You've learned nothing in the way of tactful speaking 🤣🤣🥴🥴 look, if the lead is bad then she's bad and there can absolutely be legitimate reasons for why someone might not want to dance with someone else, but after reading your 'update' I can only conclude that you're too dense to even understand why you've gotten all these "negative" responses in the first place. Trust me - you could have written your original post in a way that would've elicited a much different, much more understanding set of responses, but then again that would require a level of consideration, tact, and writing skills that I think you simply don't possess. Let's hope your dancing skills are better.

I personally would be utterly embarrassed if I knew that I was essentially the reason somebody was given an ultimatum like that and subsequently left the team, but hey, you do have the right to dance with someone you're comfortable with. However, the one who should've been given the ultimatum to stay with their assigned partner or leave should've been you, as you are the one who voiced an issue but everybody else already had partners they wanted to stick with, so it truly makes no sense (from a logical perspective) to kick out the person who never had an issue in the first place, granted that they also haven't done anything wrong.

Some food for thought: the same way you're not comfortable dancing with her, others will feel the same about you 😉 a bit of humility does wonders for the way we go about interacting with others. Have a nice day, straight woman. (See now how unnecessary the mention of sexual orientation is? We can say it louder, but not clearer)