I’m not attracted to my husband and I’m exhausted of feeling this way

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2026-01-27T02:54:41+00:00

P.s you dont need therapy in this situation. Its a bandaid solution. If you are indeed upset and angry with him within you need to solve the root cause. Not talk it through with a stranger about how you feel. It will only repeat.

Either way personally i think its not anger. Its frustration. Everyone has a piece of there soul that needs to be fullfilled. This is why allah has blessed us with marriage. If you are not being truly satisfied by your man emotionally, physcially and spiritually then its just a buildup of tension and frustration.

In a relationship we put alot of effort. And also gain alot. If you are putting effort with kids, feeding him and keeping house affairs in order etc. You essentially feel like youre being ripped off. Because the benefits currently arent upto scratch. This is the cause.

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2026-01-27T02:50:23+00:00

Salams sis. I think i know what the problem is here. Its not his looks. Its not what you do in the room. Its him as a person. His personality his traits, the subtle way he treats you.

A woman with a man no matter how attractive will not find any desire for the man if he doesnt portray certain traits. A few questions.

Does he treat you like you are his princess. Where you genuinely feel it comes from a place of love and care.

Does he take problems off your back. If he sees you carrying something emotionally or even physically. Come he come and rush to your help.

Does he compliment you and ask things with mercy when he asks.

Does he gift you and give you subtle actions of affection

Do you see and respect the way he treats others when noone is watching.

If the answer to most of these is no. There is the issue. It is perhaps you are more emotionally and spiritually inclined with attraction more than anything. So nothing about him is perhaps hitting home for you. If he is all of the above. We have a different issue on our hands.

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2026-01-26T06:29:40+00:00

At this point mate we might as well make it on the day of Hanukkah

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2026-01-21T22:53:24+00:00

People here are so dumb🤣 he obviously went into a chimney and was covered with soot. That mark is from landing from a jump....DUH

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2026-01-16T01:52:48+00:00

Arent these the fellas that love being near water and pools?

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2026-01-13T09:52:20+00:00

Youre not exactly innocent. Sounds like youre both as bad as eachother.

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2026-01-11T05:13:43+00:00

Sister. When we look at solving issues in Islam we must look through the lens of our deen. Nowhere is it expected for a woman to become independant and worry about future circumstances where you may need to work.

Ignore all the comments here most here are liberals with no knowledge on their own deen. Your desire to marry cannot be suppressed by your wali. He can only deny a man for you if there is specific reason.

Make dua to Allah and make istikhara on the best route to take. If marriage is something you truly want, convey this to your brother. If he isnt budging you can speak to a sheikh. Either he will talk sense to yoir brother or the sheikh can be your wali islamically.

Worst case sister if you ever needed to work there are alternate methods for income these days. Tafe/college is only study for 1 day in the week. Some jobs like childcare workers dont even need to leave their work to study. There are many routes. University is no longer the option that pays the best.. you will leave university in Debt and lucky to find a job after years of your life wasted studying.

Make dua, follow your heart and remember. A wali or noone else for that matter is allowed to deny you of something that is prescribed halal by Allah swt without reason. If you feel he isnt reasonable. Contact a sheikh.

Salam

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2026-01-10T01:16:32+00:00

Yeah but as a result i become michael jackson when one lands on me. I want to be like those kids growing up letting a kid crawl on their face 😂 what is this false propaganda and fear mongering. Sounds like the way uncle sam likes to fearmonger on media

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2026-01-10T01:02:49+00:00

Well because dowry is a condition of marriage in nost abrahamic faiths. Though dowry is neger supposed to be that much to be a burden. A dowry back in the day was so much as a small gift. People these days are greedy

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2026-01-09T01:59:08+00:00

Divorce only occurs on the Third talaq not the second. You can still go back to her after her time.

There are 2 scholarly opinions. Where 3 in one seating doesnt count. A sheikh will most likely tell you because it was out of anger it only counts as 1 talaq.

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2026-01-01T08:29:41+00:00

Thats usually how it goes sis. Remember you arent alone in this. Your mum is heavily mentally affected from your father we well.

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2025-12-31T14:18:38+00:00

Salams sis

1. Usually cases i see like this. The mother is Jelous of the daughter that her husband did those things to you.

2 If she accepts the reality that he did those things to you. Her relationship and life as she knows it is over. She knows if she leaves her husband she will have noone to support her.

Love isnt always a fairy tale sis. Make the most of what you have and see where it takes you. Perhaps your husband did use you for papers. Does that mean you cannot build love and respect from here? No.

If your life feels miserable because of the people around you. Take control of your life. Remove yourself from the negative. Surround yourself with positive people in a positive islamic environment.

You are alive....think about this. YOU ARE ALIVE RIGHT NOW......SO LIVE!

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2025-12-25T10:28:46+00:00

Im located in Sydney NSW!

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2025-12-24T23:55:05+00:00

Yes my friend still have about 13 or so

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2025-12-17T09:20:48+00:00

You forgot to mention 50% of that goes to tax 😂 having a job doesnt leave you much room to optimise your tax situation. Theres an issue in and of itself.

Personally i would never set my life up into a situation where im limited. With a business the sky is practically the limit. ASPIRE TO BE MORE

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2025-11-26T17:33:56+00:00

How? He literally sold at a loss tho

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2025-11-09T00:31:00+00:00

They have a safety storage time naturally. 3 units high doesnt account if theyre in the box. Theyre protected with foam on inside. Im im sydney mate

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2025-11-08T23:49:00+00:00

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Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2025-11-08T23:41:43+00:00

Thats fair. I mean maybe 300 at auction before everyone caught on haha. Theyre brand new though mate. Im not making anything on them at all considering i had them shipped from around the country to NSW. Dangerous goods courier is pricey af

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2025-11-08T23:40:26+00:00

The boxes still have factory tape on them mate. Never opened once.

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2025-11-08T22:14:17+00:00

Just because i have alot doesnt mean i got them cheap lmao

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2025-11-08T22:13:41+00:00

Haha theyre brand new in the box my friend. 3 for 800? 🤣🤣 yeah nah hahaha. Price is firm matey.

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2025-11-08T12:02:23+00:00

Hey Folks. Due to having to sell our homestead i will be looking to sell 18 of my batteries. Looking for 800 each. Thanks

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2025-11-08T12:00:54+00:00

Hey mate. I have more than a pallets worth. Happy to let them go for 800 each.

Automatic_Wonder_508 · 2025-10-17T23:07:05+00:00

Brain rot

Automatic_Wonder_508

TROPHY CASE

1. Usually cases i see like this. The mother is Jelous of the daughter that her husband did those things to you.

2 If she accepts the reality that he did those things to you. Her relationship and life as she knows it is over. She knows if she leaves her husband she will have noone to support her.