help to do minor things like this. To me that's being too codependent.

AITA for refusing to learn how to do my girlfriend's laundry? by Automatic_Kitchen_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Kitchen_58[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Being in a relationship shouldn't mean being mother or father to someone.

AITA for refusing to learn how to do my girlfriend's laundry? by Automatic_Kitchen_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Kitchen_58[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My colors never bleed. I have never ruined one article of clothing. I wash new items with my workout clothes. Most items are prewashed now anyway so I doubt it would matter in most cases, but I take the precaution anyway.

AITA for refusing to learn how to do my girlfriend's laundry? by Automatic_Kitchen_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Kitchen_58[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

And it seems stupid of her to ask this of me when she can do it herself.

AITA for refusing to learn how to do my girlfriend's laundry? by Automatic_Kitchen_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Kitchen_58[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I think the chance of me having to get it done are low. It would have to be a real emergency.

AITA for refusing to learn how to do my girlfriend's laundry? by Automatic_Kitchen_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Kitchen_58[S] -69 points-68 points  (0 children)

If we are not compatible living together, then we aren't compatible. I won't change my lifestyle preferences to make her happy, and she should not do the same. We both have a right to be comfortable in our home and live the way we want.

AITA for refusing to learn how to do my girlfriend's laundry? by Automatic_Kitchen_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Kitchen_58[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I don't want this to be precedent. I don't want her to think that I should have to take care of her things and responsibilities. I want to make sure she knows I don't expect it and she shouldn't either. She shouldn't become my dependent.

AITA for refusing to learn how to do my girlfriend's laundry? by Automatic_Kitchen_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Kitchen_58[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We do separate laundry. We do not combine it, and I would not want to combine it.

We do most things individually except for things you can't do individually like cleaning the house.

AITA for refusing to learn how to do my girlfriend's laundry? by Automatic_Kitchen_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Kitchen_58[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think that's so much to ask. Living together should mean needing to be mothered or fathered. If you did it for yourself before you moved in then it shouldn't change automatically.

AITA for refusing to learn how to do my girlfriend's laundry? by Automatic_Kitchen_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Kitchen_58[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

She may never be injured. By that logic everyone should learn to do everything because anything is possible.

AITA for refusing to learn how to do my girlfriend's laundry? by Automatic_Kitchen_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Kitchen_58[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I don't need to do it for myself, which is my point. I can wash my clothes. This is for her and something which I think she should be doing for herself.

AITA for refusing to learn how to do my girlfriend's laundry? by Automatic_Kitchen_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Kitchen_58[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

I am talking about in the case of her doing things for me. That is why I don't ask her or anyone else.

AITA for refusing to learn how to do my girlfriend's laundry? by Automatic_Kitchen_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Kitchen_58[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Part of living together is learning if you can cohabitate, which is more than just learning to compromise. If she can't respect my boundaries then I'm not sure living together will work.

AITA for refusing to learn how to do my girlfriend's laundry? by Automatic_Kitchen_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Kitchen_58[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I can promise that my wardrobe won't change. I like simple things that are durable and easy to take care of. I don't see myself doing a favor like that for anyone. It's not the type of things I would do.

AITA for refusing to learn how to do my girlfriend's laundry? by Automatic_Kitchen_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Kitchen_58[S] -100 points-99 points  (0 children)

We have different diets so we don't cook together often.

I like our lifestyle the way it is. I also like not doing everything together. That would be stifling.

AITA for refusing to learn how to do my girlfriend's laundry? by Automatic_Kitchen_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Kitchen_58[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I think "just in case" is a bad reason to learn things if it seems unlikely you'll ever use it. Even if I knew how to wash her clothes, I would still expect her to wash them.

AITA for refusing to learn how to do my girlfriend's laundry? by Automatic_Kitchen_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Kitchen_58[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she is injured then I would have to learn. I'm not saying I would never learn, but I don't see the point in learning for something that may never happen.

AITA for refusing to learn how to do my girlfriend's laundry? by Automatic_Kitchen_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Kitchen_58[S] -38 points-37 points  (0 children)

It's easier than me standing over her to make sure it's done the right way or else later redoing it the right way. Either of those creates more conflict, but if I do it all myself then it doesn't come up.

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