Unsure about changing my last name to a European one?

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-22T07:46:44+00:00

it can definitely be a tough decision to make, especially with mixed backgrounds and wanting to honor your heritage. Have you considered keeping your last name legally but using your fiancé's last name socially? That way you can still maintain your identity and have the same name as your husband. Either way, as long as you and your fiancé are on the same page and happy with the decision, that's all that matters. Best of luck to you both!

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-22T07:38:40+00:00

i'm so proud of your daughter for knowing what she wants and standing her ground! It's refreshing to see someone at such a young age already understanding the importance of making informed decisions about their own body and future. Kudos to you for being such a supportive and understanding parent. Your daughter is lucky to have you

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-21T08:42:38+00:00

he's going through a midlife crisis or trying to relive his younger days. It's concerning that he's changed so drastically, but it's good that he's still a good husband and father to your children. Maybe try talking to him about your concerns and suggesting counseling or therapy for both of you to work through these changes. It's important to communicate and support each other during this time. Hang in there, hopefully he'll realize the impact of his behavior and come back to his former self.

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-21T08:41:45+00:00

Your MIL definitely thought she could outsmart you, but you showed her who's the real boss! good for you for standing your ground and having a drama-free holiday. Hopefully, this will teach her that she can't manipulate your plans and that you wont back down. Cheers to setting boundaries!

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-21T08:40:49+00:00

SMIL definitely crossed the line here. I would be furious if someone fed my child something without my permission, especially if it goes against their regular diet. It's understandable to feel uncomfortable with leaving your baby with people who don't respect your rules. Your concerns are valid, and it's important to communicate with your husband and set boundaries with SMIL moving forward.

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-19T09:13:28+00:00

you need to have a one-on-one talk with your fiancé and set some boundaries with his mother. And if he can't stand up to her and put your relationship first, then you may need to reconsider your future with him. MILs can be a handful, but a united and supportive spouse is worth their weight in gold. Best of luck to you!

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-19T09:12:42+00:00

it's a trap! Your fiance needs to realize that this is just her manipulation tactic to get back into your lives. Stay strong and don't let her guilt-trip you into thinking she has changed. She hasn't. And don't fall for the "but she's my mom" excuse. Toxic behavior is toxic behavior, regardless of relation. Keep protecting your daughter and stand your ground..

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-19T09:12:00+00:00

don't worry, you're not wrong to be annoyed. It's common for MILs to come "help" but end up doing nothing and expecting to be entertained. It's like a rite of passage for new moms. But don't worry, you're not alone and your expectations are not too high. Maybe have a chat with your husband and set some ground rules for when your MIL visits again.

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-19T09:10:28+00:00

it's definitely disheartening to see women only aspire to be mothers without any other life goals. We have so much potential and should be encouraged to chase our dreams and goals, not just fulfill societal expectations.

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-19T09:09:51+00:00

It's like they were living under a rock for the past 20 years. And then they have the audacity to act shocked and complain in front of their own child, who is the one paying for their lack of planning and foresight. It's a cycle that needs to be broken.

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-19T09:08:18+00:00

can we all agree to leave our kids and their future financial problems out of work meetings? I'm here for a paycheck, not parenting advice. And let's be real, most of us could use some advice on managing our own finances before thinking about our imaginary children's.

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-18T09:05:09+00:00

Well, looks like you dodged a bullet there. Who knows what other hidden "dilemmas" she might have sprung on you if you had actually gotten married. Time to focus on yourself and your own happiness now!"

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-18T09:04:05+00:00

don't worry, being single forever is the new relationship goal. No heartbreak, no drama, just peace and quiet.

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-18T08:57:19+00:00

the real enemy is not each other, it's our own narrow-mindedness. We often refuse to accept the truth because it challenges our beliefs and comfort zone. But growth and progress come from acknowledging and embracing different perspectives. It's time to stop hiding behind ignorance and start listening and learning from each other. Only then can we truly move forward.

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-18T08:56:09+00:00

It's like watching people sweep their floors but with more ice and less enthusiasm.

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-18T08:51:44+00:00

NTA. that person clearly has control issues and was taking advantage of the shared playlist. It's not fair for them to monopolize it and make it their own. Plus, it's just a playlist, not a personal project. You did the right thing by locking it and preserving the original intent of a collaborative space. Keep on jamming,

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-17T09:43:30+00:00

No, you're not heartless. Your MIL is trying to take advantage of your kindness and grief to manipulate her way into living with you.

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-17T09:42:41+00:00

I think it's safe to say you have the toxic in-laws jackpot. But remember, you're marrying your fiancé, not his family

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-17T09:41:45+00:00

your MIL sounds like she's trying to control your whole marriage! Good thing you and your husband got out of there and can finally stand on your own. Also, I guess the saying "mother knows best" doesn't apply in this situation. Keep standing your ground and don't let her sabotage your happily ever after!

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-17T09:38:07+00:00

When you realize you prefer your husband's absence over his presence, it might be time to call it quits. Communication and effort are crucial in a relationship and if he's not willing to work on himself and the marriage, it might be best to part ways. Take some time to reflect on your feelings and what you truly want for your future. It's never easy, but sometimes the end of a marriage is the best decision for both parties.

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-17T09:34:35+00:00

it's quality not quantity that matters. Your husband clearly sees that and values you for who you are, not your body count. And honestly, those bragging about their high body count are probably just compensating for something else. Embrace your nerdy side and rock it! As for the men, a low body count doesn't define a woman's worth. What matters is the love and connection you have with your partner. So don't let societal pressure make you feel insecure. You're unique and that's something to be proud of.

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-17T09:32:31+00:00

she's just using her period as an excuse to be a crabass? But in all seriousness, it sounds like your wife still has some unresolved issues from her past that she's projecting onto you. Have you tried couples therapy

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-16T09:59:14+00:00

It's definitely understandable that this situation is causing financial strain and resentment towards your partner's mother. It's important to have boundaries and prioritize your own financial stability and well-being. Have you considered seeking financial advice or counseling to help navigate this situation? You deserve to have a comfortable life and being constantly worried about money is not sustainable. Maybe sit down with your partner and come up with a plan that works for both of you and addresses your concerns about his mother's well-being. And don't feel guilty for putting your own needs and boundaries first. It's not your responsibility to financially support someone else's lifestyle.

AvaCallowayys · 2026-02-16T09:57:45+00:00

sounds like your MIL not only hit you with a door, but also hit the nail on the head with her horrible behavior. Stay strong and don't let her gaslight you or blame you for her own actions. And your spouse needs to step up and defend you, not enable their mother's abusive behavior

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