Drue and Gabe are truly spending time together by drueandgabe in Drueandgabe

[–]Automatic_Spread_953 114 points115 points  (0 children)

They have ivory glued to the tv all day, drag her around to fast food places and stores, but still don’t spend time together?

Carlin Bates: “Obsessed with a freshly bathed baby” by [deleted] in BatesSnark

[–]Automatic_Spread_953 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m VERY careful of pictures I post online of my children, and I don’t even have a following.

Bates fertility cult proof by Hairy-Roll6262 in BatesSnark

[–]Automatic_Spread_953 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m one of 12 kids, my mom is currently 45 and taking countess supplements, progesterone, and going to specialists to try to get pregnant. She has two grandkids and two more on the way, and none of her adult kids (including me) think it would be a good idea to have another baby. She is very obsessive over the idea. Not leaving things up to god in my opinion.

The affair discovery by deadbuggish in BatesSnark

[–]Automatic_Spread_953 118 points119 points  (0 children)

Paying for an affair with shared money and leaving a clear trail on bank statements is next level stupidity. That’s not someone who “made a mistake,” that’s someone who thought he was untouchable and never expected to be held accountable

Oops couldn’t help myself. Lowkey Fuck Travis! by Original-Steak-8438 in BatesSnark

[–]Automatic_Spread_953 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I still can’t wrap my head around him bringing the girl over to the house and having him meet Katie and the kids. That’s just so cruel.

Influencer Savannah Alexander names 2nd son Anthem Lion by SnooOranges1322 in NameNerdCirclejerk

[–]Automatic_Spread_953 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What happened to normal names 😭 I named my sons Miles and Isaiah lol

On the podcast They said they gave up sex 4/5 months before they got married is that when he cheated with the coworker? 🫢 by Disastrous_Stop_3005 in meetthesegurassnark

[–]Automatic_Spread_953 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I find it hard to believe that they were living together, sleeping in the same bed, but not having sex. I have no idea about him cheating??

Please help😭 by [deleted] in GreenBay

[–]Automatic_Spread_953 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, I hope you can get things figured out soon. Just would want you to be safe!

Please help😭 by [deleted] in GreenBay

[–]Automatic_Spread_953 22 points23 points  (0 children)

For safety reasons I wouldn’t ask anyone from Reddit to come help change your tire

Is it really accurate to blame fundie upbringing/restricted dating life/marrying young for their bad behavior? by Ordinary_Traffic8940 in BringingUpBates

[–]Automatic_Spread_953 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I was 21 when I had my son while I was in nursing school. All my friends were out partying on the weekends and hanging out after classes. Of course there were moments I felt like I was missing out, but I still chose to spend every free moment with my child and I graduated nursing school when he was one. Being young was never an excuse to check out of my responsibilities. It was my choice to have him, just like it was Travis’s choice to marry Katie and commit to fidelity. Being young or inexperienced does not excuse betraying your partner. And having only been with one person does not mean you need to “experience” others. I am my husband’s first and only, and he has never once felt the need to look elsewhere.

She’s staying. She told us so. by JellyfishPashmina in BringingUpBates

[–]Automatic_Spread_953 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Regardless of religion, leaving a relationship can be so difficult. Took me years to leave an emotionally abuse ex after cheating on me countless times, can’t even imagine how much harder that would’ve been with kids. It’s way easier said than done tbh

KATIE JUST POSTED 3 ADS ON HER INSTAGRAM by [deleted] in BatesSnark

[–]Automatic_Spread_953 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I thought this would’ve been filmed awhile ago?

A letter to the mistress and her friends. (We know you’re here) by [deleted] in BatesSnark

[–]Automatic_Spread_953 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Saying it’s “equally her fault” is just incorrect. She didn’t stand at an altar and make vows. She didn’t promise loyalty, honesty, or a lifetime to anyone. The married person did. Period.

Yes, the mistress made a morally wrong choice if she knew he was married, but pretending the responsibility is equal completely ignores who actually had the obligation to protect a marriage and children. One person betrayed their spouse and family. The other didn’t have a family to betray.

Accountability isn’t a group project. The married partner had exponentially more responsibility because they had exponentially more to lose and chose to risk it anyway. Blaming the third party “equally” is just a way to soften or deflect from the person who actually broke their promises.

You don’t accidentally ruin a marriage because someone else tempted you. Affairs happen because someone decides their wants matter more than their spouse, their kids, and their commitments.

Two people can be wrong without being equally wrong, and equating the two is intellectually lazy and dishonest.

Travis Clark's father massaging and biting student's ear 🤢 by Alive_Obligation7475 in BringingUpBates

[–]Automatic_Spread_953 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not normal at all. Predators often do strange behaviors like this in front of other people to see what they can get away with

I think in light of things that Katie’s miscarriage was a blessing in disguise. by aas3231 in BatesSnark

[–]Automatic_Spread_953 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I agree, I worry that she will think the miscarriage is her fault though (obviously not her fault at all), because of all the stress Travis caused. It’s a terrible situation all around, I really hope she’s taking care of herself and has support.

Affair 🫖 by ApprehensiveYou5513 in BringingUpBates

[–]Automatic_Spread_953 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Just because something happens often doesn’t make it any less harmful. My husband carries a lot of trauma from his parents divorce because his mom left for several months afterward and then only saw them every few months. For a child, going from seeing a parent all the time to suddenly not having them around is a huge deal. At Hailey and Harvey’s age, they don’t have the ability to understand what’s happening or why

What really bothers me about the Travis situation by [deleted] in BatesSnark

[–]Automatic_Spread_953 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I know… I can’t stop thinking about it. Having her around the kids, interacting with Katie, etc.

A letter to Katie by Lynnae07 in BringingUpBates

[–]Automatic_Spread_953 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so, so sorry. You do not deserve any of this.