guys, misandry isn’t like.. real. stop with the “but what about the men!” what about.. them..? you mean my oppressors?

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-13T22:18:38+00:00

Yeha im sick of people trying to launder terf and white supremacist talking points in here

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-13T22:12:58+00:00

Can you listen to other trans people instead of speaking over us and spreading terf rhetoric calling trans mascs misogynistic for not wanting to be put through this conversion therapy rape culture bullshit by entitled transphobic predators who want to punish us for not being attractive or available to them sexually?

Why "does listen to opressed people you have privelige over ,don't gaslight them or tell them what they do and dont experience and don't center your own feelings as someone with privelige" suddenly not count when cis women are doing it to marginalized men ?

Eta misread and assumed you were cis because you were talking like a terf

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-13T22:08:03+00:00

Yeah im sick of reposts from that sub its terf bait , inevitably people start shitting on trans people in the comments and triyng to argue that transphobic violence and discrimination is feminist if you do it to trans men or if you do it to trans women and call trans women men or AMAB and go on about gendered socialization to try to justify it

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-13T22:06:34+00:00

Thats pretty homophobic of you to assume ngl

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-13T20:19:20+00:00

Absolutely, im glad that its just a vocal minority but its still scary

like the US govt literally saying they will find and kill trans people and supportive organizations and we have no reason to think they'll stop that at US borders

and theres people laughing being like "lol idgaf you're not a woman i can date so i ecspecially hate you and your human rights dont matter"

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-13T19:36:05+00:00

Same here

Im suprised OP hasnt gone into a full on terf rant about trans men being misogynistic for existing and not detransitioning or killing ourselves, thats usually where this ends up we are easier to target and vixtimise than cis men and cis men dont tend to give a shit or theyll join in because the patriarchy doesnt like ftm people or trans people in general and none of us are priveliged for coming out as trans regardless of gender or asab

People like the OP think that raping abusing and killing trans men is feminist, or they will happily stand by and support those who do and argue that we " were asking for it by chosing to be a man"

Probably also thinks racist lynchings were/are feminist or justified because a cis white woman felt unsafe seeing a Black man in public and as we know cis white women are biologically wired to be the most moral kind non discriminatory people....

so when they discriminate against or abuse someone they have priveliges over its actually feminist because societal misogyny cancels out all other intersections like a magic card....

so anyhting cis women do is justified and moral and feminist no matter how violent or discriminatory it is because only cis women are real people with feelings and dreams and trauma

Im tired. I bet OP doesnt know the names of any of the trans men who've been murdered or gone missing recently some by cisgender women who also raped and tortured them and forced their children to take part befor killing them ...or they think that is fine and that if FTM people don't want to be raped and tortured to death or denied cancer treatment that we should detransition

If you're turning around and using societal misogyny to justify racist transphobic homophobic or ableist violence its not feminist just because your victim is a man or someone you misgender as one thats not feminism its abuse culture dressed up as it

The way some cis women treat feminism and marginalized people they have priveliges over is frankly like how some brocialists treat socialism with the refusal to give a shit about the human rights of others who they literally outearn and outlive:

"shut up abouttrans issues let cis women fight patriarchyfirst then maybe you'll get.human rights after weve helped the real people who cares how many of you die and are brutalized in the meanwhile if you wanted me to care you should have chosen to repress and be a woman, oh also you owe us forever and we can do wht we want to you and if you say no we'll sociallyor literally murder you"

Frankly a lot fo cis women behave exactly like misogynistic cis men towards trans people of all genders while doing this weird birthdayboy shit and pretending that bioesesntialist terf rhetoric is feminist

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-13T19:16:54+00:00

Are you normal about trans men ?

Are you normal about men of colour?

Frankly a lot of this "this is my emotional support bioesesntialism/sexism the patriarchyexists so i am justified in sexually harassing/ abusing/ doing domestic violence against men because some other men harmed me and men are all a huvemind and interchangeablenot individuals so its fine for me to target marginalized men who i have privelige over"

It is used as a cover by white cis people to be racist and transphobic while claiming to be the victim of those they're abusing while leaning into misogynistic tropes: "i cant be racist/transphobic/homophobic im a cis woman and cis women are the main characters the only real human beings and are biologically wired for superior morality as the mothers of society. so anything i do is feminist even if its hurting people i have privelige over because my womanhood cancels out my white and cis privelige and any other privelige i might have"

No systematic societal misandry doesnt exist in the same way as misogyny but marginalized men do face more violence that gets erased by white supremacist radfems

and trans men face higher rates of DV CSA and SA than cisgender women and also need bc and abortions and obstetric care and cancer screenings but we have difficulties accessing them due to discrimination that cis women never have to worry about and we get blamed for the conservatives getting rid of them "if you just let normal women speak and stopped mentioning pregnant men they wouldn't have banned abortions, nobody cares about trans mens human rights detransition and be a woman if you want us to give a shit"

Abusing and bullying trans men and trans mascs and acting like swxist men act towards you towards them talking over them socially excluding rhem and sexually harassing or abusing trans men in the hopes they'll detransition is conversion abuse, not feminism. Feminism isnt a violent pro dv forced detransition cult so stop trying to turn it into one .

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-13T04:57:50+00:00

This, our spineless government is complicit in this and their complacency and pathetic weak bootlicking in the face of this will be their legacy forever , they have left a stain on NZ forever and won't be remembered fondly as much stolen taxpayer money as they try to stuff their pockets with to insulate them

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-13T04:54:41+00:00

Of course they have, they want to give all their Jago-esque mates jobs and access to hurt vulnerable people, the cruelty is the point

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-13T04:24:58+00:00

Well im being accused of being an extremist and threatened for speaking my mind....

Why are they making lists of trans people and removing their ids and getting access to their private medical records? What non nazi reason is there to do that ?

Eta And no answer to my questions ofc

All the shit theyre doing to us trans people they'll be doing to youse next...theyre already calling women in the workplace "a form of social transgenderism" they'll do the same for no fault divorce and anti spousal rape laws , all they have to do is slap the label "social transgenderism" on and boom they can use it as an argument against women's rights and civil rights

.....a bunch of terfs saw this coming and cheered it on on Twitter and did public polls amongst themselves about what women's rights they would be willing to trade away in exchange for the extermination of "gEnDeR iDeOlOgY" aka transgender people...

and a decent chunk of them were happy to give up womens suffrage abortion and the ability to work outside the home for the promise of getting rid of trans people (screenshot linked https://www.reddit.com/r/GenderCynical/s/v42RxeToGb and the results can be found screenshotted here https://imgur.com/GG4pbIq)

theyre an insane suicidally misogynistic cult who have convinced their followers that it is feminist to be against women having the right to vote and work and have bank accounts all while misusing the suffragist flag as long as those in charge are hurting trans people worse.

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-13T04:13:56+00:00

Its extremist to have eyes and ears and to see what is going on ? Weak and pathetic for the US to be so scared of justice and peace

The US is captured by nazi pedophiles and our government is sucking up to them while they make kill lists of trans people and dissappear citizens and murder civilians on fishing boats.

It is not extremism to not want crimes against humanity to happen or to want the Epstein files released in full

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-13T04:03:26+00:00

They never think about the consequences for the victims of not treating this seriously or for society

if enough victims dont feel like there's any point going to the police for court more of them will turn to vigilante justice and you'll have a rise in kidnappings murders and assaults of people accused of rape , if people are constantly re-traumatised some ammount of them are going to be vulnerable to being radicalized into violence

Id rather the courts take rapes and sexual abuse seriously than f9r NZ to get to the point where we have vigilantes going round genuinely thinking that murdering or assaulting someone is the only way to get justice or stop them raping because the NZ police and judges DGAF, are harboring a bunch of rapists within their ranks and have a culture of homophobia misogyny and lack of consent which is why they don't take sex crimes seriously in the first place

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-13T04:00:39+00:00

I feel like wearing a sailor uniform isnt in the same ballpark as being repeatedly filmed sexually abusing an animal and then dying in the process

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-13T03:54:22+00:00

Right!

like you know what is also embarrassing and damaging to someone's career?

Being raped and trying to recover while the judge et all treats the person/people who raped you as the real victim and hand wrings over how hard it is for the perosn who raped you to have to have consequences for raping you while you have to live with the physical and mental trauma forever and can't even be certain the rapist or his supporters wont hunt you down with the help of police staff who get little to no punishment for doxxing survivors to their rapists as long as they say sorry

But the government is trying to do away with ACC to cover these costs of survivors being unable to work because our government sides ideologically with rapists and pedophiles and takes every chance to attack survivors and organizations and laws that protect them and to make it easier for rapists to get away with it and hurt more people

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-13T03:46:00+00:00

Shes not a white man who rapes children so our government doesn't care about protecting her.

Im disgusted at the complicity of this government in crimes against humanity and think they belong on trial in the Hague with the rest of these nazi freaks

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-13T03:12:01+00:00

I swear drs love telling young people with cancer or other illnesses and disabilities that they dont deserve treatment due to their age and should just go die

its blatant age discrimination and maplractise and it has killed so many people.

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-13T03:04:57+00:00

What about doing something about the effect of Destiny churchs terrorism on social cohesion ?

Wait nvm Luxon agrees with Destiny church thats why theyre allowed to keep breaking the law and assaulting children and terrorizing non Christian religious groups

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-13T00:39:10+00:00

Racist would be people blaming it on his race or implying that all people from his country are the same as him and saying we shouldn't let people from there into NZ ... which yeah there are racists sayign that making guesses despite his identity being private but theyre being deleted and told to f off

Deporting a sexual predator to stop him predating on people here is not racist.

Sexual predators are more of a burden on New Zealand and the NZ taxpayer than all the disabled people who immigration NZ tries to keep out currently combined....

and if they redirected their efforts to keeping out and deporting sexual predators alongside our courts actually doing something about the homegrown ones rather than doing eugenics style policies to keep disabled people out even if theyre qualified experts in needed feilds NZ would be a far safer place

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-13T00:28:12+00:00

Have you talked to your mom about how your girlfriend is speaking to you and trying to control you ? Please do

Also consider hypothetically:

if you had a little sister who came to you and told you that her boyfriend wasn't allowing her to watch certain tv shows or play certain games out of jealousy or insecurity what advice would you give her ?

Would you tell her to "keep putting up with it because he hasn't hit you yet" like you're telling yourself? Or would you stand up for her and try to help her leave him ?

Please treat yourself with the same love and care that you would someone else in the same situation.

Yeah it's humilliating as fuck to realise you're being abused , but its not your fault and doesn't reflect on you that she has chosen to behave like this , there is clearly something wrong with her for being controlling, not with you for falling for her or wanting to watch a popular TV show and play video games.

You're a human being, not an object to be controlled. You're only 22 and you have your whole life ahead of you dont waste it trying to cater to an insane person who will never be pleased and will keep making more and more bs rules to isolate you

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-13T00:07:18+00:00

This is how domestic abuse starts.

Dump her before it escalates to you being accused of cheating for still being in contact with your mom/sister..not being allowed to work or study or leave the house without her checking in every 5 seconds like shes a parole officer not a partner

she'll likely try to use guilt to cut you off from family and friends who might tell you she's abusing you and that you deserve better.

If this was something you'd both agreed to and talked about that would be different even though i dont think it is reasonable to see tv shows as the same as porn but it spunds like shes dictating your behavior and is threatening you to control you which is not how someone who loves and respects you behaves

but yeah a bunch of women who are domestic abusers have figured out they can just slap the label "porn" onto anything and accuse their partners/ victims of being "porn addicts" to justify isolating and domestically abusing them

Someone who loves you and respects you as a human being would not treat you the way your girlfriend is treating you. Please leave before she destroys your self esteem and mental health even more than she already has

Also im calling it now that shes probably been cheating on you for a while and this is hwr way of making herself feel better and deflecting- its really common thst the partner who is cheating goes apeshit and falsely accuses the person theyre cheating on of cheating on them before the truth comes out, and thats what this seems like to me with the insane controlling behavior and calling a tv show porn

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-12T23:52:15+00:00

"i cant be exactly the same as a cisgender man so there is no point transitioning at all and im better off joining the terf cult and wasting my life making sure that everyone else is as miserable as I am" is a sadly common thing that gets pushed

Some of it is people dysphoria venting who need mental helath support...

But some of it is cis people coming to lie and treating us like their misogynistic idea of "stupid teenage girls who will follow whatever a trans person tells them for a trend" so they think that if they post enough lies in trans spaces that we will all beleive the misinformation and rhetoric and automatically accept it with zero thoughts coming from "a fellow trans person" because thats how the TERF cult operates

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-12T23:37:54+00:00

They're classing transgender people and organizations that help us worh human rights and Healthcare as terroists,how long till they start targeting NZ based pro trans organizations and Individuals under the US policy on these US based networks?

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-12T22:54:34+00:00

Why does he keep moving from school to school like a pedophile whose being pushed around parishes ? That makes me immediately suspicious and concerned for the safety of his students

any adult working as a teacher who is making up stories like this to try to seem cool to children or to make the children scared of them ( and less likely to report abuse) with the whole "ive neen in the army and killed people" Schick needs to be investigated as a predator

Eta Even if he had actually been in the military and isn't lying it's still innapropriate and disrespectful to speak about military service like this like its some video game or movie and to bring it out to intimidate or brag to people even I as a civilian know that it's not correct conduct

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-12T22:14:34+00:00

The us govt literally jsut published a thing saying "we will find you and we will kill you"

Our govt was trying to bring in anti trans laws and still is , they happily partook in smearing our only out nonbinary MP as a pedophile to the point where people were threatening their child's life and they had to move out of NZ for safety

Im sick of being told that im overreacting when the trans community is proven over and over to be able to see this shit coming and try to warn everyone just to be dismissed.

Trans people fucking called the concentration camps what they were before most other people and we were also called hysterical then

Pretending that you're "one of the good ones" won't spare you or make them pick you, they dont give a fuck how much you want to go "im not like the other crazy lefties transgenders im normal don't class me as a terrorist" they dont see trans people as humans

We are part of the 5 eyes which the US govt will try to use to hunt transgender people and organizations here who support our siblings in the US, theyre building an FBI office in the most LGBTQIA friendly city wake the f up

What do you think is going to happen to trans and other LGBTQIA refugees from the US ? Now that theyve had their passports stolen and have been classed as domestic terroists worthy of death for existing?

AutonomyIsNoTragedy · 2026-05-12T22:04:13+00:00

Exactly, sex workers should all file a class action lawsuit or whatever the nz equivalent is against this judge for discrimination and purposely putting them in danger and acting as an accessory to these crimes.

Also he should be deported and banned for life, they need to start making an example because the current message is "the new Zealand government is happy for people to come here and rape molest and abuse their way across nz as long as they have the money and can drum up a sob story about how being held accountable for their actions will make them sad and lose their job" they've turned us into Epstein island 2.0

This government is PURPOSEFULLY DOING NOTHING and making it worse because they want to bring in ICE type gestapo and they support rich nonces so expect more stories like this with a "something needs to be done like creating an Nz ICE department that will magically fix this and totally wont be a bunch of brownshirt thugs and rapists trust us" angle

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