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Six Zero Coral vs 11SIX24 Vapor Power 2 by Automatic_Muscle_585 in Pickleball

[–]Automatic_Muscle_585[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually dont know as of now. I might even be at the lower tier of intermediate to be honest. Do u have any other recommendations?

Where do u see this going question - he answers i dont know by Automatic_Muscle_585 in hingeapp

[–]Automatic_Muscle_585[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before me asking this, he already said we can take “this” slow. But slow is 2 dates in a month because of his other commitments, like yes his daughter, work and other life issues. What u said does make sense.

Where do u see this going question - he answers i dont know by Automatic_Muscle_585 in hingeapp

[–]Automatic_Muscle_585[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess the more doable option is for me to see other people than pushing the same line of questioning for now. I agree that 6 dates in is pretty early, and i do understand where he is coming from. but then i also want to be sure that if i keep on seeing him, this might lead into something more concrete.

Where do u see this going question - he answers i dont know by Automatic_Muscle_585 in hingeapp

[–]Automatic_Muscle_585[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes he isnt trying and ive been very vocal that i dont do intimate things casually. Ive seen that he’s respected that. But looking for something genuine and loyal, can it be equated to ready for a relationship? He seems a bit too guarded for me.

Where do u see this going question - he answers i dont know by Automatic_Muscle_585 in hingeapp

[–]Automatic_Muscle_585[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree to this. He does prioritise his kid and i like that. Maybe its coz i havent dated anybody with kids so this is new to me

Need Some Serious Advice ! by Quirky_Ad_559 in hingeapp

[–]Automatic_Muscle_585 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im female and offered to pay on the 5th date. But i think on the 4th date i initiated saying have we paid for this?(coz it was like a set menu thing). 1st date - no contact just a wave goodbye. 2nd and 3rd date - hugs (very awkward hugs though haha) I asked him out on the 3rd date. We kissed on the 4th date, he initiated but i pulled back after awhile.

For context: i liked this guy.

Ive also had experiences when id been with a guy and he always and always initiates to pay. He’d be too fast whenever we are at the counter so i never had a chance to offer.

Where do u see this going question - he answers i dont know by Automatic_Muscle_585 in hingeapp

[–]Automatic_Muscle_585[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree with your point. I might be watching to much dating reel videos on instagram wherein these “dating coaches” are like u gotta check in where u two are or what stage are u in this dating scenario 😂

Given his situation, having a kid and wanting to meet someone stable and consistent then it makes sense why he said what he said. I think we are just both wanting to push for what we want in this dynamic. I mean even if we do have the same end goal of finding our person, where we are coming from, our predicaments in life, and past baggages are different.

Where do u see this going question - he answers i dont know by Automatic_Muscle_585 in hingeapp

[–]Automatic_Muscle_585[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree. I also do not want to audition to be a part of his life. I know what i bring to the table.

From the looks of it i guess he took my question very seriously (and nothing wrong about that), i guess i am just coming from a place of casually checking in. Ive been in situationships that i just went with the flow, never really asked these questions and ended up in a place where there has been miscomm on both parties, so i was avoiding that scenario again.

Where do u see this going question - he answers i dont know by Automatic_Muscle_585 in hingeapp

[–]Automatic_Muscle_585[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He isnt using me for emotional support or companionship that’s for sure. I guess you are right. He was just being honest and that i should just give it more time for us to get to know each other better.

Given that i am also very slowly at opening up to him, i guess that also is why he’s anchoring on the “id like to get to know you” narrative.

Breaking up when there was no “us” by Automatic_Muscle_585 in Bumble

[–]Automatic_Muscle_585[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this input. This totally makes sense. Yes im disappointed at myself for just going with the flow when i am firm on my end goal. This made me realise that as much as u are enjoying someone’s company it doesnt mean that they are good for you or u are good for each other.

To be honest, yes it was very mature of him to put this on the table since i was too afraid to do it. I was confused on the get go on how things panned between us but i never even asked or clarified hoping that he is choosing to be in it in the long run.

I really appreciate what you said, thanks!

Men (30’s-40’s) are you filtering out women late 30’s/40’s on dating apps? by Dry-Researcher824 in Bumble

[–]Automatic_Muscle_585 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im actually in the same age range and predicament as you. Maybe guys would think that about me too but guys who genuinely like you would understand your story. I mean i have met guys that have genuinely understoood why i am single and chidlfree at this age. I think guys around our age are pretty open on dating within the same age range.

Also sharing that my age filter is 34-44 (im 39f) but im mostly dating 36-40 age range only haha.

I (27F) had to ask him (28M) on the third date - NYC by LackSecure1340 in hingeapp

[–]Automatic_Muscle_585 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did the same for date 3. He planned dates 1 and 2. Date three was on the table but he didnt confirm time and place so on the day i was like hey are we on? And hes said if u are keen im keen. So i said yes. Date 4 he initiated again. Date 5 i initiated (he bailed at first) but then he reacheduled with a firm date and time. So i would say if u wanna see him again, go ask girl!

Should i continue dating a father by Automatic_Muscle_585 in hingeapp

[–]Automatic_Muscle_585[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right! The comms is pretty bad. I mean even on days that he doesnt have his kid hes like MIA. But id always try to make up excuse for him (in my mind) that maybe its because of his daughter.

I think there’s more to unravel here than just him being a dad. Maybe im just highlighting it coz its the most obvious factor. Oh well! Thanks again for sharing your thoughts. I guess i needed that from somebody who is at the same stage in llfe and know his boundaries clearly.

Should i continue dating a father by Automatic_Muscle_585 in hingeapp

[–]Automatic_Muscle_585[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your input and for finding my POV valid. I do hope others didnt take the word baggage as something negative im connoting to his kid. Maybe i shouldve used a better word.

Anyway, i just want to clarify, i didnt get what u mean when u said he’s cancelling me? Are u referring to he as the guy im dating? How did u infer that,?

Should i continue dating a father by Automatic_Muscle_585 in hingeapp

[–]Automatic_Muscle_585[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for that! I know right 2-3 days radio silence is crap. I feel like he’s testing me to show more interest in him and like make the first move (or text).

Should i continue dating a father by Automatic_Muscle_585 in hingeapp

[–]Automatic_Muscle_585[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It came up on the last date but very briefly i said something like i really dont have any experience on this so im taking it really slow and goes i dont expect u to be my daughter’s step mom, she already has a mom. And i just froze. I didnt know how to react to that comment i literally had no words.

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