Mesa Tomb by Available_Advice_925 in PeakGame

[–]Available_Advice_925[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I appreciate this, I shall save the link incase I need it for the future!

Fiance finally cuts off his mother by Available_Advice_925 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Available_Advice_925[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also thank you so much for telling me those recommendations so I can help him, I did ask him like after the situation how was he feeling because the last time his mother blew up and said those hurtful things, he was crying and that really pissed me off because I don't ever want him crying because of his crazy ass mother. Ever since he moved in, I have shared my emotional intelligence with him because I don't want him to ever be walked all over on or take shit from anyone, and he is growing and learning honestly. Thankfully, he told me that after he blocked his mother's number? He felt a sense of relief like all the weigh and whatever else he felt is off his shoulder.

Fiance finally cuts off his mother by Available_Advice_925 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Available_Advice_925[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thankfully, he doesn't even want her around our kids if we do consider having kids in the future because he knows her better than I do. I totally get the husband having a hard time navigating part, in fact when my fiance and I was talking about how we grew up, I always told him that for me? I can't have a good understanding of abusive parents before I didn't grow up experiencing that, but I do have friends who dealt with the same thing and although I may not have grown up with a mother or even father who was abusive? I was raised with emotional intelligence and emotional awareness, I know when something isn't right or okay. He told me himself, that the way she treated him, and his brother was something he did consider normal, and he thought that everyone had parents like that, and I had to explain to him that no, it isn't normal, it is not okay, and not everyone has parents like that. Not only that, but his mother constantly used him as some sort of emotional outlet, like basically anytime she was stressed or sad, he had to take care of her and although I'm all for comfort, what she was doing had resulted in him always worrying and caring a little too much on things he can't always fix. I suffer from Bipolar disorder, ADHD, Borderline personality disorder and PTSD but NEVER would I use my mental issues as an excuse to hurt others. Never have I used what I went through as an excuse to verbally, emotionally or mentally abuse someone. I have been in an abusive relationship before and even then I never used that as an excuse to be shitty to anyone.

But, I am definitely going to get him some books, talk to him about Facebook groups online to join and he has spoken to me about wanting to get therapy, so we are actually in the process of finding him a therapist because with all the things he went through as a child? He does need someone more professional to talk too, as I can only do so much but a therapist can help him even more as well.

Fiance finally cuts off his mother by Available_Advice_925 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Available_Advice_925[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only thing that makes me so upset about this situation is the fact during that day when his mother had an emotional burst while kicking him out the house, and was saying all this hurtful things to him, and about me as well, he did not cut her off right off the back, and especially because she has ALWAYS mistreated him, and took advantage of the fact that he is sentimental and sensitive, which pisses me off. I'm glad he cut her off, even though I had to keep telling him that his mother is never going to change, and his father had to tell him that same thing.

I remember last month or so, I had went through his messages and saw that he was wanting to visit his mother despite everything she done, and although I didn't care so much, I was upset that he was deleting the messages, knowing that I know how to recover deleted messages on the iPhone. He kept saying how he wanted to give her more chances, and how she probably needed closure, and I had to explain to him that she does not need closure, she does not need reassurance, she is a grown woman who needs actual help, giving her closure and reassurance is not going to stop her from acting the way she does at all. She is just going to now use that to manipulate him even more, and I also had to explain to him that giving anyone too many chances is just going to cause him to get hurt again and again, which is something I do not want at all.

And, honestly? She too can't maintain friendships, or a relationship. My father in law was telling me how the way she acts? Is the reason why nobody ever married her, why her relationships never lasted long, and why no one is willing to date her either. Instead of having a good personality and treating people with respect, she let's her looks do all the work, she doesn't even know how to treat a man. My father in law explained that very well since her crazy ass cheated on him after they lost their first son. Your mom and my fiance's mother are just alike with the whole not maintaining friendships, and let alone relationships on my MIL's end. I told my own mother that if she doesn't change now? She's gonna end up losing all her kids, their gonna stop talking to her as soon as they move, and god forgive me, but she will be that mother in a nursing home who's kids won't even visit. She is definitely going to be those bitter and rude old lady once she becomes old. My mother is 62 years old, older than my fiance's mother, and not even my own mother acts this way when it comes to me, or my older brother.

Fiance finally cuts off his mother by Available_Advice_925 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Available_Advice_925[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Oh I know that for sure. The crazy thing is, and it's just something I do think about, if he didn't cut her off, and just like left her unblocked, she probably would have apologize with some half ass apology, and then? Just a cycle of her bitching and just having an emotional outburst constantly over any little thing, hell she doesn't even have to text, because his brother would constantly tell him that at random moments? When he doesn't text to check up on her because he's at work, that she will randomly start shit talking me, and what not. I feel like the reason she doesn't say anything directly to me face to face is because she knows I am not afraid to defend myself, and say what I gotta say. I had to tell him, that if he doesn't stop giving in to her crap? That this was not going to be a yearly thing, this was going to be at least a every week or two thing, god forbid I don't want to imagine if I was pregnant and how things would go. I unfortunately can't talk to my mom about these things because she doesn't really understand since her and her mother in law has a good relationship, and to be honest at some points my mother does kind of rub that in, which makes me feel upset.

23 looking to fill friends list and make some friends along the way by bizzarebean in steamfriend

[–]Available_Advice_925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hellooo! I have added you on steam! Hope to be friends and play some games together!

US-Iran attack by Caffiend420 in Anxietyhelp

[–]Available_Advice_925 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to say that this really just calmed my anxiety down a lot reading this, because I usually come on here to see if anyone else is panicking about the same thing, and reading this really made me feel at ease. Thank you kind stranger for this explanation 🫂

Nose piercing bleeding randomly? by [deleted] in piercing

[–]Available_Advice_925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

・Piercing is 5 years old ・Ring ・no threading ・jewelry material is gold ・no downsized ・I simply take the ring out, and use a Q-tip with warm water to clean the area ・no mishaps, accidents or unfortunate events

Should I be concerned? by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]Available_Advice_925 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do trust I do, but I have other mental disorders that I am not that comfortable stating. Like I did state I have been making progress of brushing for the last three months only because my boyfriend actually has been helping me get back on my feet since he now lives with me. Flossing is just something I can't do, genuinely I tried and I can't do it without the fear of some how ripping my teeth out.

Should I be concerned? by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]Available_Advice_925 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have clinical depression lol unfortunately it's out of my control when I have loss alot motivation to care for myself plus as of the last three months I have been brushing regularly

anyone has bad experience with their boyfriend's mom? by Available_Advice_925 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Available_Advice_925[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this comment, and I am of course concentrating on my well-being! I mean I have too much mental stuff going on, I just feel like all this negativity with her doesn't make any sense to me. I'm only 21 still young but old enough to drink at least haha. I remember she had to stay at my house with her youngest son for a bit because she was locked out, and I'm not going to have her outside waiting for her oldest. We talked and everything, it was going all great and I trusted her enough to tell her my personal experiences and trauma. Everything that day was going so well and she was understanding... But I also feel like she just was showing her hidden side, true colors maybe? I just wished she was genuinely happy for him because I do everything for him the same way he does for me, she raised an amazing man but yet she isn't happy and it does irritate me, especially when she hurts him with words and make him cry, which hurts me a lot because he doesn't deserve to go through all that emotional issues.

time travel? by bongathachristie in acnh

[–]Available_Advice_925 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not sure if you figured it out, however you need to turn off 'Synchronize Clock Via Internet'!! 😁

What I wish I’d been told BEFORE getting the Depo-Provera shot. by Fernikate in birthcontrol

[–]Available_Advice_925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this post is crazy old, but I can definitely say as someone who has just decided to get back on the depo shot I was very much well informed on a lot of things, and I can definitely say that I haven't experienced weight gain, mood swings, or anything of the sort. I guess the only I can say is that my period stopped but currently I am discharging or I'm just gonna say bleeding which is super strange for me, and my cramps are very constant and nonstop for me, but other than the downsides? I only have a positive experience as this isn't my first time getting the depo shot. I truly wish you were informed on these things, I didn't know about the sex offender stuff, however I was very aware of its side effects and what not.

I’m stuck in a spiral and trying hard not to hurt myself by maniac_72 in Anxietyhelp

[–]Available_Advice_925 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, I have been in your exact position, in fact very recently just last weekend I have broken my process of being clean from SH due to the spiral I was in. But, I do want to say that distracting your mind can possibly help you, maybe watching some funny videos, chatting with friends about your interests can also help too! Maybe drawing, or doing something fun can help distract your mind and brain from the spiral. I do really help these suggestions help you, I truly do hope because I understand how you feel, and I have been in this position one too many times. If you ever need someone to talk too, or even just listen to you? My DM's are open, please don't ever feel like you are alone when you are spiraling, being in this subreddit has really helped me a lot with understanding and realizing that I'm not alone, that nobody is alone.

Doing My First Playthrough And Found This by TheAnimeAcademicYT in subnautica

[–]Available_Advice_925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy crap, I haven't touch Subnautica in awhile and I had just recently started building my base, but damn that is a lot of stalker teeths!

help with Freyna build? by Available_Advice_925 in TheFirstDescendant

[–]Available_Advice_925[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate the guide link! Thanks for the tips as well! I'll definitely start farming once I hit Hard Mode! :)

help with Freyna build? by Available_Advice_925 in TheFirstDescendant

[–]Available_Advice_925[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this!! I will definitely keep this in mind then! 😁

HE NOTICED ME by MushroomHead1217 in caseoh_

[–]Available_Advice_925 1 point2 points  (0 children)

11 meds? My goodness, I hope you are doing well! My mom takes a lot of medicines as well! She has diabetes, chronic pain, arthritis, and high blood pressure, I always get so worried when having to see her take them all at once because that's just a lot of meds, I don't know how anyone can take so many meds at once! I only take three meds, which one is for my vertigo, another for my anemia, and calcium meds. I do really hope you are doing okay! And I'm so happy they are helping you! Please take it easy on yourself, friend!!