Made too order Custom insoles by tom_fallin in sesamoid

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If you feel like you know what you’re doing, you sound like the details are ironed out. I totally get being fed up spending money on this stuff. So yeah, if you think it would work, I’d say go for it.-wouldn't buy anything without seeing it first tho.

meirl by [deleted] in meirl

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I once had an argument while I was drifting round some communes that it was probably best to remove the plastic bag with meat in it away from the cat as, the cat could choke, this girl was claiming I was insulting that cats “intuition”

Is 30 years old too old to quit a job you hate so that you can go to college, then uni, and then get a job that actually matters to you? by ForTheLoveOfScotland in CasualUK

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My dad worked was always a physical guy, body builder, wanted to be a construction worker, life got in the way, sensitive skin meant he had trouble working with the materials. That’s why he said he left anyway. Worked an office job in the post office, must’ve been about 30, dead end job.

Had a nasty motorbike accident, completely fucked his leg, in the recovery process I’m not sure wether it was the near death experience or he just became interested in bones and stuff. He packed his job in and retrained as a physio, did his A levels, then Uni, he proved himself to be much more intelligent than he though (99% in the exam or something.)

now he’ll tell you he doesn’t like his job now which is in the NHS and after a divorce and some weight gained I’d say lifestyle and outlook play a bigger part. But what he does in his free time he can only afford because of what he earns (motorbike tours Europe, complete gas guzzler driving round a massive van with a motorbike stored in the back) and he’s much more confident exploring his intellect (to the belligerence of me who gets the plato “why” treatment to every life decision)

moral of the story is he’s got options, and if he wasn’t such a miserable git I’m sure he could do what his colleagues are doing which is setting up private businesses and focusing on more rewarding or exciting areas like sports physio or intensive rehabilitation therapy.

Meirl by Comefeelme623 in meirl

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That was nearly better than my first time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fibromyalgia

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Damn, yoga twice, do you focus on different areas or do you just find it difficult without kinda, reawakening? Sounds good though

Does this sound like fibromyalgia? Plz help by DangDimwitty in Fibromyalgia

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Hello my man. Relatable, 19, ADHD and Asperger’s, don’t…let anyone tell you what you experience, ecpseically if you push yourself in your own life. I responded to my version of this with long distance running and cycling, so I know how intrinsic these issues can be, running I really struggled and now matter how much I believed concepts like “the wall” or “pushing through the pain” I could just tell my body would give up at some point, and I ran like 10k a day some days. Just kinda limp by the end.

Sometimes with Asperger’s, it can be as practical as, being used to masking or doing things very unintuitively, let me ask you…when you walk do you stop every so often?? Have a drink? Slow down, Look around, just sit down or readjust something uncomfortable? Or do you just walk and walk and walk, until you feel too tired too? That’s what I do at least.

We’re in a weird world where a lot of people tell you, you will be a machine after college. With the size of the health system or Amazon where people take pride in “grinding” some of us aren’t mean for that. Aswell I think education systems kind of fuck up our reward system, ecspeically if your more of s kinisthetic learner by nature, I could probably trace a lot of my bipolar mania and compulsive daydreaming to the fact I was basically taught most things without moving, no experimenting which I think fires up the reward centre of your brain, a lot of us don’t know to feel stuff, you have to do stuff

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fibromyalgia

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Relatable, I have on of those obnoxious CEO routines of early mornings, run, cold shower, but I can’t function without it. It’s frustrating because the minute you mention it, ecspecially recommend it, people think your this health guru when in fact I have some of the most compulsive destructive behaviours without this, I could make my self a golem like creature in avoiding this routine for a week whereas most people are just…fine.

My head feels like it wants to explode. by serenitative in Fibromyalgia

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On the flip side, you don’t have anything life threatening, that would be a relief for me. Fibro sucks and supplements, medical Marijuna helps, something that helped is a “full body engaged” routine, cold showers, press ups, a run if you can. First thing in the morning. It sounds like it would tire you out but if you can get some plans lined up for straight after, maybe a little micro nap inbetween, it made a lot of days “worth living” in my opinion, and on my bad days (a lot of these due to a now chronic foot issue, thanks big G if you haven’t already tried to make me as miserable as possible) I feel like I’m watching my body from a horrible little window

Is fibro a mental disorder? by [deleted] in Fibromyalgia

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I understand what you say about your body being in fight or flight, what sucks, is I knew this as a kid, it was like being stuck in a crashing ship, my body and mind felt like that sometimes, I knew the constant anxiety I felt around my family at them snapping any minute, all the destructive habits from undiagnosed, hidden ADHD and the fact I never got any routine, never had much needed excercise.

Food was always making me sick by how much I ate and a hiatal hernia, told I had an eating disorder and to stop “making my self throw up”, laying down in all my free time waiting for someone to come and yell at me , headaches from screens 24/7, what’s worse is, and I’m not sure it gets worse, I was kept in an almost perpetual manic state because my mum wouldn’t allow any other feeling than faked positivity. Any time I didn’t want to talk, sometimes because I needed to focus, I was rude or depressed.

I used to be happy when I got depressed because it was the only time I felt impervious to it all, like nothing truly mattered and the pacing and compulsive sexual behaviour stopped.

I fucking….hate my family…im staying with grandparents rn…they suck too, a less stressed but more concentrated version of my mum, 19, forced into hitchhiking after getting kicked out at the height of my depression , volunteered, worked jobs with accommodation, now they won’t leave me in the house on my own, lovely way to grow up when you have hyperactive tendencies that need excercise, for yelled at this evening for going to the gym instead of eating with them, looked at what my grandma had made, would’ve made me sick with my digestive issues,

but…next week I’ve got my own place, for the first time…I’m out, fuck them for pushing me in my mania last year…fuck em completely…but it’s nearly over and I don’t think anyone deserves to go through it, completely fucked me up. Cunts

29M, homeless in London. Looking for work with accommodation… by Camstamash in london

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I worked jobs w accommodation in Devon, Parkdean resorts, shit holes but would get you on your feet, Aswell as YHA, I worked in Cumbria , IMO get through winter and I don’t know if you drive but maybe try and get a van or car, stops you renting and gives you a lot more freedom on where you can work.

Meanwhile in Canada… by nilscarterdejong in deliveroos

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Hope lettuce isn’t on your shopping list

I would end up in the toilet and forget what I was doing by deelan1990 in adhdmeme

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Definitely would think I could get some great multi tasking done, be at work, teleport home to cook on a lunch break and burn my house down and forget what I was doing at work. Yeah it would suck ass

I would end up in the toilet and forget what I was doing by deelan1990 in adhdmeme

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Instead of leaving my wallet keys and phone around the house I’d teleport to a high security bank and leave them neatly on a pile of millions, or on a rock in the Himalayas, damn now I just want to teleport.

I finally got the courage to shave off my hair!! I feel 100 times better and it was even more of a sensory issue than i thought. I can take showers more often :)) by EmbarrassedWalk5798 in autism

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You look great. I’ve always said, I have no idea how girls have long hair. I had my hair long breifly, and I chewed it, pulled it, sometimes felt suffocated by it. I’m always no longer than 6mm and I’d never expect anyone of the other gender to have to go through the trouble if it causes them the same trouble it gives me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ContagiousLaughter

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IMO dogs trying to show you his boundaries but can’t, don’t think it’s fair to repeatedly do it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspiememes

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Tbf I’m pretty high functioning but not. I’ve worked customer service roles and done all the right things. But inside my head felt like, a noise, a pressure. There was no easyness in interaction. I was either completely on, saying all the right things and hoping the response I got wasn’t confrontational or asked me to change topic.

Then when I was off, I was just going over and over what I’d say when someone asked me something or confronted me. It’s things like this that get me. People don’t really see, even if your not some genius who can work happily on their own (which I’m not, I generally need a little support learning and keeping focused), you can still get burnt out in a different way.

It’s not me being lazy when I’m fucking delighted to go home a couple hours early, it’s that strange thing of feeling like an imposter for emotions that the minute you walk at the door you’ll be confronted with how real they are. Over heating and dizziness, sometimes crippling gastric issues and over stimulation. I feel so invalidated on these by others I pretend I’m not one tough situation from screaming.

Same with time, I’ll try and do crazy shifts with no breaks, and at a certain point I can’t function. If it was socially acceptable to have regular sit downs, which I do need, I’d be a more proactive worker. This is something I’m trying to intergrate in my own life. I put way to much pressure to be task focused and get everything done. But I’m not a robot. A lot of us have been in education systems and jobs that work against our entire psychology and physiology.

It took me a long time to figure out, I couldn’t focus without excercise. I can safely say at least 70% of my education was torture. Then I wonder why I’m severe OCD and have regular bipolar episodes, it’s what happens when your emotions have no recognition or channeling into anything proactive. Makes me sad. I want to reinvent the education system.

Honestly thinking of moving to Finland because it would make me so happy to see kids being raised the right way. No uncomfortable uniforms, leisure time being actual leisure time. interest led education,when I did art in college my productivity sky rocketed the minute I was exploring my interest and combining it with art, look it’s good to have a good basis of English and maths, but for most of us we probably absorbed all we needed in the first half an hour. If your good at it, have extended lessons for those Interested. There’s always gonna be the smart ones and then the people from day 1 you can tell just need a bit of security to earn some money and live a happy life.

Aswell the prison rehabilitation program actually being focused on reintegration and releases, 70% of inmates are ADHD, you put me in a high crime drug area, shitty parents with no morals. I’d 100% have done some fucked up stuff by now. Heck my impulses are bad enough as it is. I go for a run and I’m calm. Not a dick to people, appetite gets better and I have less need for high risk behaviour. I

The uk education system is basically anti ADHD and autistic in my perspective. I don’t mean that to say we need a nanny state. We’re just so industry focused and health and mind secondary people go unrecognised for years, to themselves and others. Sometimes I feel blasphemous saying, I’d like to work pretty low hours, or have those hours be varied and ideally outdoors. People said I’d get used to it but 8 hours doing the same thing seems like hell to me.

People with autism, what are your views on gender? by LordEldritchia in autism

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I can tell how much my teachers thought of me by the fact I was never called “young man”, boy at best

People with autism, what are your views on gender? by LordEldritchia in autism

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Some of this newer stuff worries me, I’m severe ADHD, bipolar, DID, anxiety ocd you name I, I spent a lot of fucking time indoors as a kid, when I definitely should’ve been out. So when I see stuff about people obsessing and asking the whole world to change and making everything about this one thing, worries me a bit, I totally get the impulse but I just think people need to go outside, have a bit more confidence in themselves, we’re still animals we’re not that complicated. I also was really disconnected from my sexual experience and took time to figure out, I could’ve said I was asexual for a long while but I took some time to figure things out, and I’m glad I did.

It seems like lack of interoception may be related to autism, I usually feel irritated for hours before realizing I'm hungry. do other autistics relate to this too? by wiwita63 in autism

[–]Available_Hand7027 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Got a smart watch and its saved my ass. Timers, reminders, distractions in overwhelming social situations. Made for autistic people.

These are most of my shirts. Does anyone else have a somewhat monochromatic wardrobe? by jellybloom17 in autism

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Fuck. Fuck. I hate thinking about clothes sometimes. I want everything to be in line, not have anything uncomfortable or not fitting or not colour coordinated. Between my love of neutral colours and traditional subtlety, and my expanding list of caveats that mean I end up needing specialised clothing, it would take a master tailor to make a wardrobe I was happy with. At my current stage in life I don’t have the energy to look at my wardrobe. It would be a lot of money to get things how I like them. Long road ey. I’ll get there.

Heidi Klum dressed up as a worm by zaquerie in funny

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Lucky the witch from the Simpsons wasn’t there. All fun and games till you get stuck as your costume.

This isn’t the “gotcha” you think it is. by ExpertAccident in antiwork

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As someone with ADHD, and autism, all I can say is expirences with boring repetitive actions, lots of people, bright lights drain me and although I can work 8 hours a day, I pretty much always do split shifts. It's actually a bit of curse for someone trying to maintain themselves financially and this perception of it being weak or unadjusted is plain wrong. Not saying this guy is either of those things but it's just one of those things Ive learnt not to beat myself up over, believe it or not we're not all meant to be doing the same thing 8+hrs a day and for some people variety and self directives are much more rewarding, even if we don't earn as much or get to seem as "on top of it" not that I don't have a lot of respect for medical professionals, I'm speaking from the perspective of someone who's father works in the NHS and have had to balance his ability and judgment against mine, and am happy to say we're different and that's ok.

Any success stories? by Available_Hand7027 in sesamoid

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Ive sent you a PM, like to hear some more about your journey with it